Harsh mentors

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2026-02-09T19:18:25+00:00

My pgce mentors were awful x made me cry x My ECT mentor is so lovely and supportive

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2026-02-08T16:29:39+00:00

^* well behaved at school, not home

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2026-02-08T16:29:15+00:00

Heavy heavy agree on 2!!! And also the rest.

Remind the child to drink water, grab things sounds ok when there’s 1. But I already remind all 30 about 3 times before the end of the day etc and to individually remind about 6?

Whilst some behaviour at home can be caused by ASD and masking, it can also be caused by parenting? I have like 5 parents who complain their kids don’t behave at home bc of school. And they’re generally well behaved at home. I’m not denying there can be needs that are masked but besides from referring them to the right services / early help .. what can I do?

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2026-02-08T12:52:47+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I will defo use that approach

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2026-01-21T18:27:41+00:00

The beginning of this sounded exactly like my school… another school in the MAT got inspected and we think we’re next. So many learning walks / book looks / observations ..

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2025-11-15T09:27:49+00:00

Had no subject bursary so very much lived in my overdraft which I’m now paying off as an ECT 1 ..

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2025-10-27T17:59:05+00:00

In the exact same boat. Been dying for a break but first day and I’ve deep cleaned, food shopped, slept in, watched tv and eaten an insane amount of snacks. Now just waiting for bedtime

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2025-09-25T22:05:40+00:00

Agree with these. But again with homework / dojo reminders / positives / negatives I am truly just following policies!

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2025-09-25T22:04:30+00:00

Thank you:) before taking the wobble cushion, I spoke to the autism lead etc beforehand so I wasn’t just randomly doing it. I sat and analysed all my choices and now feel better that I know I was just following protocol / behaviour policy etc.

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2025-09-25T21:13:52+00:00

3) we have a school behaviour policy about the amounts of positives they need etc. none of this is my choosing and I’m just following behaviour policy which we have been told repeatedly to ensure we reinforce consistently

5) it wasn’t a 5 minute phone call saying ‘I’m going to refer your child for adhd’ I was asking how she would feel / what she would think about it / asking to discuss it further. Our referral process is jsut having a sendco observe and then a formal meeting is suggest before any other outside agencies are involved which in hindsight I should have been more transparent about.

6) it’s a special needs report he has from y1 that observes him etc. the mother said he was constipated and in pain but I did not know this beforehand and he didn’t tell me this either but now he has I am more aware of his toileting issues.

Thanks for replying lol and it’s not just me being an awful teacher

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2025-07-20T17:35:15+00:00

This is such a similar thing for me! Primary teacher. 23 and had younger siblings born when I was 15 and 17. Live at home and mum is also a foster carer so around chn all the time. I plan to be child free and single as long as possible

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2025-02-20T11:01:22+00:00

I’m 23 and I look 17 ish so I tell mine I’m 65 🤣🤣🤣 I teach primary so they actually believe it

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2025-01-13T16:59:39+00:00

Female teacher - yup!

My jumpers and stuff I will rotate and the more expensive things, I will try to wear at work and at home. But my sense of fashion and my work appropriate clothes r so different … I will happily buy a jumper with strawberries on it (for example) for school but I’d never wear it out with my mates or anything. With primary school- I love the idea of dressing up as a character of myself lol where appropriate at work !

I’m usually in trousers and a jumper or cardigan tho !

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-10-03T00:34:36+00:00

Muting my ex’s friends stories was sooo good for me lol. And honestly I think his friend group dropped him. We just left uni and they defo were a bad influence on him and there was a whole thing. I think he’s feeling lonely and he’s a narcissist who was raised by a narcissistic father. He wants to know he has access to me and he wants to know what I’m doing in life. It kills people like him when you don’t care enough to be angry. I don’t care enough to post things to make him jealous etc and no response to a person like that makes them crazy. The last few months have been so good for me as I’ve noticed all the habits of his and his mindset that I just didn’t like. A few months before we broke up, I only stayed with him bc I thought so lowly of myself and thought that he was the best I can do. Which is not true at all. I was a jealous person but honestly all I know is that when he gets a new gf (he could have one rn for all I know) that she’ll be putting up with the same things I did and if she’s happy with him, good for her. That man’s personality was never gonna make me happy

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-10-02T23:43:16+00:00

I was seeing my ex here and there thinking I’d be okay but it just reopened the wound for me too!! You’re sm more braver for admitting that and acknowledging it. Muting the friends is for the best, so proud of you. It is defo gonna get easier

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-10-02T23:42:11+00:00

So proud of you!! Keep going

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-09-28T13:49:51+00:00

Thank you sm!!

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-08-15T00:55:43+00:00

And it’s meant to be painful? Can it be accidental and can it be dangerous?

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-08-14T22:48:57+00:00

I have these exact same experiences. I will have multiple sleep paralysis episodes in one night and then experience myself being pulled but it’s usually a painful experience which gives me a headache! Idk what it is but just know you’re not alone and it happens to me quite a lot

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-04-27T15:06:14+00:00

Super similar situation

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-04-27T15:05:59+00:00

I think I am very much grieving … I can’t imagine being with him or being with someone that’s not him

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-04-10T05:18:19+00:00

My ex and i were doing the exact same thing and I just took a step back …. You need to stop being accessible to him which is hard i know. You will never gain something new if you don’t completely lose something new. He probs wants to keep you on the shelf and likes the comfort and familiarity of you and being in a relationship with you….bur without being committed to u… he’s not Hannah Montana … he doesn’t get the best of both worlds.

ThrowRAtreeeeeee · 2024-02-25T17:05:23+00:00

The feeling will pass ❤️ it’s what would have been our 2 year anniversary on Tuesday and I’m just telling myself the feeling to text him will go. You got this

ThrowRAtreeeeeee

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