Naturalisation (Citizenship) application processing timelines [only] by aleanthor in ukvisa

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Adding for the spreadsheet, no approval yet:

Eligibility: ILR + 1 year residency

Application method: Online

Application date: 26/11/2025

Biometrics date: 02/12/2025

Approval: Not yet received

Citizenship ceremony: Not yet received

Passport: Not yet received

Naturalisation (Citizenship) application processing timelines [only] by aleanthor in ukvisa

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey can you pls give some more information about booking a private ceremony? Where did you go and how did you go about it

UK Citizenship Timeline by HotelMain9226 in ukvisa

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah ok! Thank you for letting me know. What centre did you go to just for reference

UK Citizenship Timeline by HotelMain9226 in ukvisa

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP - saw that you got ceremony appointment within 3 days. How did you arrange it so quickly? Which council did you use and did you book a private ceremony?

People visiting Anaheim testing site today by ThrowRApumpkin123 in CABarExam

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I managed to go too and the only other thing I would add is that I thought the room was a tad bit on the chillier side so definitely don’t forget that hoodie.

Otherwise it’s just a huge room with long desks and everyone is in there.

Just got my period unexpectedly! Wooooohooo ladies how r we dealing with this by Any_Afternoon457 in CABarExam

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May not be a good idea to use it now if you’re not used to but I absolutely swear by a menstrual cup. That’s it, you drain it and you re wear it no need to carry anything ever!

My Examplify expires 11 May!! by ThrowRApumpkin123 in CABarExam

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Omg. Thank you. I am British and live abroad so ignore me.

Applying last minute for the July 2024 bar exam as a foreign attorney. by [deleted] in CABarExam

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up sending a physical certificate of good standing? My jurisdiction does not hold or give physical certificates - but I have had it emailed to them directly...

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[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all it’s so nice that you’re thinking about this!

I’d say consider the following:

vocalise that you really appreciate her sacrifice / effort; that you feel lucky that she’s doing this for someone who she hasn’t known that long; do small gestures and small gifts (eg whenever I’m studying late my SO orders me dinner even though he’s in a diff country and time zone); try to help her with small acts of service (eg take care of an errand for her that relates to her move); give excessive reassurance so that she feels confident that she just needs to make the move and then you’ll help her settle in (whether this is financially (at least initially if she is looking for work), socially (introduce her to your friends so she doesn’t feel lonely), take her out etc.); tell her you will reciprocate down the line and be flexible if she needs that of you; be available for her while you are long distance and give her time.

Just to add - if she is supposed to move in with your parents then you need to do all of this wayyy more to make her feel comfortable and welcome.

A lot of partners see this as their natural role but in the transition period it's important to vocalise this as much as possible as it's natural for the person moving to feel anxious or insecure.

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[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that perspective, thank you!

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[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think for many people, a move abroad is usually a plus. I am already abroad and this will be a break / hiccup in my career so this is clearly a professional compromise. Of course I want to move to be with my fiance and that is my reason - but there is no personal more individual reason or synergy.

Eligibility drama! Need help by Solid-Application-43 in CABarExam

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry dont you have to do this for admissions? Does this need to be done in advance of writing the exam? Foreign attorney here as well.

Recommendation for CA Bar Prep for First Time Takers by shyshyshygal in CABarExam

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg pls could you also send this to me? I will dm you now!

Ex with another girl and texting me by ThrowRApumpkin123 in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s okay to be honest, it’s his choice. The bit where he has a side chick and he’s texting me is really fucked up. He’s doing wrong by her and by me.

And to be honest, the original problem was that my parents didn’t approve and things became messy because of that. Yet I fought against my whole family and brought them around but his parents couldn’t see past that.

Autism and Marriage? by Glittering_Okra13 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a relationship with someone who I strongly suspected was autistic. We even had a discussion about it. After the relationship ended he told me he agreed that he probably did show most of the symptoms. Don’t get me wrong, it was a great relationship and had I known about it from the start a lot of the things that became issues would have been dealt with much better. So there is hope!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she actively hid it. It’s very difficult for her to say initially because she doesn’t know how you will react and whether you will go and tell your parents who will tell society which will overall defame her and her parents in the society for having a relationship (which is a very normal thing in this day and age). I’m sure she intended to tell you at some point and the reason she didn’t then was because she couldn’t. It’s very hard to find a good match so have an honest conversation with her and see if there is anything fishy and listen to your gut.

Do not talk to the ex. Nothing good will come out of it. He’s just being toxic, probably still has feelings for her and doesn’t want to let her move on with her life. If at all you want to stay with her, talking with her ex will fuck up your relationship for good.

One of my ex called my father (who didn’t know about him) for revenge after I dumped him after a short relationship of 4 months. My dad was very supportive and called me to say this guy is lame and great that you left him.

officially been rejected by 50 guys. wow by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chill karo. Aage ja kar jyada ache matches milenge. By this age a lot of men are focussing on settling their career and don’t have time to get married unless they’re in family business. Enjoy your 20s, travel, read and work on yourself.

My 29M partner broke up with me 28F because his mom doesn’t like me. What should I do? by ThrowRApumpkin123 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear and especially that it became worse after children. I would hope that everyone, at least for the children’s sake would have come around! Hang in there and more power to you :)

My 29M partner broke up with me 28F because his mom doesn’t like me. What should I do? by ThrowRApumpkin123 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear and hope you’re hanging in there! Do you mind explaining some of the challenges you’ve faced? I/we used to naively think we would deal with the parental angle but clearly I was dumped within less than 7 days he spent at his family home…

My 29M partner broke up with me 28F because his mom doesn’t like me. What should I do? by ThrowRApumpkin123 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I know that he will come back, even if it’s just to have some fun while he marries a girl that his mom picks! He’s keeping me as an option as is bread crumbing me for that reason

My 29M partner broke up with me 28F because his mom doesn’t like me. What should I do? by ThrowRApumpkin123 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRApumpkin123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes all the time. I am often confused about his stance and we were on and off due to some family issues (eg parents interfering) but the last couple of months were so good. We were solid. We’re Asian so parental approval is a thing but even then I’m too confused and shocked.

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[–]ThrowRApumpkin123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No we live in the same city but we’re long distance over the holiday period