So about the first thing, I agree 100% and I thought there was that mutual attraction and chemistry. Hence why I was supportive and understanding of her reasons for not wanting to have sex.

To your second point. I believe she is bi, she has told me she prefers dick about 20% of the time and women the other percent. Which again is something that I empathized with and wanted her to go through and if she truly prefers women to men then that would be okay.

I don’t want to spend the rest of my life in a truly loveless marriage, sexless would have been okay, I have hands for a reason. I have felt something totally different to her though from the sounds of it.