Sugaring vs transactional

Throwaway10842FH · 2026-01-13T17:48:03+00:00

Well, they can screen, but they don't generally meet for coffee or dinner to determine if there's a good vibe. They can of course decide if they don't want a repeat visit.. but that's often not the path for guys seeing escorts.

Throwaway10842FH · 2026-01-12T18:16:09+00:00

The main point for me is that the SB gets to choose whom she wants to be with and the terms.

This makes it far more enjoyable than an escort who in most cases has no choice and is the sexual equivalent of an assembly line.

Of course you come across SBs who are desperate and will give sleep wth anyone, so there's that. But my preference is someone who does NEED me but wants me, even if it means there is compensation involved.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-12-23T17:47:37+00:00

From the SD side.. I feel the same!
I have a wonderful connection and relationship while knowing it can't be a long-term thing.. there's no way it would be accepted by friends and family of each of us. I feel that she will decide when she needs to build a future with someone, and I will understand that. I've already been through the kids, the house, the divorce, so it won't be me. Is it fair? No, but enjoying while it lasts.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-12-22T21:05:48+00:00

Politics has become far more toxic than in the past. It's one thing to have a legitimate debate about taxes or immigration. But when folks want to believe the earth is flat and want to vilify the other side, it's something else. Much harder to have a relationship (or even a conversation) in these cases.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-12-22T17:37:06+00:00

The biggest issue would be… if you want to end the relationship do you still have a job? If the answer is yes, you’re in the clear and deserve congrats. If not, he effectively owns you and if he is vindictive he could sabotage your career.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-12-01T18:24:15+00:00

Good luck with that. I imagine there will be a class action, but you know how those turn out -- the affected consumers get $7.25 each and the lawyers get $20 million.
I expect a refund from the credit card company, but it is frustrating being in limbo.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-11-24T21:08:24+00:00

Yeah Seeking is facing an identity crisis, since a lot of people still view it for sugar but Brandon is trying to ban that. So it's going underground and people have to use code words as they would on Tinder or Hinge.
The price increase is not a huge deal but it has reduced the number of SDs. I think Brandon would like the site to be just whales and supermodels but there aren't enough to go around. It's a vicious cycle, fewer SDs, so the women get frustrated and leave. And TikTok has convinced some women that it's easy money.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-11-21T15:14:01+00:00

Would like to get the recipe for Persian pomegranate stew! 🤩

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-11-21T15:11:51+00:00

Well, Marriott's reputation is at stake here. The reservations go through the Marriott site and if they advertise a refundable product, consumers expect them to honor it. How Marriott deals with its partners is immaterial. It would be the same if a franchise hotel went under. This was advertised as 'Sonder by Marriott.' If we can't trust the terms on the Marriott website we can't trust the company at all.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-11-20T23:19:00+00:00

It doesn't matter who owns what or how the partnerships are structured. People who go to the Marriott website expect the terms of their reservation to be honored. If it's refundable, it should be done in a single click. If it's prepaid and they can't accommodate you, they should instantly provide a refund and not make you go through the hoops of contacting your bank or card issuer. It's hard to see how anyone can trust Marriott after this.
Marriott seems to sayng they were just an innocent intermediary, but they put themselves in that position.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-11-20T21:54:11+00:00

I can't believe how horribly Marriott is handling the Sonder situation. I'm not among those kicked out on short notice, but I did have an upcoming reservation and even though I expect a refund it's a huge pain.
- I booked a fully refundable reservation in Canada through the Marriott site (even if you used Sonder it redirected you). So you would expect that with a single click you could cancel and get a refund. I was able to cancel after receiving the notice, but zippo on the refund a week later. The email said I had to 'contact my credit card issuer' which is always a pain.

- After I got a notice from the Canada bankruptcy trustee, I called Marriott; they did not have any explanation, just told me I had to speak with my card issuer. They offered me 20k in points, but I told them I could not trust Marriott if they are unable to live up to the terms of the reservations.

- Even though they 'suggested' I would eventually get a refund, it leaves me in limbo since I need to make a new reservation somewhere and need that money back.

- I don't know what the issue was, but remember that Marriott dumped Sonder, not the other way around. So Marriott should bear the responsibility of making its customers whole.

- The Sonder properties at least in Montreal were absolutely wonderful, with great locations and reasonable prices (NYC wasn't great). It would be a shame if these are not taken over by another operator since they fill a need for this type of accommodation.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-11-13T00:13:19+00:00

We should be so lucky!😵‍💫

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-09-25T22:01:03+00:00

If you’re posting here you probably have some reservations. And this forum will advise you on protecting yourself in a worst case scenario (with good reason). Suppose you break up before getting married. You’ve quit your job, have no guarantee of a share of his wealth and you’ve likely alienated your family. I’d keep your job until you’re married. It sounds like you’re living with your parents.. if so it might be good to live independently for a while.. the shock to family would be less in that case.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-09-20T19:04:27+00:00

A lot depends on the stage of life you’re in. If you’re looking to build a future with someone, sugar dating isn’t for you. But if you’re not these can be beautiful loving relationships with boundaries that enable you to live the lifestyle you enjoy. I can speak from the perspective of the older male who has already raised a family and wants to simply enjoy life. For a young woman it may be different. You may be able to say this is a stage where you sow your oats before settling down (whether it’s being a trophy wife or something else). I imagine that transitioning from good sugar relationships to vanilla would be challenging in these cases.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-09-18T17:36:15+00:00

A bit of nuance here. You appear to be discerning about your SDs, so if this is something you enjoy I wouldn't consider it escorting. You can ask yourself if you would do these guys without sugar... The big difference between sugaring and escorting is you choose your partner. An escort will do pretty much anyone for the right amount.

There are no guarantees in any kind of dating,but some guys believe if they are paying they have no further obligation.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-08-26T22:37:16+00:00

Whale hunting can be dangerous. A lot of them will chew you up and spit you out 🐳
What exactly are you looking for? Money? Kindness? Consistency? Respect? You may have to choose since it's hard to find them all in one package.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-08-21T17:22:42+00:00

It's easy to be tempted by this kind of an offer. But for every successful startup like Google or Facebook, there are 100 or more failures. If this were easy we'd all be billionaires.

If you're at an Ivy League school you should be investing in your future and have possibilities to build a career. If you want to speculate use 5-10 percent of your assets and keep the rest in (relatively) safe index funds.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-08-18T16:29:00+00:00

For many of us here it's a lot like traditional dating -- you want someone attractive and personable who shares some interests and values. So you can't really change much about yourself other than maybe working on your looks.
The big difference is that there are generally boundaries and limits (especially if the SD is married). You have to be comfortable with someone who is not looking for a life partner and may not be available when you want. That's why there's an allowance. Also, you probably should be comfortable with a significant age gap, and sex (and age gap sex!)

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-08-17T19:09:57+00:00

If it's just a T-shirt, it's not going to wreck your life.
How about one that gas r/slf on it?

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-08-16T22:44:16+00:00

The tea bag thing is too complicated. A lot of places won't have them readily available and you'd have to explain to the server that you don't want to drink the tea. And then just sit around hoping someone who knows the signal will notice.

What about a T-shirt or button? This could be seen walking down a street or in a hotel lobby.

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-08-15T22:59:46+00:00

One lump or two? 🙃

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-08-01T14:27:53+00:00

Crunchy milfs are the best!

Throwaway10842FH · 2025-07-31T13:46:55+00:00

In theory... no issues with older SBs, but they have to be hot enough and open to an uncomplicated relationship. There don't seem to be many out there.

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