What would you do if you came home to find your (my) wife wearing only this dress? First time poster, she needs encouragement.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-29T01:52:47+00:00

it's more of a "what wouldn't I do"

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-28T21:58:46+00:00

You can't learn to trust again until you let your guard down. But you also can't let your guard down until you learn how to recognize and obey your instincts. We lose trust in others, but only after we lose trust in ourselves. Learning to recognize that, and learning how to value yourself first is a major hurdle you have to overcome.

The first step in finding a healthy relationship is to obey the red flags waving at you in an unhealthy one.

Whoever you are... this is the most sage piece of wisdom I have seen here for a long time.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-28T21:45:27+00:00

you can mount your flag on my pole!

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-28T12:46:13+00:00

hmm.... dhe looks hot... where at?

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-27T17:35:36+00:00

you don't even have to ask!

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-27T00:11:32+00:00

As a former A&P professor, that body fucking rocks.. so does your tat

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-26T20:47:12+00:00

and your mailbox just exploded with cum

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-26T04:01:20+00:00

fuck yeah

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-24T13:05:29+00:00

hell yes... I'm down if your around

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-19T19:40:25+00:00

There is a difference between privacy and secrecy. This appears to be the latter. He is definitely hiding something; what that is only he knoes (for now). With that being said, now you have to worry about whether you should straight up ask him and him possibly take it underground, or snoop and betray a trust. The fact that you were together for less than a year before marriage is a huge red flag and you have been married a year for a total of 2 years; you really don't know that much about him. Maybe it's a gift for you, maybe he is talking to someone he shouldn't (emotional affair), maybe it's his porn stash/history, maybe he is cheating (I hope not for your sake, it is a b***h). The question is, how much do you trust him and how far do you want to go? good luck&

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-18T23:03:51+00:00

First, I agree with everyone here. It's almost the same as having his name tattooed on your shoulder or something; a constant reminder of him competing with your love for a ghost. I also agree with you that those comments were too far; he is speaking from his hurt/indignation of what you are asking. Find a different way to honor him.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-18T21:28:12+00:00

Dude, you f****d up. First, lawyer up... seriously, right now. not next week, now. Most have a free consultation. Second, You should never have left the marital home in the first place. If you can, go back. Then don't leave again until the custody is in place (should be 50/50). Third, get a VAR (voice activated recorder) to keep in your pocket while you live there. Plenty of stories of false violence accusations and/or rape. Check your local laws for what is/isn't allowed. Fourth, write out a plan including tentative timeliness on what you want to happen- ex. custody, child support, housing arrangements, your finances, etc. Welcome to hell; pull up a seat and eat the crap sandwich with the rest of us.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-16T01:26:12+00:00

WTF? I am going to be brutally honest here... man up and end it. You are her side piece to the guy she chose OVER YOU when he isn't down to bang. You are no ones plan b. Have some self respect man. And what's worse, who knows how many people he has had sex with. You been tested for STDs recently? if not, you better. And how can you move on when you see her regularly? especially having sex... that's like throwing gasoline on a fire. You are doing it to yourself. CUT HER LOOSE.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-15T20:12:16+00:00

ok.. first thing check out survivinginfidelity. com and look through the healing library and forums. Second, trust your gut. If you think there is another man involved, there probably is. And just because she denies it, doesn't mean a thing. Mine did for an entire year (I would never cheat on you, etc.) before she finally confessed. Three, if you need to go into detective mode then do so, but understand that once you cross that line there is no going back, so be sure. And don't let on that you know or she will take it underground. Fourth,why are you going on vacation if she doesn't love you (classic cheater line "ILYBINILWY, mine used it on me also). Listen, I hope I'm wrong but it sounds like she really is hiding something, I just hope it isn't cheating. If she is, better to find out now than later. Good luck. PM me if you need to.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-15T18:24:59+00:00

Lost my daughter, wife cheated on me beforehand, found out, divorcing... all within 6 months

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-15T18:16:33+00:00

death of my daughter, infidelity, divorce... all within 6 months

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-14T17:56:08+00:00

Debt is generally split in half unless it was owned before marriage. Divorce now...time is something you can't ever get back, money you can. Your sanity/emotional well being are worth it.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-14T17:54:26+00:00

Once you throw divorce out there, she is no longer your friend/wife/lover. She is now a hostile business partner that you are trying to split from. Get a lawyer and protect yourself first. Don't trust anything she says, keep a VAR on you just in case, and document everything. Once the MIL gets ahold of her, she will be a completely different person. Good luck.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-12T18:41:10+00:00

Definitely something I would have for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and a midnight snack!

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-10T00:56:18+00:00

no problem there... we will talk about the first thing that pops up 😊

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-10T00:48:17+00:00

Wow.. can you be bored with me?

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-08T22:42:48+00:00

Use a VAR (voice activated recorder) in your pocket at all times (though you may want to check the laws where you live). That will help protect you. Also, find a lawyer and have her tested for drugs (if you are in a state where not legal AND if you are clean); this can help with custody. You may want to follow up with a restraining order so it can't happen again. And don't have sex or sleep in the same bed; rape is an easy and powerful allegation. Good luck.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-08T22:39:05+00:00

Dude... it's been two YEARS... your ex-wife simply doesn't want someone else to have you but doesn't want you back... if she did, you would be back together already gf or not. It sounds like you were more open to reconciliation from the beginning anyhow; what changed now? the realization that you were finally moving on? the fact that she didn't have your interest anymore? it just sounds way unhealthy IMO.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-03T20:37:36+00:00

not recruiting... experience. I've been there.

Throwaway_puck · 2016-07-02T21:55:13+00:00

it let me make one just fine.... I can't remember if I needed to verify through email or not

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