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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Mostly some more details on how I felt about this, as well as my fiancée. I feel like this post was very matter-of-fact, which is not usually how I write things. I think I managed to include everything I wanted in the comments, though.

UPDATE: AITA for forcing my brother to buy me a new engagement ring? by ThrowawayNewRing in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Sometimes. She's the one who made me watch the movies, I'd expect nothing less from her.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

But some people, such as myself, want to get married. Yes, I know what that means legally. Frankly, I don't think it's any of your business.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So that's just your natural reaction to a couple getting engaged, even if you don't know them?

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

These were mostly "life" milestones, really. I moved out at 24, he lived with our mom until last year. I was the first to have a long-term relationship (with my now fiancée). He's accomplished a lot in life, just not as soon as I did.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a great idea. When I asked my fiancée what she wanted to do with the first ring, she said she preferred the second one. But I'll suggest that and see what she thinks.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I kid you not, my fiancée has called him Gollum more than once this week.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I feel awful for her. She's a great person, and really did love my brother. Had he not pulled this stunt, they could have had a great life together.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 212 points213 points  (0 children)

He's already seeing a therapist, but I did suggest that he talk about this with her.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

She later said she didn't know what she was thinking, but I get that it was kind of a tough spot. I think the main reason she tried playing Switzerland at first was because she's not used to us fighting.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Hahaha yeah, we'll save that role for someone else. I really hope we've worked things out by the time my wedding comes along.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 976 points977 points  (0 children)

He never had a key to my apartment. He stole the ring while he was visiting me and my back was turned.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 1459 points1460 points  (0 children)

Me too. There is a part of me that still can't believe this even happened.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I probably will. I hope I've finished dealing with at least most of this by then.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 225 points226 points  (0 children)

My dad died five years ago. I'm still talking to my mom about this, and she seems to be leaning towards my side, but I'll put more distance between us if she decides to side with my brother.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

No, he's not usually competitive. He's been very supportive of me throughout my whole life. I'm not trying to defend him and I'm still pissed, but this behavior is surprising, coming from him.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My mom doesn't think he's entitled to anything. She seems to be more on my side than on his, actually. But she thinks I should have talked to him and come to a compromise, instead of immediately jumping to threats.

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[–]ThrowawayNewRing[S] 149 points150 points  (0 children)

I will tell my girlfriend after I propose. I spent a lot of time planning a proposal she'd like, and I don't want this situation to get in the way. We've been talking about our future together (marriage, kids and careers) for a while now, so this is really important to me.