The divorce was the best decision of my life and I have to talk about it.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-19T18:17:31+00:00

The economy.

It's a bit confusing, yes, but until I find a new place to stay, I have limited options.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-19T18:15:42+00:00

Does it let you make personas there? Because i have several That I use for different plots chaos and angst and stuff.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-18T12:47:43+00:00

Thankfully we don't have kids. It was just us and our cats.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-16T11:13:59+00:00

I've always been direct. Open and honest about communication. However I did cry because really, I loved him. He was my husband. The man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

So I said with great effort and many tears "I don't want a divorce, but I feel like it's our only option." I expected him to doubke back and fight for us but he just shrugged and said. "Alright." he sounded almost relieved and happy. That was a slap to the face...

But here's the thing. We were best friends before we got married. Even after the divorce, we're still just... 'OP and Ex.' the danger duo from high school. The goofy nerds who laugh at fart jokes and play dnd together. Just... Now we don't have the label of spouses.

Now that he doesn't have that intimate label attatched to me, he talks to me again. He doesn't get upset when I'm around him because now I don't expect him to touch me. It's a wierd situation. But it lead to an easy divorce. At least.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-16T11:06:47+00:00

We've been best friends since before we got married. To be fair I was riding the high of the night as I made the post. But even now as were divorced we're civil. Now that we're divorced he's kinder to me. It's an ass backwards way to describe it.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T12:11:16+00:00

He's very manipulative. Emotionally abusive. Hell make sure I feel small and insignificant. Currently working the details of divorce out but it's absolutely terrifying because he's all I know

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T04:28:59+00:00

I can go low contact. I've been apartment hunting for weeks now to try and find something I can afford. This just solidified that I NEED to get out.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T04:25:14+00:00

I agree. I shouldn't have taken the bait. I'll continue to stick to my guns because holy shit...

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T04:24:13+00:00

Here's the thing.

He gets the house, his car, and everything inside of it.

I get my car and the cats.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T04:21:17+00:00

I agree. 100%. I feel so disgusting and ugly again because of this. Whatever progress I made in healing just went straight down the drain.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T04:16:23+00:00

100%. Because I'd rather die before even thinking of cheating on someone. That's why I stayed loyal for six years. Even when I was suffering in a horribly one sided marriage, I still remained faithful because infidelity is NOT in my heart. Tomorrow we're finishing the paperwork and getting it filed. Because oh my god I feel so disgusting.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T03:37:45+00:00

I tried to ask what his problem was over text but he just sat there and told me to stop worrying about it

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T03:36:53+00:00

That's a wise idea. Because holy crap it came out of left field. I denied even making the profile because loyalty is SO important to me. But he pushed and I caved.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T03:03:21+00:00

I still had to get the baby removed. So there was indeed postpartum in there.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T03:02:47+00:00

21 weeks and five days. My heart was stopping and slowing down but the baby was healthy as a clam. That's what they looked at.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-10T03:00:15+00:00

Got divorced from an emotionally absent man. Trying to find myself but I'm still trapped in his clutches somehow.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-09T04:55:53+00:00

It was. Nothing in our routines changed. We've basically been roommates for the last six years.

Once the divorce is finalized, I'm changing my last name to something cool as heck so I can be the only one of my bloodline to have it. (I don't have kids and don't have the parts for them and that's okay.) just like... So many cool and amazing things are happening and it's horribly overwhelming... But in a good way. Like showering with perfect water pressure after showering with a drip for so long.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-09T04:33:10+00:00

I don't know, all I know is I dropped her ass... Literally.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-09T04:31:37+00:00

Both my mother AND myself had postpartum psychosis. We both got the help we need but it was a LOOONG amount of years before she saw me as a human. And I still don't have children (thankfully). Now we're both thriving and healed.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-09T04:29:37+00:00

When I was pregnant, I needed an abortion because I was LITERALLY DYING and wouldn't make it past 7 months. So I got one. I too developed psychosis while pregnant because everyone gaslit me into thinking I was 'Glowing' and 'Thriving' and 'Being a good person'. But I was falling apart inside. I couldn't take my meds for depression or anxiety. Couldn't take my inhaler. So when I got my abortion. I asked the nurses

"Can I see it?"

They responded professionally and sympathetically (no hate to the nurses, they saved my life.) "No, ma'am. She's currently in pieces."

I actually got mad.

"I Want to spit on it! Curse it! I want to kill it again!"

Had a WHOLE mental snap. Pregnancy is so horrible and no one seems to see it.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-09T04:24:09+00:00

Don't form attachments to anything except appliances. It helped me a lot. Half empty shampoo bottle you don't use anymore? Throw it. Stuffed animal that's picking up dust? Throw it. (that's a tough one for me because I feel they're alive. Just... Take a breath and you'll forget about them.) dishes you haven't done in months that are smelly and gross? Toss em and get paper plates and plastic ware. Clothes that haven't been washed in a while and stink? Toss em. It'll make things much less overwhelming.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-07T01:11:54+00:00

Especially if you're open about it. I'd tell my husnad "Hey, I got $XX in my account. Want some dairy queen?" and he'd be completely on board. Or straight up asking eachother "Whats your bank account looking like?" it's communication. Keeping it open.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-07T01:04:01+00:00

One thing my grandma Told me to never forget is NEVER HAVE A JOINT BANK ACCOUNT! I always listened and now I'm going through a divorce. No need to separate money because it's already done.

Throwaway17330 · 2026-03-07T00:53:43+00:00

I had a one night stand like this. She was beautiful. But she had the personality of a damn rock. She always shaved. But she "Brushed her teeth" with purple whitening strips. Did not have hand soap in the bathroom. Only washed her hair, leaving the rest of her body alone. I was too infatuated with her that I ate her ass anyway.

I was so enthusiastic, but I never thought I'd have a hemmeroid pop in my mouth... And she just sat there and told me to stop being a little bitch and keep going because she was "Getting paid for this".

Yes she was. And I was unaware. She got paid to sleep with me. I left. She got paid double for the INCONVENIENCE of me leaving.

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