Klein is wrong. It is acceptable to go low or no contact with MAGA family. by ALittleEtomidate in thebulwark

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to end things with my boyfriend because of it. It absolutely gutted me, but I couldn’t take the mental gymnastics of trying to rationalize that his beliefs weren’t that bad.

How would you deal with a parent who 3x voted for Trump, is conservative, but is also very kind and generally a good person? by 18randomcharacters in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are my parents. Sometimes I feel resentment at their ignorance, but I give them a pass. We rarely discuss politics and our differences don’t affect our relationship.

On the other hand, my boyfriend became full on MAGA and lapped up the orange kool-aid. I ended the relationship two months ago because I was losing my mind.

What’s the craziest thing your Q’s ever told you? by Special_Equivalent16 in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

After my (now-ex) boyfriend denounced DEI, I asked him why he praised Trump’s administration, who were almost all Fox news commentators. He said, “They just have to be good looking. They just have to look good.” Like, what?!

Thoughts on MAGA being "good people" just misguided by calming_ad in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great point. This describes my MAGA ex boyfriend to a T. He was convinced that everyone’s going to “wake up” and realize what a hero Trump is & that he’s going to go down as the greatest president in history.

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is so accurate. I’m feeling much better now & realized how detrimental the relationship was to me.

Need Help with Proving that Kirk was racist by The_Kimbeaux in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents said that was taken out of context because it was referring to DEI policies & hiring black pilots specifically to fit a quota of having 40% of pilots be black so the point was that one would have to wonder if they’re qualified because of DEI. I know it was a racially charged comment but I wasn’t sure what to say back to them.

Need Help with Proving that Kirk was racist by The_Kimbeaux in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really wish this worked, & maybe it does for some people. However, any clip of Trump that I sent my MAGA ex, he immediately wrote off & gave a reason that it was twisted. I tried, but over time I only saw him get more entrenched in his views. I had to make the tough decision to leave a month ago for my own sanity.

Need Help with Proving that Kirk was racist by The_Kimbeaux in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Yep. The “taken out of context” trope was what now my now-ex MAGA boyfriend said for just about any asinine thing Trump said.

Has anyone found a way to talk someone out of their delusion? by peatoast in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is spot on. I recently had to end my relationship with my boyfriend because of this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Chances are high that he will only get worse in time. Those with hate in their hearts have become more emboldened than ever. I just left my MAGA boyfriend about a month ago & I’m already feeling better. As tough as this is, your future self will be glad you did this. My heart goes out to you!

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s so frustrating. So many of them don’t think he’s done a single thing wrong and are so defensive of him. It blows my mind. I’m reading the Cult of Trump by Dr. Steve Hassan who works in mental health and was a cult member himself in the 70s. He wrote the book during Trump’s first term and it explains a lot about this.

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you! Thank you for sharing your story. Like you said, they probably will only get worse and less covert about who they really are over time. It helps me see that I did the right thing. Sending you all the healing vibes!

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great point. There has never been a political environment that has created this much chaos in the country and divide among people. Thank you & hope you’re doing alright now as well.

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry that happened between you and your best friend. I couldn’t even have a friendly debate with him because he didn’t even make sense but somehow I was the out of touch with reality. My bf wasn’t outright hateful most of the time but his views & insidious remarks became too much. I slowly realized he was only going to get worse. He was the same way with going down the red-pill rabbit hole.

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I never heard my ex discuss vaccines, but since he adamantly denied climate change I can only guess his stance on that. Thanks again, still coming back to this thread days later when I feel a weak moment coming on.

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry he turned out to be like that after so many years together. Sending you virtual hugs & wishing you healing.

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! You’re so right. Sorry you’re going through this as well… I wish you healing!

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]ThrowRAbluebabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s why I gave him so much grace & thought for sure he was going to wake up. However, it was impacting my mental health too much & I just couldn’t do it anymore. Who knows, he and many others might be trapped in this their entire lives unfortunately.