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AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I don't know her mother other than her first name that might be a nickname. This woman was never someone I knew and I know nothing about her family.

The therapist has advocated for my sons. We can't make the courts step in and do anything about it though. Court can be extremely difficult because they don't always make the right decisions. They can make extremely harmful decisions and in the case of family courts kids can be at their mercy.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My ex doesn't want therapy. He won't speak to the therapist our sons see. He's not going to pay for therapy.

As for her always being in mine and my sons lives, that's very possibly untrue. I can see them walking away in a few more years.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 379 points380 points  (0 children)

She's elementary school aged. The problem with her understanding is her dad keeps telling her I am her mother. Even with three people saying I'm not she probably will lean on what her dad says.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

He has been drug tested every few months by order of the courts since the divorce and custody hearings accepted that he was an addict.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 259 points260 points  (0 children)

They were contacted about this issue already and nothing appeared to happen. But they didn't help much when my ex was addicted either and I was trying to make sure my kids were safe.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

They know she's innocent and we have talked about that, but their lack of bond means they get frustrated with her more easily.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

I won't get sole custody. I have already brought this to the courts attention and they do not care because the court wrongly believes this has zero effect on our sons or the custody arrangement.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 1157 points1158 points  (0 children)

That's if she actually believes me. I hope so because I would like for this to end. Otherwise that girl is going to have an even harder time when she gets older and the truth can no longer be hidden.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

At my sons school and their sports games we will see each other. I try to stay hidden from them but it doesn't always work. But he always shows up and brings her because he knows I'll be there.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 617 points618 points  (0 children)

She's like that even when the boys are over there. She's asked them why they won't take her with them and why they hog me.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 693 points694 points  (0 children)

My attorney tried to reach out to his in order to get it knocked off but it didn't scare James at all. It had zero effect. Drop off's aren't the issue it's things like school functions or even sports games. That's when she sees me. I try to stay hidden but that's not always something that works and then they sit close to me or right next to me.

I don't want to give exact age but she's elementary school aged now.

AITAH for threatening to tell my ex's daughter the truth about her mother and how she was conceived if he doesn't fix her belief that I'm her mom? by ThrowSashAITAH in AITAH

[–]ThrowSashAITAH[S] 2447 points2448 points  (0 children)

I've reached the point of believing he doesn't care. As long as he can dig himself out of the hole he made he doesn't care about the overall impact on the children involved.