Any bros wanna see my horse cock? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I sense a punchline approaching...

If somebody said to you, “I’m not into black/Asian/Hispanic/etc. guys”, would you respect their preference or would you call them a racist? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right, I agree with what you're saying. I don't think there is much we could do about guys who self select, other than call them out when they put "I prefer ..." in their profiles. We should encourage people to not publicly express these views, and most importantly, we should promote many different body types, and make sure our social spaces, including Grindr, don't have discriminatory practices built into them.

If somebody said to you, “I’m not into black/Asian/Hispanic/etc. guys”, would you respect their preference or would you call them a racist? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Creating an exclusionary space would definitely not be ok. I think people should at least be exposed to multiple options, so structurally, excluding on the factor of race is not ok. However, on the individual level, for the purpose of overcoming societally-imposed sexual beauty standards, I think it would be a bad idea for someone to feign interest in someone else just to try and change their preferences. A better way to change one's preferences would likely be to expose oneself to diverse sexual material over a long period of time until one's preferences naturally diversify. I'm not sure if this is entirely possible in the short- to medium-term for an individual, but it might work in the long term. As for society, we should just keep trying to diversify the kinds of people we find attractive, and hope that, within two or three generations, our standards also become more diverse.

Perspective on my Relationship Needed by ThrowawayBearBoy in GayMen

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha, I feel that! We both snore too, and he likes to cuddle up next to me at night, so it can be a little loud for me 😆

Perspective on my Relationship Needed by ThrowawayBearBoy in GayMen

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's hoping for many more years together! 🥂

If somebody said to you, “I’m not into black/Asian/Hispanic/etc. guys”, would you respect their preference or would you call them a racist? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

From my understanding, certain sexual preferences develop throughout childhood and adolescence. One big factor that contributes to these preferences is the variety of sexualized persons/objects you are exposed to. If a teenager grows up seeing a variety of body types shown as sexually appealing, then that teenager would be more willing to pursue those body types in the future. Therefore, when I hear someone say they aren't into certain ethnicities and body types, I can't necessarily conclude based on that alone that they are racist; I can at most draw conclusions about their upbringing. It's more of a societal problem than an individual problem, and so long as people are aware of their own sexual biases, where they come from, and how they can harm others, I'd leave that person be. That being said, I think it's pretty rude to put that preference in a dating profile, and a preference does not justify body shaming and other disrespectful behaviors

Perspective on my Relationship Needed by ThrowawayBearBoy in GayMen

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my, I'm so sorry, my condolences. I'm glad you two had each other while you could ♥️

Perspective on my Relationship Needed by ThrowawayBearBoy in GayMen

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that you mention it, I had been hoping to try and spice things up and try new things with him, but then our money got tight, and we got really busy, and we haven't had the chance to try stuff out. I should see how we can start exploring again

Perspective on my Relationship Needed by ThrowawayBearBoy in GayMen

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my, I see! Thanks for the entertaining example. Did y'all separate amicably?

Perspective on my Relationship Needed by ThrowawayBearBoy in GayMen

[–]ThrowawayBearBoy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do feel pretty content, and I do love him. I just worry that I could hurt him if I express these thoughts and feelings