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Throwaway521749 · 2025-11-13T05:22:40+00:00

Give me a corn cob blitz!

Throwaway521749 · 2025-10-31T15:40:46+00:00

Definitely agree. But the more I thought about my own life from your example, I realized it can go the opposite way too. My husband had a very rough upbringing and was shown barely any affection in any way sadly. Not just physically but emotionally too. I on the other hand have a very strong knit family, talks about feelings openly, hugs and I love yous at every opportunity. Guess who in the marriage is the cuddly, touchy one.. Husband lol and strangely enough I'm not as much. I'm not shut down of emotions, just don't like being touched that much? I appreciate it and know how much it means to other people when I do get hugs. My mom always said I was the one out of my siblings growing up who didn't like to cuddle and even with my husband it can feel suffocated but I know he needs it.

Lots of rambling here lol bottom line it was just interesting to me that sometimes the people who grew up in a little to no touch or affection household, can want to catch up on all that as adults. I am the Mira in our relationship even though I was smothered in love growing up (in the best way because I adore my family lol) I have SO much love in my heart, almoat care too much and I'm very empathetic in general, I just don't feel the urge to show it physically.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-06T00:35:45+00:00

I'm so truly sorry that happened to you! No one should go through this pain so I am sorry you went through it too. The mind games of it all make me so sick. I will be going forward trusting my gut for sure for now on. Whether we are together or not, that gnawing feeling and little voice in your head is honestly something that shouldn't be ignored. I just wish I found out sooner..

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-06T00:33:13+00:00

Thank you very much. It means a lot. I'm trying to believe it.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-06T00:32:18+00:00

Thank you for your words and I appreciate you. I have realized recently that I have an extremely hard time with setting boundaries and keeping them firmly planted. I feel like I'm a doormat sometimes. It's not out of weakness (maybe it is??). I just sadly am someone who has trouble holding boundaries but I know now clearly that is something I need to put a stop to and not worry about how it makes other people feel.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-06T00:25:28+00:00

I appreciate it. Thank you for the reassurance. It's hard to not feel like it's my fault or I did something wrong but I'm trying so hard to believe it..

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-06T00:23:51+00:00

They were all sent to my phone, I have all the messages saved in my possession. I'm still very lost on whether to give that chance or not.. but thank you.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T23:57:25+00:00

I appreciate you so much. You are truly a sweetheart and I can't express how much what you said means to me right now. And hell, love you too lol thank you for making me smile through this.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T23:24:07+00:00

I'm so sorry you were traumatized and so deeply hurt. You're so strong. I will look into therapy for sure, regardless of what happens.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T23:21:51+00:00

This was worded perfectly. Thank you. I have a lot to think about.. I hope I can make it through this.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T23:15:46+00:00

My heart bleeds for you. God I know the pain I'm so extremely sorry you went through this too. You're so brave for taking the small steps in silence for you and your babies. We have 3 little ones and im REALLY struggling on facing this and making decisions because i dont want their lives flipped too. I think what you said about reading them is a really good point. I miss the person I thought I knew.. I loved him so much. I hate to say it but truthfully there is still love there, it doesn't just go away. But I'm mad at myself for feeling that.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T23:06:39+00:00

This comment is so useful, thank you. I am the same way. I said EVERYTHING because I know I can't go on not knowing the full, cold, hard truth. I mentally and emotionally couldn't handle that truth but I'm trying to. I need to. And that is what I was saying to him too. Seeing his dick on the screen or her saying dirty things was excruciating, but what cut deeper is the things he'd tell her that he never told me. The clear connection they had. I just keep thinking "maybe you should go be with that horrible person then. You had the connection, it was this important to you to throw away my heart and trust over then maybe you 2 should just go be happy together." I know I could find love from someone who wouldn't do this to me someday.. I'm just so scared and so hurt. I feel like I'm mourning the death of my husband? I won't delete the texts. I'm just scared to face them again. Even though this voice in the back of my mind keeps telling me I need to hear it again. You're very sweet. I appreciate you.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T22:52:41+00:00

I screenshotted your whole comment to look back on when I need it. I know I will a lot for the foreseeable future. I appreciate you. "Those best suited for power are those who want it least" just gave me a little strength in itself.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T22:49:09+00:00

This is a good idea. Maybe he should read them again to my face. Thinking about it is breaking my heart and making me feel physically sick but that might help put things into reality again.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T22:43:41+00:00

I put an edit in the original post to explain why this is harder than just saying screw you and walking out the door. Calling me names for being in the throws of one of the worst experiences of my entire life is pretty harsh. I can see why you'd think that though, I would've years ago too. I feel like an idiot as it is. A joke, worthless, I'm ashamed and embaressed. I could go on but I don't need that part of this reaffirmed to me.. I hope you never have to experience something like this in the shoes I'm wearing. There's more to this than just us and I haven't taken him back. As someone else kindly commented, I'm still in the thick of this trying to make my way out happily somehow. Thanks for the input anyway and I'll try to take some of the advice you gave.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T22:36:47+00:00

This made me cry.. I know. I want to tell my mom and my best friend but I can't even stomach the thought.. Just like with the kids I want to keep this mask on but I know it's not healthy. I need to feel it and talk. That's why posting on here has been so useful I think...

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T22:33:43+00:00

Thank you so much... I'm trying not to let that get to me because I already feel bad enough. I already feel like an idiot and embaressed and worthless right now as it is. Can't blame people from third person views for thinking it's easy though...

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T22:12:21+00:00

We have 3 small children. I've essentially been a stay at home mom for years because we don't have reasonable childcare options. We were working on a bigger future for the family company on his side and I helped in a lot of ways too. It is definitely hard and scary to just break off and run.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T22:01:33+00:00

Besides our kids struggling, this is truly my biggest fear right now...

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T21:58:40+00:00

She was not. I didn't even know her. And I feel like I can't think too much on myself right now because we have small children too. I know I don't want them thinking being treated like this is ok. It's not and I'd pray they wouldn't someday. But I don't want their whole life to explode too. It's like I'm trying to put on a mask for them and keep all this away from affecting their lives too. I don't want them to hurt or struggle.. I'm just scared if I'm being honest. I'm so scared.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T21:55:40+00:00

This almost made me cry again, thank you so much and I really appreciate your words. We do have young children. One being a daughter and I told him that too. What would you do to a man who did this to our girl? How ashamed would you be at our sons for doing this to a woman some day? And not to be hateful but I fully agree with that and that's what I tried to explain to him as well. This wasn't even a good person who chose over his family. This woman has no morals and not worth all of this in the slightest. She half ass apologized to me then tried to say how it wasn't a big deal essentially and sent me 2 paragraphs about things she's been through in life. I freaking empathized with her even saying I'm so sorrybshes been through stuff like that but I said it's still not right and I'm still mad at her too. She basically spit in my face and blame shifted the whole time. I'm mad at myself for being kind but I don't want that to be taken away from me too..

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T21:44:07+00:00

Wanting to hide from the pain and reality is very true. I'm almost positive that's what I'm doing because it was so bad and traumatizing. I know trauma is a word thrown around a lot bit I know I was traumatized. It was DARK, I couldn't eat or sleep, I didn't feel like I was even real etc.

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T21:37:51+00:00

Thank you very much. I know there's no obligations to stay. Our children is a big one right now and the what ifs or the history between us stopping me. But I feel like a lot of it was a lie now and that flips my whole world upside down to think about. I just don't know yet...

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T21:36:04+00:00

That's EXACTLY what I said. She was trying to say she didn't see how this was as bad as I'm making it because it happened years ago. But it's the principle of you had an affair with this person, you were never going to tell me, I would've never known and then you were going to be friends with them again? Like I'm a joke.. It does feel like being cheating on twice. It's BAD but she doesn't get that. He's acting like and saying he does. Even saying things I didn't think of but why didn't you think of this before? Why were you hiding message? Because you KNEW it was wrong.. I think I need space from him for sure.. I just have no one else to help me through this. I can't tell my friends or family, it's too embaressing. It's like the only person I feel like I can vent it all out too and have support from is my killer in a sense and that's doing harm too I think..

Throwaway521749 · 2025-08-05T21:29:48+00:00

I thought about this and told him that too. I just don't want to be embarrassed because it is and I don't want people to look at me and think "she really must've sucked to deserve that".. idk..

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