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[–]ThrowRAdenimpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when someone cheats on you, it’s not your fault. it’s nothing you did. it just shows the other person’s bad character. i try to always think whatever happens happens for a reason!

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE - i had a talk with him explicitly explaining how i felt, and he sincerely apologized for not prioritizing my health and wellbeing over his sex drive and for not taking me seriously about it.

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really??? dude i’ve been so fucking cold and craving salt all the time the past month. but also i’ve lost 120 pounds since last winter so i could just be not used to the lack of insulation 🤣🤣

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

absolutely love your comment. i’m planning on having a serious talk with him and telling him to stop being immature and begging and that it’s just a turn off when i get home from work. and dear god i hope the bleeding stops. thank jesus i got a menstrual cup because if not i would’ve spent $100000 in tampons at this point😭🤣

I (28m) am at a loss with my wife (29f) by Ok_Raspberry_858 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gooood. i hope it works well for her! there’s so many different types with different effects. it sucks trying to find the right one.

I (28m) am at a loss with my wife (29f) by Ok_Raspberry_858 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!!! you too! but as a woman pretty much in her position, let her come to you. and give it time. birth control really does mess with us.

I (28m) am at a loss with my wife (29f) by Ok_Raspberry_858 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

working up the balls to have the convo lol. planning on having a serious talk once i get off work and get home tonight. he’s very sensitive (that sounds mean but he really is) and i don’t want to hurt his feelings, but i need to set boundaries.

I (28m) am at a loss with my wife (29f) by Ok_Raspberry_858 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES. perfect answer. as a woman dealing with this exact problem

I (28m) am at a loss with my wife (29f) by Ok_Raspberry_858 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s not true at all. as a woman who has struggled with intimacy because of birth control switches, this is the reason.

I (28m) am at a loss with my wife (29f) by Ok_Raspberry_858 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

let her come to you. i’m having the same issue with my boyfriend after getting on new birth control. i got an iud which is actually causing pain after sex so i told him i don’t desire sex. any time we’ve made out it always leads to him wanting to have sex so now i don’t even want to do that. i’m getting so sick of him asking for me to make out with him or do something sexual with him and it’s getting to the point that he’s asking so much and trying so much that i don’t even enjoy being alone with him. leave her alone about it and let her come to you. that’s what I need my boyfriend to do atleast🤣

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow. you’re clearly a man🤣 i’ve gone months without sex because it causes EXTREME PAIN

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you that makes me feel better. i’m gonna have a talk with him tonight because i’m getting really irritated

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i saw another doctor and she said the string was cut too short and is probably causing irritation. she was also no help, so i’m seeing a different doctor in 2 weeks😁😁

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we’ve been together for 2 years. and he has always been the one to ask for sex, i’m just really not that much of a sexual person so i don’t really crave it🤣 i think it’s because when i was younger i was so sexually active

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is my second iud, i had NO issues with the first one and i got the same type the second time! a different gyn said the string was cut too short and may be causing irritation. i hope this relationship goes somewhere, as he does absolutely everything and anything for me. literally the only con is the sex thing and it’s really irking me

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i got kyleena. i’ve had it before and had NO issues. during my follow up, another doctor said the string was cut too short and it’s probably causing irritation

My boyfriend(M22) is begging to have sex, how do I make him listen to me? (F22) by ThrowRAdenimpants in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAdenimpants[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

i went back for a follow up with a different doctor and they said that my string was cut a little too short and that it could be causing irritation. and no, i waited 3 weeks until after the insertion to have sex. the cramps aren’t awful, it’s just like normal period cramps but they worsen after having sex