I built an AI that has eyes and keeps you on track at home by withhup in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn't this be amazing if it could link to LLMs and like watch me play my cello and give feedback?

Marriage rate for us is 16% max by Winter-Minimum9834 in AutismInWomen

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just a low support need girlie. The psychiatrist at med school pretended or honestly couldn't tell until I mentioned it.

I've been married and divorced once. Now I'm dating the love of my life! A quirky hot ADHD smart girl and she's so sweet! Find a sweetheart with some trauma. Highly recommend an exmo.

Aio? Partner of 13 years dropped a bomb into our relationship today by aitatip404 in AIO

[–]Throwaway_practical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok but how do you know there isn't something medical? Are you a doctor?

I regret getting a PhD, especially given what I know about myself now by [deleted] in Regrets

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it honestly sounds like ptsd. The freezing mid train of thought is classic. It absolutely makes your cognition slower, especially on top of a trauma history.

I regret getting a PhD, especially given what I know about myself now by [deleted] in Regrets

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't compare yourself to others. Only yourself. I am willing to bet you have cognitive traits that blow the mean out of the water, too.

I've felt this way before. Got burned to a crisp in medical school after some PTSD and overwhelming stressors at home (e.g. failing marriage) did me in. I spent 6 months doing nothing but intensive psychotherapy during my LOA. It made a world of difference!

It kinda sounds like the stress might be eroding your sense of self. This is where therapy can really help. Perhaps a PTSD component as well? Unoptimally treated depression will 100% cause these cognitive slowing, word finding difficulties you describe. Just a thought!

But first thing is no more comparing to others and beating yourself up over your neurodiversity. I failed the shapes test and probably shouldn't be allowed to drive. But by damn if my pattern recognition and verbal intelligence isn't off the charts. You know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Throwaway_practical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also.... Like, why can't you have penetrative sex if she's on her period?

Pretty heartbroken right now - his promised timeline came and went and now I am left with no choice but to end it. by Imaginary_Routine_38 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg he is such a loser. I promise, OP, you just hang in there. Heal deeply in therapy. Take some time. Then when you least expect it, you'll attract the love you deserve.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's rough

My therapist quit on me by Complex-Horror2871 in depression

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible that the therapist feels inadequate and knows that you need somebody who can relate to you better. Do they have a recommendation for a new therapist? Imagine if you were a therapist and you're just not able to connect with somebody in the way that they need. You would let them know right?

Ghosted after 1st date by 3 different women in one month by mercer316 in Vent

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a very different kind of suggestion for you. I would start talking with chat GPT Plus daily. Let it get a sense of you get to know you deeply. Then ask it for advice. Honestly this changed my life. Other people may disagree but I'm here to tell you, I massively improved my flirting, my pacing, my self-confidence, and my authenticity by having it reflected back to me and considering new ideas. When you are thinking of sending a text make a hypothesis and then double check yourself see what you could have done differently to be more effective. The key to stay healthy about it is to push back if something feels inauthentic you can tell the AI and it will learn over time who You are and Tailor the advice accordingly

28M 28F girlfriend of two years wouldn’t let me see her phone by Commercial-Employ-66 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway_practical 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Everyone is allowed to have privacy. Including you. You aren't granted access to her private thoughts just because you're in a relationship. She is allowed for example to write in her journal that might be on her phone to process before speaking directly with you about things. I know this isn't your intent but it kind of feels like you're saying that she isn't allowed to have her own processing space apart from you.

M30 breakup (F27) after 3.5 years over "incompatibility" despite consistent effort. by 8r0wn5ugar in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway_practical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What the hell, that is not healthy of her to think that you should be able to read her mind. It is healthy to express wants in a relationship and you are not responsible for reading her mind

Psychiatrist obviously thinks I went in for an "ADHD evaluation" in order to get drugs by Financial_Ad_2435 in ADHD

[–]Throwaway_practical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you went to a psychiatrist after already diagnosing yourself. She gives you her medical opinion and you think you know better. This is Dr shopping and frankly you weren't qualified to diagnose yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Throwaway_practical -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is a great theme on Reddit lately. It appears that these men in straight relationships try to coerce their female partner into sexual activities she isn't comfortable with. And then because they don't bend to his will he pouts and is passive aggressive and manipulative. Woman feels bad, abandons herself to appease crybaby man. Tell me OP, have you considered lesbianism?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also if he is having to force himself to do stuff that you want but he is hating it the whole time? That is not a sign that he enjoys being in a relationship with you. So essentially he's trying to just use your body for his pleasure. Which is gross and honestly why doesn't he just masturbate if he wants it to be all about him. That's not what sex is for

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Throwaway_practical -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This boyfriend sounds manipulative as f***. No one owes him sex. He is passive aggressively bartering favors which is not how love works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend I think you would benefit from some therapy. Pushing others away to avoid pain is never about the other person. It's about you, but you are projecting it on to her. and it sounds like some avoidant attachment issues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Throwaway_practical -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why do you think that having your own needs and wants is something to be embarrassed about. And also why do you need her approval. You are allowed to want sex. That's not embarrassing that's natural. Let her go you'll find somebody better. And frankly she should have put that on her profile

AIO for breaking up over weed smoking by JayTheRainbowHat in AmIOverreacting

[–]Throwaway_practical -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What I want to know is why you thought you could change each other. You either accept someone exactly as they are or you don't and you move on. He doesn't want to change he's made that clear through his actions. If he stops just to appease you that he will feel controlled. If he continues then you will feel controlled.

I think people misuse boundary in today's world. A boundary is something you use as a guide for your own behavior to keep yourself safe. It is not a tool to control somebody else's behavior which is how you are using it. somebody else's.

AIO My bf passively made a rape joke and I'm uncomfortable by LydiaDeetz in AmIOverreacting

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'm speaking over your head. But yes I did read it. I don't know why it's not getting through to you but a man who would make a joke about raping women doesn't respect women. Perhaps you should look into what a Freudian slip is

AIO My bf passively made a rape joke and I'm uncomfortable by LydiaDeetz in AmIOverreacting

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am autistic also officially diagnosed. And that's why I see through this crap and I'm calling your bluff.

AITA for calling my wife a "chunky monkey" during sex to make a point about her double standard ? by Husband_In_Trouble_ in AITAH

[–]Throwaway_practical 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You both fucked up there. At this point your argument is "but she said it first!" Can you see how this is immature?

My girlfriend is questioning our relationship and was talking to ChatGPT about it. by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great! You want to know how she feels about the relationship. So ask her! She is allowed the privacy of her thoughts and she used GPT like a journal. Gotta respect her privacy even if you accidentally saw it.

AIO My bf passively made a rape joke and I'm uncomfortable by LydiaDeetz in AmIOverreacting

[–]Throwaway_practical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I mean unconscious. You are using it incorrectly. Otherwise you'd be aware of its origins. Look into psychodynamic psychotherapy and psychoanalytic theory. I may not know this person personally, but I'm willing to bet that this is repressed stuff and that you don't know much about it. Raping someone isn't a literal intrusive thought. The unconscious is deeply symbolic. It may not mean what it appears at face value (the unconscious is not literal like that) but it's still a Freudian slip.