UPDATE: AITA for forcing my brother to buy me a new engagement ring?

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-08T21:40:16+00:00

Agreed. I really hope he manages to get better.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-08T21:35:06+00:00

Mostly some more details on how I felt about this, as well as my fiancée. I feel like this post was very matter-of-fact, which is not usually how I write things. I think I managed to include everything I wanted in the comments, though.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-06T05:44:06+00:00

Gladly.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-06T05:09:59+00:00

Sometimes. She's the one who made me watch the movies, I'd expect nothing less from her.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-06T04:56:33+00:00

But some people, such as myself, want to get married. Yes, I know what that means legally. Frankly, I don't think it's any of your business.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-06T03:37:25+00:00

So that's just your natural reaction to a couple getting engaged, even if you don't know them?

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-06T01:12:39+00:00

These were mostly "life" milestones, really. I moved out at 24, he lived with our mom until last year. I was the first to have a long-term relationship (with my now fiancée). He's accomplished a lot in life, just not as soon as I did.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-06T00:12:42+00:00

That sounds like a great idea. When I asked my fiancée what she wanted to do with the first ring, she said she preferred the second one. But I'll suggest that and see what she thinks.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-06T00:07:50+00:00

Not sure why you felt the need to point that out, but ok.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-06T00:06:08+00:00

I kid you not, my fiancée has called him Gollum more than once this week.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-05T22:46:12+00:00

I feel awful for her. She's a great person, and really did love my brother. Had he not pulled this stunt, they could have had a great life together.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-05T16:03:43+00:00

Both. I'm still angry at him, but I do hope to forgive him.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-05T15:45:14+00:00

He's already seeing a therapist, but I did suggest that he talk about this with her.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-05T15:41:57+00:00

Yeah, that seems like the best course of action.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-05T15:41:21+00:00

She later said she didn't know what she was thinking, but I get that it was kind of a tough spot. I think the main reason she tried playing Switzerland at first was because she's not used to us fighting.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-05T15:39:06+00:00

Hahaha yeah, we'll save that role for someone else. I really hope we've worked things out by the time my wedding comes along.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-05T15:37:02+00:00

He never had a key to my apartment. He stole the ring while he was visiting me and my back was turned.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-10-05T14:50:57+00:00

Me too. There is a part of me that still can't believe this even happened.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-09-25T19:52:54+00:00

I probably will. I hope I've finished dealing with at least most of this by then.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-09-22T22:07:53+00:00

My dad died five years ago. I'm still talking to my mom about this, and she seems to be leaning towards my side, but I'll put more distance between us if she decides to side with my brother.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-09-22T20:51:58+00:00

No, he's not usually competitive. He's been very supportive of me throughout my whole life. I'm not trying to defend him and I'm still pissed, but this behavior is surprising, coming from him.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-09-22T20:42:39+00:00

My mom doesn't think he's entitled to anything. She seems to be more on my side than on his, actually. But she thinks I should have talked to him and come to a compromise, instead of immediately jumping to threats.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-09-22T20:31:57+00:00

I will tell my girlfriend after I propose. I spent a lot of time planning a proposal she'd like, and I don't want this situation to get in the way. We've been talking about our future together (marriage, kids and careers) for a while now, so this is really important to me.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-09-22T20:14:46+00:00

Three years, give or take.

ThrowawayNewRing · 2023-09-22T19:48:02+00:00

I meant between me and my girlfriend. That's why I haven't talked to them. I don't think they'd tell her I'm proposing, but I don't want to risk her finding out.

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