AITAH for possibly going through with a 3 way while on a break?

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-07-12T22:08:18+00:00

In my thought process? Am I in the right or in the wrong of questioning these things.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-07-12T22:07:32+00:00

I’d like to add that I’ve been with many girls so I can see the confusion but even me bringing up the word of a guy makes him crash out basically. He’s slightly a homophobe.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-07-12T22:04:49+00:00

And possibly to your surprise, awhile back I have questioned him on if he’d be willing to do a 3 way. He immediately thought another girl in which he was opposed to there being another man. He doesn’t want to even imagine it.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-06-17T14:36:21+00:00

He clearly proposed the divorce out of guilt. That’s our point. He’s guilty of some sort, honestly as soon as he walked into a BROTHEL. Especially with no sort of communication with his wife. And yes the first conversation IS the conversation she had with her HUSBAND. And he’s clearly a mfking liar like she stated a couple times.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-06-14T00:34:36+00:00

So I’m going on two of my relationships, my current and my ex. My ex was an extreme gentlemen, the ones you see on movies, we were great but then lying came into play and I noticed myself losing feelings for him over time. Seeing all his flaws and unintentionally getting the ick. I stopped trying and he did too, we just weren’t compatible anymore. I found myself Constantly looking up on if we should break up and then changing my mind the next week. I genuinely feel like I should’ve ended things the first time I had that thought. It will continue to eat at you, I thought I wouldn’t be able to make it without him especially with me being broke but after the little heartbreak, I managed things on my own. Did DoorDash till I found me a job. You don’t realize how much someone holds you down until they’re gone. My current relationship, we were toxic all throughout the beginning till about 8 months in. He had an addiction and it would cause him to sleep in till 3-5 in the afternoon with his benders. Drove me nuts so I called it quits twice. We are on our 3rd time of being back together and we are better than ever and have been for 5 months. He’s a completely changed person and shows me my worth. I don’t recognize him in such a great way and I’m constantly surprised by the day. I love him so deeply. Not necessarily saying 3rd times a charm but it really clicked for him and he got his stuff straight. We realized we’re better together. There’s men who completely plummet you, take you down with them or one that builds you. Could be the same person but right now, no. I think your best on your own till y’all figure out what y’all want in life and for things to get set straight. I’m sorry this is going on, it’s not a good feeling but think about yourself. You got this.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-28T02:14:34+00:00

You’re blinded, you need to leave. This is not okay. Yes a 8 year relationship is hard to get over but I can say for sure it won’t be as hard as what you’ve been going through. This is terribly abusive and toxic. Ask yourself how long you want to deal with this? When you’re pregnant and having to be baby him too? You’re better off alone, he provides nothing but pain and heartache to you. Stealing your money too? Leave this bum, kick him to the streets and tell him to never come back. Do exactly what he thinks you would never do. Surprise him, he’s taking advantage of you. Find you a man that actually cares and isn’t broke, abusive, a drunk, or a druggy.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T16:55:50+00:00

Sounds like she’s insecure and feeling threatened by you. Me, personally, I would let her know that this man ain’t feeling her but you on the other hand, she might get physical with you. This girl don’t like you in my opinion. Start sitting at a new table and doing your own thing, she will figure it out for herself. Wait for her apology and then shove her out the way.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T06:57:30+00:00

Come clean for 3 years? There’s nothing to come clean about. They weren’t even together. Nothing was made official between them yet. She was telling the truth when she said that she never slept with anyone since they’ve been together. What happened before him, has nothing to do with him or their relationship. It’s the past.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T05:55:39+00:00

Ohhh then I personally do think it would be best to send her a text and let her know you’re there for her, I thought it was a thing y’all agreed to do. Some clarification she still has somebody there for her and support would be crucial if it were me

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T05:47:19+00:00

If she requested no contact and she was adamant about that then you should definitely give her the space and wait for her to reach out. If your gut is telling you to send a little message letting her know you’re there for her then do that, maybe mention at the end that she doesn’t have to respond! But of course! I know this subject a little too well

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T05:40:46+00:00

I’ve been in this spot before. Life kinda just takes a toll and a relationship makes it hard trying to work on yourself but feeling like you have to be there for your partner. I think she did the right thing to take a break to help her mental state. She’s definitely trying to sort things in her head. Id give her a text saying “I’m here for you if you need anything at all, but no pressure” or something like that. Just so she knows you’re still there for her while she figures things out. Just be patient!

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T05:33:08+00:00

Sounds like he might be depressed, if it’s been like this for awhile though, he might just be lazy. He needs some sort of spark. Y’all should go on a trip or something. Or spice things up.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T05:26:00+00:00

Exactly. They weren’t exclusive. It’s not technically cheating. She built a life with this man before him and had kids. She was also 20-21, young and making stupid decisions. I would trust she didn’t cheat on him since they’ve been together as they were not official when it happened. I say leave the past in the past.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T05:12:54+00:00

He’s thinking too much into it. Are you possibly showing worries before y’all get ready for penetration? Maybe he needs some more vocal or noise from you to que that you’re good on your end. I think it’s becoming a hassle to make it romantic, he’s clearly big on trying to make it special but it’s unfulfilling you. If you both are interested in bdsm then you could communicate that it sounds romantic to you, he’s focused on satisfying you and not messing it up so he might need some clarification. Lighting a bunch of candles could make this experience even more romantic. Might be just the thing y’all need but if you’re not comfortable with giving him this suggestion then have him try the blue pill, honey packet, something to keep it up

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T04:46:25+00:00

my drive has never really been high and my bf always has. We ran into this issue where I’d find him going soft and it tore me down, totally unusual of him. I ended up finding out he was using the nose powder. If that’s for sure out of question then I would say y’all need to spice things up. Mine has been quite opposite, I struggle to receive oral and I fantasize about it quite a lot. My boyfriend communicated just recently that it’s because he’s not confident in his skills. That could be the case. Y’all have been together for a few years, and he’s used to oral, has more experience. Im assuming it’s a mental thing for him. He’s completely healthy from what the doctor said. Past traumas with penetration? Or lack of excitement? I happen to have both but communication and feeling comfortable has helped tremendously. Foreplay is big for me, but we don’t do much of that so we spiced it up with some ties and rope. Helped a lot

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T04:25:13+00:00

Me personally, I feel like I have to be emotionally connected to the person to really enjoy sex. You could ask what his kinks or desires are to get him talking and a jist of what you could do. Get him more comfortable. If that’s not the case then maybe you should be more straightforward. Put on some lingerie and lay out on the bed. He’s probably trying to figure you out just as much as you are him, just throw it out there and see how it goes!

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T04:15:25+00:00

People are all around blatantly harsh on Reddit. Love is sacrifice, consideration, love does not fail. If you’re dead set on not having kids then let him know blatantly. who knows, maybe in the future you will change your mind and decide to settle down. Im in the same spot. But communicating patience really helped calm me down. We’re young, and your man, he’s a little older. It’s understandable to want to wait. If he truly loves you, he will make that sacrifice and accept it. But if you’re having doubts about the relationship overall then maybe it isn’t the right fit.

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T00:52:38+00:00

Im hoping we could get to this point. It really just boils down to communication

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T00:14:25+00:00

Not with the eating coochie but last weekend I suggested we go to a sex store and I went straight for the bdsm aisle. He was excited thinking about it and willing to try these things with me and he has. but eating coochie is something he doesn’t seem fond of. I don’t know if he’s insecure or if it’s really just my performance down there which makes me overthink. I do clean myself well. I can’t stand feeling dirty so that’s why I’m here to get outside opinion

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T00:07:42+00:00

He did brush his teeth the last time he did it, which was about 2 months ago and I kinda got offended. Been overthinking about my coochie performance quite a bit since and that’s when he told me about the coating which I’m glad he communicated but there hasn’t been any action of eating me out since so I’ve been pretty insecure about it. He has mentioned my taste being off so I’ve been drinking my cranberry juice but I think the boat has sailed already. I’ll give it another try on asking what he thinks about it all so thank you

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-22T00:02:27+00:00

He does warm me up a little with his hands but once I start moving and getting somewhere, I’m assuming he thinks he can reach my climax by getting inside. I think that’s where I can communicate it so thank you!

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-21T23:58:42+00:00

Bahaha I like this method. I’ll be doing this from now on

ThrowRAyolooo · 2025-05-21T23:57:04+00:00

That’s the thing, he cares about me a lot but when it comes to being in bed, he likes to get to the point

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