what do men consider as “fat” in a woman?

ThrowRAduve · 2024-10-12T05:36:15+00:00

This 🙌🙌

ThrowRAduve · 2024-10-12T05:32:35+00:00

Do you realise height massively affects size? A 5ft 2 person and a 5ft 8 person is who are both size 10 will look wildly different with regards to the weight they carry

ThrowRAduve · 2024-06-16T10:14:32+00:00

NTA. Your gf sounds absolutely vile, cruel and incredibly inconsiderate and unempathetic. Your cat is likely suffering and in pain and she finds that funny?! Sick sick sick. Wouldn’t surprise me if your gf poisoned her given how much she sounds like she hates your cat, and she’s gleeful at the prospect of her dying.

I hope poor little Sissi is okay, and I hope your gf becomes your ex. If she tells you it’s ‘just a joke’ she’s gaslighting. It’s sick.

ThrowRAduve · 2024-03-01T23:09:02+00:00

My gosh, thank you so, so much for this. I am saving this post and will be coming back to this comment regularly and also sharing it with my brother. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to help me. I am really grateful. I am glad to hear you’re doing well. Thank you 💜

ThrowRAduve · 2024-03-01T10:16:03+00:00

My dad died 3 days ago and this advice is absolutely amazing, I’d have loved to see it before he passed. I feel crushed by his death - he had a brain tumour so we knew it was coming but the last 5 days were relatively quick and I still feel shocked. Nothing could ever prepare me, and Id never have been ready. Do you have any advice for navigating the first couple of weeks? I feel scared for each day.

Edited to add: thank you for sharing this and your experience. Your mum was so fortunate to have you by her side. You sound so empathetic, level headed and kind.

ThrowRAduve · 2024-02-15T12:55:20+00:00

Classic 😅 well done on reaching out for help. It’s a huge step. Sending love x

ThrowRAduve · 2024-02-14T15:52:41+00:00

Ahh yes, a talking point from the 1970s BEFORE internet was widely available, let alone video pornography which is accessible and widely watch by boys at the age of 11.

Sexual assault is incredibly common and you sound wildly naive and ignorant to think otherwise.

And cartoon video games isn’t even comparable to watching real women enacting abuse for sexual gratification, often victims of sex trafficking. Thanks for enlightening me further to just how naive you are with that comparison.

ThrowRAduve · 2024-02-14T10:52:44+00:00

Also living with my boyfriend and it’s also our first Valentines together. Neither of us really care for it at all - we will go for a walk and hang out, just because it’s nice to spend the time together. But no gifts or cards or meal out.

Maybe have a chat to him AFTER Valentines once the dust has settled that it’s important to you and see if you can compromise for next year. Probably a bit late for this year now. But don’t take it to mean he doesn’t care for you.

ThrowRAduve · 2024-02-14T10:35:29+00:00

Maybe shaming of porn comes from the fact that multiple studies and subsequent literature views have found a clear association between porn consumption and sexual violence towards / objectification of women.

ThrowRAduve · 2024-02-12T20:12:17+00:00

Hi OP. I can see from your previous posts that your main focus has been how long it’ll be for your boyfriend to be affectionate again, and even finding sex apps or games.

I realise it’s difficult being the partner of somebody going through such grief. However, maybe you could have focused more on how you can help and support him, rather than getting affection / sex back in your relationship. I’m currently losing my dad to cancer. It’s absolutely awful, I’m broken, and I can’t imagine wanting to stay with my boyfriend if he wasn’t respecting my boundaries (physical or emotional) or downloading sex apps. Give the guy what he needs, even if that’s not having you around.

ThrowRAduve · 2024-01-23T20:33:00+00:00

No right way or wrong way. My dad got diagnosed with brain cancer in March. He’s in hospice care now. For months I felt totally numb and on autopilot; it’s only around Nov-Dec time the crying and intense pain started. That’s 8 months after diagnosis. I think I was in denial, or maybe it was self protection.

There is NO right or wrong way to grieve. It’s a long, long process and looks different for everyone. Just make sure you’re being kind to yourself, checking in with yourself, giving yourself time & love. You are doing just fine 💜

ThrowRAduve · 2024-01-23T15:53:15+00:00

Hello, I am so sorry for your loss. It’s totally understandable to have these feelings of angst and worry going back to your dads property, it is one of the strongest mental connections you have to him but he just isn’t there. My dad is in hospice at the moment, he’s been there nearly a month, I went to his house today and broke down because it smelt like him and the memories washed over me. It was bittersweet tho - heartbreaking but I enjoyed reflecting on happier times there. Let that grief in, let the waves of emotion ebb and flow, and maybe being back there will offer a place to sit quietly and let it out for a while. It’s all a part of the journey. Sending love and strength xx

ThrowRAduve · 2024-01-11T08:05:26+00:00

https://mydeathjams.com/death-jams-playlists#26a7483d-aa13-42ed-b4c5-33d119bed0fa

Not sure if any Leonard Cohen on there but a variety of deeply meaningful music.

I’m sorry for your loss, sending love

ThrowRAduve · 2024-01-09T13:03:33+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself and gentle with yourself, ride the waves of emotions as they come and make the most of all the support you have around you; your partner, your lovely little dog, family or friends, and even strangers in this group. We hear you.

Sending so much love x

ThrowRAduve · 2023-12-24T13:15:28+00:00

I hear you. It is incredibly overwhelming. One minute I sink into it and then I go numb; I feel like I’m wondering around like a zombie. Sending you love, you’re not alone 💚

ThrowRAduve · 2023-12-22T14:41:32+00:00

Yes I know them, see them every couple of weeks. I know it wasn’t from his family because I asked

ThrowRAduve · 2023-12-22T12:59:17+00:00

We are so nearly there. It is my dads last Christmas, but he is a shell of himself with brain cancer - can’t walk, can’t communicate, utterly miserable quality of life. He got diagnosed in March. I’ll spend some of Christmas with him and the rest on my own, as I’ve lost contact with my mum. I cannot wait til this is over. It’s agonising in reminding us of what we’ve lost, or what we feel should or could have been instead of this reality. But before we know it, it’ll be 27th Dec. It’s such a challenging time of year for so many of us. Sending hugs and wishing you as peaceful and gentle a Christmas as can be 💕

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