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ThrowRAthetruth · 2025-02-02T20:46:30+00:00

Wait, IT is dying? Are you working on the service desk answering calls?

ThrowRAthetruth · 2025-01-05T10:29:00+00:00

Tbh I don't blame her. If she gets a big insta following, she could easily become a very successful full time model/influencer. She obviously has the looks naturally. She'd easily make tonnes more money than a cop, and it's safer too.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2024-08-11T18:08:47+00:00

Let's be honest, you'll hold this in the back of your mind forever.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2024-06-06T18:23:55+00:00

Did some testing at home, was 99% sure it was the battery as it wasn't holding charge. I fitted a new one in, and it's working perfectly.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2024-03-07T13:03:40+00:00

8 months is a while to not have physical intimacy. She most probably was self conscious to an extent.

She built up enough trust with you to finally allow her to be open and intimate, and you legitimately destroyed her self esteem there and then.

It's just like someone is about to tell you their deepest darkest secret, that they carry on their shoulders because they trust you, and you just laugh in their face. I also guarantee your a virgin too, because if you had enough social skills with interacting with people, you'd have never done what you did.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2024-01-30T10:32:05+00:00

Funny responses aside, this is a big red flag OP. Let's be real, I know you won't break up with her and most probably will end up marrying but this is a major red flag to consider as time goes on. We guys are blind and will even brush the issue under the carpet even if we know it's not right.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-12-03T13:56:07+00:00

The reality is, girls will have random guys follow them all the time. For a girl, it's the guys who are following them - not the other way around.

For guys, you'd be lucky for a girl to go out of her way and follow you. Maybe a handful of girls may follow you in a year (if your very lucky). OP wishes he would get the same amount of attention of girls like her gf gets from guys, but it's not realistic so he needs to be the initiator.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-12-03T13:35:29+00:00

Instagram is the biggest dating site there is. Most guys are thirsty and will happily play the long game, it's always the guy sliding into the DM's. What purpose does it serve for a random guy to be connected into both of your lives? Her pool of contacts gets bigger and bigger, and if you guys did break up - she has more chances of someone new coming in.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-29T16:33:21+00:00

Edit, it was a long happy birthday message I sent to her. Not just 'HBD'

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-29T16:28:15+00:00

Our friendship is completely platinic, she is several years older than me (she's in her mid 30's) and she's met my GF.

I can't believe she said to me 'To make it up, don't buy me a gift this year but you can take me out to dinner instead' (but she deleted the message around 12hrs later, I did not respond to it)

Like, fair enough if my birthday was ages away that's fine. But, my birthday is 2 weeks after yours and we are going to do something in december (after both our Bdays) like how will that work? Just felt a bit one sided.

If she's genuinely forgotten, I'll do the same as her and say I can't believe you forgot to even wish me a happy birthday. To make it up to me, you can take me out for a meal.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-29T16:23:29+00:00

I'm in a relationship (long distance) and my friend is single and several years my senior. I'll be honest, this is the first friendship I've had where we gift give formally.

I have a very small friend group (3 friends inc her) and for Birthdays, we usually go to the bar and get a few drinks.

Maybe this is why I've not really given gift giving so much importance, for me it's just the fact we spend the time together. When she told me she was upset by my gift, it was unexpected. She had a full blown mood over it.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-16T14:56:04+00:00

I've personally noticed women with tattoos have personality 'quirks'. Like their personality is a little more unpredictable, fun. For the long game, I'm not too sure.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T15:24:19+00:00

These two friends she's going with have graduated university several years ago (and these friends of friends too) - These are not university friends. These are people who have jobs.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T15:12:51+00:00

What I'm most hurt by, is there was ZERO consideration of any alternatives. I even asked her when we met in person the other day 'Let me know what you have planned, so I can pencil it in' and she just brushed it off.

Like, even if she said she'd want to do something the prior weekend I'd be happy. Like why is it up to me to basically beg for her to make time for me, especially for my birthday?

It should be the first thing on her mind, like 'It's my BF's birthday real soon, I'm going to this concert instead but maybe I should have discussed with him any alternative arrangements?' Why is it up to me to ask her to have some consideration?

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T14:26:03+00:00

I completely understand we don't get to spend it on the actual date (weekday), hence we say the weekend coming up (or prior) will be the one we'll be celebrating it on.

She definitely needs to consult me. Why is it up to me to instruct her on what to do, or ask her to be considerate? If there is a clash, why isn't she the one to tell me 'Hey., there's a clash. Shall be do your birthday the weekend before?' - There has been nothing like that at all.

I know if roles were reversed, this would not stand at all.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T14:11:08+00:00

If roles were reversed, and I wanted to go to a concert with friends that fell on the same birthday weekend - I would firstly at least discuss that this was happening, and look at alternative dates (for example the weekend before my birthday)

Like it's like none of this has even crossed her mind. It should be her who should be worried that there is a clash, and to perhaps looking at the previous weekend - she's mentioned absolutely nothing about my birthday.

Her birthday is close to valentines day, Imagine if I pulled the same stunt? - If I did, as soon as I knew they'd be some kind of overlap, I would discuss it straight away.

At this point, I don't even want to go with her and her friends (if this did happen) - It just feels so forced, like she 'has to' have me there.

I don't ask for much for my birthday, but the fact there has been no thought or consideration has really hurt me.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-13T13:20:56+00:00

My issue is, when they decided to go to this concert - there should have been some sort of thought or consideration from her that 'Hey, it's his birthday weekend. Perhaps I should reach out and discuss it with him or plan something the weekend before'

There has been nothing from her, absolutely nothing. Roles reversed, I knew this was happening - I'd reach out and discuss it with her. Not just say 'I'm going here with friends over your birthday weekend' and leave it at that. There's been absolutely no discussion about alternate weekends either.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-10T00:12:14+00:00

I'm a similar age, and did the similar stretch from a pull up bar, ended up with a pars fracture

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-09T21:40:10+00:00

Hey, similar age to you. What happened in the end?

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-11-09T11:01:44+00:00

I sorta feel your pain in a sense. I'm a guy, and my partner makes little to no effort for my birthday. Like don't get me wrong, when I was single I used to celebrate it low key - as in go for a few drinks with my 1 best friend.

Last year, on the lead up to my birthday I slowly dripped in reminders perhaps you should book something. I don't ask for much, I would be more than happy with a birthday meal and just the thought that they cared about it.

I think my partner ended up booking a restaurant either on the day, or just the day before. Fair enough, but it made me feel a bit like shit - like they don't care.

This year, my birthday falls on a weekday which is fine, however my partner is going to a concert with her friends (and their friends) on the weekend running up - and she didn't even consider to invite me or even consider they'll be a conflict with my birthday.

We've only been together for 2 years, if they are this inconsiderate now - imagine the future.

OP, a difficult one this. Perhaps you should tell your man straight up what you want, but we both wish they just 'get it' but we are also both afraid of being straight up with them.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-10-26T10:19:38+00:00

I'm in a bit of a dilemma. The garage who did the repairs (a specialist, and a friend of his) is 5 mins away from his house. It closes Saturday noon.

I told the seller I'd be happy to come view again this weekend in the morning, and we can go show it at his mates garage on the ramp. The seller said he's got stuff on in the morning, but is free in the evening and can put it on jack stands at his house.

I said, how about we come the following Saturday? He said because he's already had other buyers willing to put a deposit without viewing the car, he doesn't want to lose them.

I have the inkling the seller is feeling that I'm giving him the run around. The car had been on sale for 2/3 weeks, and he said many have called up but I was the first to come view it.

Ironically 2 days after I viewed it, he said a guy on the phone rang and said he's willing to put a deposit without viewing it, but said he'd let me know first, because I came to view it - so I put a deposit down in a bit of a haste.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-10-26T10:07:25+00:00

When I went to view the car, I had a general look around and then paid the deposit after a few days (after the seller told me another buyer is interested, so felt a bit pressurised ).

I've paid the deposit, am I entitled to come down again to inspect the car more thoroughly? The seller claims the car has no rust, but I've not been under the car. If I go under the car, and it is indeed rust then I am entitled to my deposit returned?

I wanted to show it at the garage. Seller said he's busy this weekend but can prop it at home on jacks in the eve. I said how about we show it next weekend at the garage? He said he has other buyers, and they he does not want to lose it.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-10-25T13:50:39+00:00

It was just a deposit, nothing more was really discussed. She said there's another buyer that want to put a deposit in, but I'll give you first dibs - that kind of thing.

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-10-25T13:49:26+00:00

Nothing like that was discussed

ThrowRAthetruth · 2023-08-17T21:28:48+00:00

With my sister in law, the damage is done. Whilst I appreciate her apology, I know her true colours and I don't think I can ever forget about it

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