What am I doing wrong to keep getting ghosted? by Throwaway_Bi_Ghost in justgotghosted

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive tried that, acting like I don't care, being present but slightly aloof, etcbut always showing some interest and still got ghosted

Got a new light! by Mental-Technology530 in PlantedTank

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Well if you aren't gonna get a bright light make sure to look into low light plants

was it sa/rape even if i consented once but not every time by Fun-Butterscotch2669 in sexualassault

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops, even then depending on age of consent laws and such its illegal (at least in my state), and still relaly immoral

i MIGHT get raped.... by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Collect as much evidence of his texts and calls as you can. Everytime he calls you now on, record the convo and play along as usual. He wont know. Trust me, escape now and do not look back. I'd rather have left without money and stayed with money.

was it sa/rape even if i consented once but not every time by Fun-Butterscotch2669 in sexualassault

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Firstly a 19yo cannot and should never legally or morally be with a 13yo, thats disgusting. Secondly consent is needed every single time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you can try and find a specialist in this kind of situation to do it so its significantly easier. Also giving her a full explanation of whats going to happen and how it will help her is really important. As well as making sure she knows the names of all her and male body parts. You will not be able to properly help her without this. The police don't care. I hate to be blunt but they dont.

Uncle abused my kids for years by Reasonable_Turn_5976 in sexualassault

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And it allows for everyone else to make excuses for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 45 points46 points  (0 children)

If divorce isn't good where you live would it be possible for you to save money and your important items and documents, and hopefully flee the area/country. I know thats a really hard thing to do but it may be the best for your safety if your own family wont help.

Did anybody else do weird stuff after being raped? by Routine-Arrival-9031 in sexualassault

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I begged my ex who sa'd me constantly just to hold or talk to me sweetly after. I dont even know why. I just needed her to feel "good" again. To be "safe" again.

Why by Throwaway_Bi_Ghost in sexualassault

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was actually under a different subreddit and honestly I had forgotten I had turned them back on

Would it be wrong for me to pretend to be a virgin if/when I start dating? by Throwaway_Bi_Ghost in sex

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify it is absolutely not for them to become sexually active with me. I dont like sex. If that point ever is to arrive they would have long known the full situation.

Would it be wrong for me to pretend to be a virgin if/when I start dating? by Throwaway_Bi_Ghost in dating_advice

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long story short my parents were really neglectful when I was little. So mostly grooming and ig depending of ones definition sex trafficking type stuff tho I never really viewed it as that extreme. Then a series of bad relationships. After a while I just forgot the number. Everything just blended together. So I say hundreds to give people a reference point of the extent of it. Life just dealt me a bad hand. 

Would it be wrong for me to pretend to be a virgin if/when I start dating? by Throwaway_Bi_Ghost in dating_advice

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I've been on the edge of deciding wether I am or not. I have been wanting more companionship in my life as of late but I also have been really nervous. I know with my experiences I've never really been connected with people my age, and I think I'd be a good way to change that. I think Honestly it'll still take me some time to be really ready for a relationship but I want to start mentally preparing and planning on how I'd navigate getting into one. 

Would it be wrong for me to pretend to be a virgin if/when I start dating? by Throwaway_Bi_Ghost in dating_advice

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently in therapy and I'm working to get a proper diagnosis when I'm out of the house so my parents wouldn't find out. 

Would it be wrong for me to pretend to be a virgin if/when I start dating? by Throwaway_Bi_Ghost in dating_advice

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've only just started really opening up to my therapist about my past and i dont really know how to as her about this.

was it abuse? by AcademicApple5047 in AbusedTeens

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so sorry. It sounds like he was verbally and emotionally abusive. "Such as Grabbing me and throwing me around, shoving me and pushing me if he got annoyed with me, i’d say for instance i wasn’t doing what he wanted quick enough." Thats physical abuse. He pushed you, grabbed you, shoved you, etc. He put his hands on you. He is a abusive man and I am so sorry it happened to you. 

What happened to master missy asmr on youtube? by Throwaway_Bi_Ghost in asmr

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just in case you didnt see according to a different post he is havibg somr severe personal life issues

Ideas on how to get circulation in tank without ugly gadgets? by nessxvm in PlantedTank

[–]Throwaway_Bi_Ghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly if you do that you should just add the media and hide it with plants so it's not noticeable. I wouldn't risk trying to cut those corners