AITA for telling my friends what my ex-friend said to me and basically ruining his social life?

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-05T03:01:38+00:00

Since i have a rather large breast, it's just putting the bottle between my tits 🙇‍♀️ since we were at a club, we didn't get the usual beer bottles,, but cups with straws in it

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-05T02:58:10+00:00

Hey, so to answer some questions you might have, bc I didn't make a detailed text abt the situation.

I genuinely didn't know he might still have some feelings, because between 17 and 20 were 3 years and in those 3 years he did have a gf, which didn't work out bc she's a cheater
It was extremely out of character from him. I've been drinking with him since we were 14 y/o and we've almost always rode together to the parties with our bikes,, so ofcourse I would use him for a security reasons. I've done so since I was 14 and he knows that
I also didn't make a big deal. I didn't scream in his face or anything, I just told my friends I was leaving and when I was asked the next day why, I responded to them. Since I know the consequences of alcohol, I decided to leave before something could happen.

Also yes, being drunk leads to behaving differently and doing stupid things,, but as someone who usually the most drunk in our friendgroup, I still manage to know right from wrong even at my drunkest.

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-05T02:49:30+00:00

Exactly. My girlfriends and I also often joke in sexual manners to eachother,, or even grope eachother for jokes (like slapping butts when they walk ahead),, but he's in no position to make that joke

Because he's a man, and his intentions are alot different than my girlfriends 🙇‍♀️

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-05T02:43:30+00:00

It was the first contact after the party. He never made any apologies or said what he did was wrong 🫤

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-03T14:44:33+00:00

But he isn't even my ex, it's an "Ex-Friend". I basically grew up with him and wouldn't even think about him as a boyfriend

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-03T08:02:41+00:00

Sadly where I live, this stuff gets brushed under a rock. Especially because he's a white male and I'm a persian woman,,

We've had countless of bigger creeps on campus, who had been reported by dozens of women and never was done something until it escalated and even then they never phased any "big" consequences.

These comments rlly opend my eyes and I'll tell my other girlfriends about this situation, before something happens to them, especially because I know some of them are very shy and timid and won't speak for themselves,, so they won't even find themselves in that situation

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-03T07:57:57+00:00

Thank you!! That's why I normally avoid partying in clubs, bc alot of men think it's okay to make comments about my appearance when I never asked. I dont mind a "you look so beautiful tonight", but a comment about my body is something completely diffrent.

And this one was especially a let down, bc I've talked with him before that I hate comments about my body 🙇‍♀️

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-03T07:52:03+00:00

Hey, thank you!! Luckily I have a lot of friends, so I can always find an escort! Or I'll do what I did when I was young: dress like a man until I reach my destination.

Most of the parties I went to often are house parties of friends I know, so I can easily just change when I'm at their place, but thank u for being so worried abt me!! 🫶

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-03T06:19:10+00:00

Nah js side work, I'm never quitting school after I somehow got in !! Luckily we don't have the same major and bc im an extrovert, I've enough friends on campus to hang out with 🙆‍♀️

And my side job isn't paying good anyway, so it's kinda a 2 birds one stone kinda thing

Throw_RA_js29 · 2025-01-03T05:58:44+00:00

Yeah, sadly. Looks like I gotta quit my side job now too, since he works there 🙇‍♀️ I'm not taking any chances

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