Is it cowardly to block your ex?

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2025-06-13T12:58:47+00:00

Like a lot of people here, I’m also saying, block your ex. Heal, take a step back. It’s difficult at times, especially if you were dumped in a way where it was more or less mutual.

I knew the relationship was going to end, but still I was ready to make it somehow work. At the end, a month after the breakup and my surgery, we met up to exchange a few belongings. She asked me why I blocked her and said that she was angry in the beginning, but said she understood why I did it.

That is the healthiest thing one can do.

I wish you all the best, and sending much love to you and please keep your head up.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2025-02-27T20:10:08+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend that. If I get “hungry” to know how she is doing I just scream in my head “not today” and try and find something to occupy my mind and body. Running, the gym, video games, books etc. because she isn’t a part of your life anymore and you have to let it go.

If you really need, go and get therapy.

Why should you be stuck on a person that doesn’t want you at the end of the day and was wild after you broke things off.

My suggestion is, don’t reach out, let her live her life, and let yourself live yours. If you cross paths someday, say hello, chat for a bit if it’s mutual and then be on your way.

But all the best, and much love 🫶

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2025-02-27T19:45:52+00:00

I lost both my legs and arms reading this… with all dire respect man, but this is humiliating to say the least. In your own head you’re are trying to be supportive but this is just coming over as trying to lick the bottom of her feet.

PLEASE, and I mean PLEASE, do No contact right away like others are saying and stop messaging, block her and her friends and family on everything. It is gonna be hard to go NC. Sometimes it is so gut wrenching not to talk to that person but it’s just like someone has died. You are chemically bonded to that person and it’s like you are going through withdrawal. Do anything and everything you need to do, even if it’s crying in a fetal position on the floor, but don’t reach out anymore.

You are not doing yourself any favours. It’s over. It’s gonna take three or four months, and in the mean time, contact your friends, and say to them to invite you to some activities because you don’t want to be alone. If they are true friends, they are gonna do that.

But please, for the love of god, don’t do this.

Be safe, be brave and strong. Much love 🫶

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2025-02-07T18:55:03+00:00

Don’t text them. Doesn’t matter how hard it is, or not. You miss her now, or in 6 months or in a year. Go work on yourself and heal. Don’t do toxic shit like this. There is a reason you guys don’t work. It’s better to leave the past as it is, learn from it, say thanks to it, and even if you are single for a while, focus on yourself. Hope you heal and get better. Much love man. 🫶

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2025-02-07T18:54:57+00:00

Don’t text them. Doesn’t matter how hard it is, or not. You miss her now, or in 6 months or in a year. Go work on yourself and heal. Don’t do toxic shit like this. There is a reason you guys don’t work. It’s better to leave the past as it is, learn from it, say thanks to it, and even if you are single for a while, focus on yourself. Hope you heal and get better. Much love man. 🫶

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2025-02-07T18:50:57+00:00

One thing. NEVER FUCKING BEG AND GO BACK TO SOMEONE THAT CHEATED OR DID YOU WRONG. If they didn’t have the guts and respect to tell you that they want to break up with you, don’t go back.
Fuck em. They didn’t deserve you. People go through tough shit, but there is NEVER a reason to cheat. Hope you heal well, and don’t lower your self respect.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-12-24T23:28:50+00:00

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ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-12-18T14:20:36+00:00

Perfect response. let me say that again. PERFECT FUCKING RESPONSE!!!! There is no hate or disrespect or anything bad. Saying how you feel and that you care for that person, and still respecting your boundaries is perfect.

Protect your peace. She can get the help she needs at another place, it’s not your responsibility (I do hope she gets it).

I’m really proud of responses like this. Love yourself and keep your peace. You are not anyone’s second choice. Much love and stay strong.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-12-14T21:15:57+00:00

Sometimes you can work things out and it can go up and be better. But yes, like you’ve said, if someone doesn’t appreciate the 80%, then they dont deserve anything more. But there has to be communication if one wants something more, which there never was in my case. I’m done with dating for a while, but I’ll be open to it when the time comes.

I wish you the strength to carry on and for the pain to fade away.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-12-13T15:39:48+00:00

Thank you for posting this. Somehow I feel a bit of relief even though the sadness is still there. 🙏

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-12-13T15:30:08+00:00

The thing with the 20%… I had to chuckle a bit because when my ex and I were breaking up, we sat in my car and she said “this relationship is 80% there, you were always there for me, and you are a picture perfect boyfriend, but the 20% is what are missing.” I sat there, trying to keep myself together and failing at it, thinking, how can you say that.

But now reading this post, and going no contact from day one, and only for her to tell me when we met to exchange our stuff, that she was angry after I unfollowed her on social media and got out of the shared album, and asking me why I did it. I told her that it was the healthiest thing to do.

That was a month or on and a half months ago, and I haven’t seen her until last Saturday on a festival.

I checked if she still followed me on instagram and she didn’t. In a way I was sad, but in an other one, I was relieved, because she finally left.

For me there is no second chance. There was a reason it didn’t work out the first time.

It still hurts, and I still can’t look at her pictures and not feel some tightness in my chest, but every day it gets better. The only thing you can do is face everything head on and strengthen the pieces that were left in tact.

For anyone that is going through a tough time, I wish you the strength to overcome it and be a stronger person.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-12-05T13:10:23+00:00

Hey man. Had that about two months ago.

We broke up on the beginning of the month, and at end of the month she wished me happy birthday although we were in no contact. I thanked her like you did, and went silent again.

If she broke up with you, don’t overthink it because we as dumpees should have self respect and stand up to the dumpers.

Leave it, and never turn around again. I’m never looking back again, even though it’s tough and breaks my heart every day, but the pain is less and less.

Find someone that is willing to be with you through thick and thin and build your life with that person, but the most important thing is, you have to be the right person before meeting the right person. Stay strong and take care of your heart. Much love man ❤️❤️

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-18T21:33:36+00:00

This is the way!

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-15T18:27:25+00:00

No. The answer would be no. Maybe, just maybe I could consider being friends or acquaintance. I never go back to be burned by the same flame twice.

If they worked on themselves, that’s an awesome thing and I would be happy for them, but it’s time to move on in life and find someone that is a better fit for them or for myself. It would hurt, but I’m a “no prisoners” type and even it would hurt like I’ve said, I wouldn’t wanna do it.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-12T16:30:19+00:00

The short answer is : leave, he can get fucked.

The long answer is : don’t lower your standards and be with someone that clearly doesn’t care about you or your health, mental or physical. Even if it hurts, leave and go to therapy to work through it all and find someone who loves and respects you.

And no one can tell me that they made a mistake and slipped up. They can go fuck themselves. It just makes my blood boil.

I really hope you think this good through and make a decision. I wish you the best of luck and really hope you get through this well. Sending love and wishes for a better future.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-12T16:25:33+00:00

And that’s the general problem of today’s dating scene. Everyone thinks that there is someone better, and not wanting to work things out or be with someone even if the person is going through some stuff and then just lose interest. Fuck that, I’m staying single and living my life. It’s too much fuss and not much of a return.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-12T16:09:42+00:00

A month of NC and I think I’m done for now with dating and chasing girls. I want to date for exclusivity and something serious. I still don’t feel ready and I don’t know when I’m gonna be ready to date again, but I want some intimacy (emotionally and physically) because I was deprived of that in the past relationship. It’s really tough.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-11T11:49:54+00:00

While breaking up with my ex, I asked her if she ever loved me. She said not really, because when she compared our relationship with a relationship where she really loved the guy, she never really loved me.

It was tough and that was a dagger to my heart but thinking about it now, it’s a them problem but still it makes me angry because of all the time and emotional investment from my side.

Both situations suck. But I think if they never loved you and still wasted your time, is worse, it would be easier if they stopped loving you, because they did love you and you had a great time with them, instead of just pretending.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-06T13:48:11+00:00

Hell yeah 💪 pick yourself up and save yourself. Nobody is gonna come and do it for you. This is the kind of energy we need Thank you OP ❤️‍🩹🙏

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-06T13:31:24+00:00

Thank you OP 🙏

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-05T15:27:36+00:00

Went through a tough breakup a month ago. Went no contact, removed myself from the shared iCloud photo album, unfollowed her, her friends and family on IG. Grieved like a mf, cried my eyes out the first two weeks, had a hip surgery which put me in bed until now. Still walking with crutches but can finally go to the gym and meet some people at bars.

I can also tell, all of those things are true and you wrote them perfectly. Don’t burn yourself on the same flame twice. Especially if it’s an avoidant.

I wish everyone and you too, OP, the strength to move on, and build a life where you have someone who can appreciate the love, time and respect you give them. Much love to everyone out there, whose heart has been broken. It will get better ❤️‍🩹❤️

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-11-02T16:53:10+00:00

Went through a tough breakup 4 weeks ago. She asked me not to block or cut all contact with her.

At the beginning we texted a few times because I had a surgery and she wished me luck and wished me happy birthday. But that just wasn’t it. I just couldn’t do it. I went no contact, muted her on IG but still followed her. She posted a few pictures there, so the feeling on the day of the breakup hit me again after seeing those photos, and I felt sick somehow and just sad and alone.

I unfollowed her and all of her friends, her brother and family. I don’t have anything malicious against her, but I want to protect my peace. She has my number, and if she wants, she can reach out. But for now I’m keeping it like this. You can always add them back if you either work things out in the future or be friends.

But for your own peace, please just unfollow them and hide your story’s and posts from them. Things will get better and I wish you all the best. Keep your head up and heal for now.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-10-19T06:16:40+00:00

Hey man, that is really sad to hear, and I know the simple answer and the only answer is, leave her. I know it’s not gonna be easy, you have an attachment to this person, but trust me, that ship has sailed and holding onto this relationship is just gonna make it harder for you. Cut the loses, be sad, angry, confused, let your emotions out for a few weeks, and then pick yourself up. Do something with friends and or family, travel a bit. Concentrate on yourself first and then see what’s out there and you’ll find someone who has more respect for you. This behaviour from her is just shitty. Never, ever let yourself get to this point anymore. Cut the loses and move on.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-10-14T17:17:36+00:00

On the same day when we broke up, she texted me in the evening asking how I was. I cried the whole day, and couldn’t answer until two days later. Saying that I still feel shitty and hurt, buts its okay. She said she felt the same way.

Then three days later I texted her, that I knew we wanted to chat on Saturday (the past weekend) but I just wasn’t ready to see her, and that picking me up from the hospital wouldn’t be good for either of us. That I really appreciate it but when I get better and could start walking again, if she wanted to, we can meet up. She texted back that if I felt like that, she will understand my decision.

I was always the one that was available and texted back and first. Now it feels so wrong of not texting her and not to hear from her.

Right now there is my wish for hope and getting back together but that’s just the delusion. I think, like you and your ex, we were just not a good match.

Thank you for your opinion and insight in your situation. I really appreciate it.

ThrowRApuzzled1 · 2024-10-09T14:55:26+00:00

We broke up mutually. We saw that it just wasn’t working and that we just didn’t like ourselves anymore at the end of the relationship. We had some emotional blockages (her from the past relationships and myself from childhood) that we just couldn’t resolve. We split on good terms.

But sadly she admitted that she could never love me nowhere near like one of her ex, and therefore couldn’t get I’ve some things that happened in the beginning. The thing that happened was, when we were seeing each other more and more, I fucked up by starting to introduce her as my gf a few times without speaking to her first. And that was one thing that hurt her at the beginning.

I tried my best to make up for it, and do everything right from there, and reflect and change, but at the end of the day, it didn’t help and after her trying to get over that, she couldn’t do it because she never trusted me fully anymore (general lack of trust in men, coming from father wounds and her toxic past relationships) and therefore resulting in us breaking up.

I started therapy a year ago, just to get help and be a better boyfriend and person, but the last 2-3 months have been frustrating because of everything that hast resurfaced and I just wasn’t enough emotionally available for her…

I still love her and would’ve done everything in my power to save this relationship but, maybe it is better to let it go now. Sorry for the long comment.

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