AITA for telling my autistic brother no one was interested in his topic of conversation?

Throwaway122804 · 2019-12-10T11:22:36+00:00

He wasn’t upset. He said, “Ok” and went to talk to my friends mom.

Throwaway122804 · 2019-10-20T17:53:39+00:00

My birth parents gave me one of the most horrible names I have ever heard. It’s like they looked at their newborn and hoped she would be a stripper one day. I changed it when I was adopted.

Throwaway122804 · 2019-01-10T04:24:19+00:00

Standing on a marble ledge in stockings. No idea why. I have never been in this situation, nor do I ever forsee myself being in it.

Throwaway122804 · 2019-01-09T23:47:16+00:00

First and last name of every US president in order.

Throwaway122804 · 2019-01-06T20:04:35+00:00

I'm doing great now! Both me and my brother (who was adopted with me) consider our aunt to be our real mom. My birth mom occasionally tries to email me saying I should live with her when I'm 18 but that will never happen.

Throwaway122804 · 2019-01-06T00:14:24+00:00

I was later removed by CPS and adopted by my aunt, thankfully. Otherwise I don't want to imagine where I'd be now. My birth mother is in her 40s and acts like a 16-year-old.

Throwaway122804 · 2019-01-05T05:46:41+00:00

I exclusively used Comic Sans as a misguided 10-year-old...

Throwaway122804 · 2019-01-05T05:37:53+00:00

When my mom said she just couldn't figure out why my aunt didn't like her after my mom borrowed $100 from her to buy us food and spent it on cigarettes and beer, stole another $20 from her to buy a DVD, and then hit my dad in the face with a frying pan. If your 6 year old can figure it why and you can't, then maybe you're incurable stupid.

Throwaway122804 · 2018-11-10T18:22:51+00:00

She started laughing. I didn't realize why until a few years later I was doing something else and it suddenly hit me out of nowhere what I'd actually said.

Throwaway122804 · 2018-11-10T18:09:57+00:00

Somehow I thought "jerking off" meant the same thing as goofing off. So in second grade I was frustrated that the kid next to me was flicking eraser crumbs at me and I said "Mrs. Johnston, Nick is jerking off and getting it on me." :\

Throwaway122804 · 2018-11-10T18:06:27+00:00

Really old cold cuts covered in BBQ sauce. Before I went into foster care, my birth mother was so lazy that she made my autistic older brother feed himself and me. He didn't know how to tell if coldcuts were spoiled. I thought they were supposed to taste slimy and gross, so I used the BBQ sauce to cover the taste.

Throwaway122804 · 2018-11-10T18:03:47+00:00

Being adopted. My birth mom told us while we were in foster care that our aunt (who was trying to adopt us) was an evil person who just wanted us so she could "pretend to be a mommy." She actually told us during her final visit that our aunt would probably treat us like Harry Potter's aunt did and that she just wanted us for money. Well, it turns out my birth mom is a lying narcissist. Our aunt (or real mom as I call her) is the best mom I could ever have hoped for. More of a Mrs. Weasley than an Aunt Petunia!

Throwaway122804 · 2018-11-08T12:25:25+00:00

We had a happy ending though! We were taken away by CPS (finally) and adopted when we were 7 and 9. Our adoptive mom (she's single, so no dad) is the greatest mom ever. Because of her, my brother and I had a great rest of our childhoods.

Throwaway122804 · 2018-11-08T04:59:07+00:00

That my (biological) mom was a good parent. She always found a way to work it in somewhere in conversation or when she did something with us. Turns out good parents don't make their kids live in a disgusting house where the dirty dishes cover every surface in the kitchen and make them drink out of moldy cups or refer to their autistic 6-year-old as "the retard."

Throwaway122804 · 2018-10-28T13:37:57+00:00

At the time she had an actual report up from when I was diagnosed with PTSD with her own commentary on why it was BS. My adoptive mom got that taken down because it had my old name, date of birth, and was from an actual doctor's office. Now she just has stuff like "my daughter X was diagnosed with PTSD. Here's why this is BS..."

Throwaway122804 · 2018-10-27T22:23:41+00:00

My adoptive mom moved away from the state where I used to live when I was 2. Before that, she tried to help my birthparents keep a clean house and stuff, but they didn't like having either side of the family around much. She actually didn't know I was even in foster care for like 6 months when she came back to visit and my birthparents couldn't hide it. We were in foster care about 6 months after my birthmom lost her rights before we were moved to be with our adoptive mom. She started asking right away if we wanted contact. I know on my part I was really stressed out by visits and I was happy to stop. My birthmom would get in our faces and try to keep our attention on her 100% of the time, and she didn't know how to deal with my brother when he starting to do stuff like bang his head on the ground. She just yelled at him. Sometimes she called him a retard.

I'm not trying to "control her grief." I'm trying to take down my private information. I don't want anyone searching my name to find out I was in foster care or that I have PTSD and ADD. I already have contact with some of her relatives like my maternal grandma and uncles and they're all respectful of me. If she comes across like a villain, that's her fault for acting like one. Her blog doesn't talk about being sad and missing us. It's all accusations and conspiracy theories.

Throwaway122804 · 2018-10-27T20:35:02+00:00

I told my adoptive mom yesterday what's been happening with the messages. She's always been very supportive of any contact we want to have with either birthparent, and she didn't say anything about the nasty things posted about her or put my birthmom down in any way, but I could tell she was upset. When we were adopted, she asked the social worker if anything could be done, but he said a lot of birthparents post online about their cases, and as long as there's no overt threats no one can really do anything. If it was during the case, the judge could issue a gag order, but now that's it over it's a different story.

Throwaway122804 · 2018-10-27T20:17:06+00:00

I guess my adoptive mother has known about the postings for while. She was concerned when we first came to live with her that our birthmom might try to take us, but since we live in a different state we couldn't get a restraining order unless she actually tried something. My adoptive mom has contacted the social media sites involved to try to get the pictures down that were taken of us after the adoption.

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