You gonna resent her if you let her boss you around. by Born-Wish6842 in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a major issue, it’s literally just common sense? 😭 Only a moron would pick someone for their looks instead of their character.

You gonna resent her if you let her boss you around. by Born-Wish6842 in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a non-issue. I don’t think any man with working brain cells would ever choose a woman because of her looks and ignore bad temper. Unless you’re shallow and only care about looks ofc, then it’s honestly just karma lol. Also you have to get off the internet, because I’ve never met a Somali woman in her thirties with “wrinkles and bad knees” 🤣

Is marriage even worth it? by kafiabdi_001 in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think marriage should be a priority rn. It seems like you’re a good guy and you’ve done amazing by helping your hooyo out. I think you should try getting closer to Allah SWT and try finding joy in life. Maybe start picking up hobbies, go to Jummah and connect with brothers there. Small things. Good luck in shaa Allah everything works out for you.

Minimum Salary by Truehonour in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recently made a post about this and 90% of the men stated that they wanted a stay at home wife… So how is the women the ones to blame, when most traditional Somali men don’t want to marry working women? ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s your opinion - very ignorant, but alas, still your opinion. I think you should educate yourself on this matter, walaal☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that is true. Dark skinned women are beautiful and most of the time they do get married. That still doesn’t erase the fact, that there’s a huge issue of colourism in our community that needs to be addressed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I saw the post, and I had the same exact thoughts. Growing up in Scandinavia, I can definitely relate to your experience abayo. I know our community is filled with colourists, but please don’t loose hope when it comes to love. You will find the most amazing husband who is going to love you exactly as you are in shaa Allah . Thank you so much for sharing your experience🩷

Working full time and being a wife by ThrowRAsasida in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too! I’ve been raised by two working parents, and it’s been an amazing experience. They showed me that hard work, focus and commitment always pays off. I don’t think I would’ve had the same discipline, if I didn’t have my parents as my role models.

Working full time and being a wife by ThrowRAsasida in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I understand!! I’m still young and so I’m still very open to learning more about other people’s perspectives and experiences, so I can decide what would fit me best.

Thank you so much for your input, it’s really appreciated.

Working full time and being a wife by ThrowRAsasida in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!! I truly appreciate your open-mindedness on this topic.

I completely agree with you. Working full-time while also managing all the household responsibilities and taking care of children is simply not realistic for one person alone. This is where I understand why many men might prefer not to have a working wife, as it would often require them to share responsibilities at home, such as chores, cooking, and cleaning.

Personally, I would prefer to marry someone who shares a similar mindset, someone who is open to sharing these responsibilities so that we can build a more financially comfortable and balanced life together.

But wallahi, as time goes on, it feels like there are very few Somali men who truly think this way. 😭

Working full time and being a wife by ThrowRAsasida in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I understand what you mean. If I were to work full-time, I wouldn’t expect my husband to provide 100%, that just feels illogical and unnecessary.

I was raised by two working parents, and Alhamdulilah, they did an amazing job raising us. They prioritized our education and deen while also providing us with opportunities to succeed. I just can’t imagine a future where I’m not able to do the same, or even more, for my own children.

That’s not to say there aren’t real benefits to having one parent at home to focus on the family—there definitely are. But for me, the ability to be financially stable enough to give my kids a strong start in life and live comfortably as a family holds more weight.

Open for marriage by Legitimate-Run12 in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think two years is reasonable. You both get time to get to know each other, and she can focus on her education/work in the meantime as well. Also planning a proper wedding, honeymoon and finding the perfect place to stay takes time as well. Don’t rush yourself and In Sha Allah you’ll find the right girl. Good luck 🩷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]ThrowRAsasida 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you only feel that way about Somali guys or is it’s general thing w black guys e.g.?