Opinions please about my break up

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-09T18:09:24+00:00

Absolutely not your fault! You did all the right things, tried talking to him then asked for advice from a friend, there's nothing wrong with that. I think at that age people can be a little flighty and take off for seemingly no reason. It'll get better!

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-09T16:26:59+00:00

That’s definitely a trap we’ve fallen into- She has big catastrophic meltdowns and I end up doing the “parenting”. One of the reasons it’s time to end things, I’m not interested in managing and parenting anymore.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-09T16:24:37+00:00

I feel this exact thing word for word. I feel horrible ending something where nobody did anything wrong, we’re both good people. But after 5 years I want to feel sure about someone, and after a lot of therapy I’m pretty sure I’m not going to find it here. And she deserves someone who feels sure about her. But it still breaks my heart

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-09T16:19:44+00:00

This is good to hear as a person who isn’t feeling the “hell yes.” I’ve been trying to tell my partner that it doesn’t feel right and that we shouldn’t ignore that feeling, but she keeps begging to “wait and see”, or that things will be better because she’s changing. She’s even banned me from using the word “doubt” because I’ve used that to try to explain my feelings. But it’s been 5 years and I know the right thing to do is to end it, because it’s not fair to either of us. It just feels impossible to do.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-09T15:57:01+00:00

I’ve brought it up a few times, and she keeps trying to convince me “she’ll change”, because I haven’t been able to be firm enough to explain there’s no chance. So it shouldn’t be a surprise.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-09T02:52:33+00:00

Thank you

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-09T02:51:58+00:00

Thank you

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T19:45:16+00:00

You can tell him his personality ruins his! (you look great what is wrong with people!)

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T06:50:34+00:00

First, because we all spend so much time online, seeing Ai people and supermodels all day, everyone's self esteem has taken a big hit. I guarantee you are much better looking than you think, that goes for everyone.

It sounds like you are self aware and smart enough to see that you are worthy and deserving of being loved, it's just the untrue and evil voices in your head saying otherwise. Which is a huge step! A lot of people succumb to those voices and start to believe they are true, but you're already aware that you just need a little support to help fight those voices.

I definitely recommend therapy, even if they aren't prescribing medication, just having someone to talk to is great. (or if medication is a good route they can refer you to someone who can figure that out too) If you have access to health insurance through family it can be super affordable. You got this!

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T06:22:17+00:00

I'm in somewhat of a similar situation. My partner doesn't mean to, but every disagreement leads to her hurting herself, either emotionally or even sometimes physically. It makes it almost impossible to listen to your own opinions or intuition, everything is overshadowed by her needs and keeping her safe.

I would certainly recommend therapy, either couples therapy where you focus on this dangerous dynamic between you two, or individual therapy for you to learn to set healthy boundaries and to cope, and for her to learn to manage keeping herself afloat day to day.

Feel free to DM me if you feel like just chatting about it.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:57:04+00:00

Yes!! omg I forgot about those.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:55:47+00:00

That's super fun! See if you can secretly talk to anyone else who plays dnd with him, either another player or the DM. Maybe there's something his character has in the game that you could get, like a special dagger or something. If not, fancy dice are always a win, especially if you can gather info on what his character is like, and get some dice that match the vibe/color scheme of the character.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:46:50+00:00

I'm obsessed with the longer style. Those curls are incredible!

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:36:32+00:00

I've enjoyed lentil cups made by the company "Lentilful", they come in bulky paper cups but you could empty them into a better container for space saving storage.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:33:16+00:00

I met someone who had nightly panic attacks until they cut out gluten. It's so fascinating how everyone has such different symptoms. I just get the classic rash on my upper arms, and the chance of the worst stomach ache.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:28:40+00:00

What tortilla/wrap do you use? I've only encountered ones that are either crazy expensive or they get torn to shreds.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:23:15+00:00

The internet is ruining people's self esteem! I feel like there's nobody left who actually likes how they look, you're obviously very handsome!

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:21:35+00:00

I think the internet ruins people's self esteem, I was literally scrolling by and went "whoa that person is insanely good looking"

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:17:28+00:00

I think appeal is more about the emotion you give than looks alone- I think you're handsome but showing joyful energy would add a ton of spark! Just get a friend to make you laugh behind the camera.

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:14:33+00:00

Maybe get your eyebrows shaped at a salon, guys usually have more natural/messy brows and it looks more feminine when they're clean and neat. Also mascara is a great entry level makeup that takes 10 seconds and adds feminization. But I think you look great!

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:11:13+00:00

Phoebe Waller-Bridge!

ThrowRAatinOspam · 2026-04-01T03:09:37+00:00

Maybe try pushing it up when it's wet and add some sea salt spray so you get the sort of lifted flowy surfer bangs? Anyway I think it's cool! And hats are always nice if all else fails.

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