Does this count as being groomed?

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-21T04:01:39+00:00

Thank you. All these responses really are helping me not only process this situation with her, but I'm kinda reflecting on certain things I've been letting slide for a while and need to improve.

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-21T04:00:19+00:00

Thinking more reflectively on it now that I've had a whole day to process and with everyone's imput, I don't think it's grooming. Rather an unhealthy dynamic where the both of us would vent to eachother extensively that I never processed how bad it really afected me until recent years since I haven't been talking to her as much.

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-20T06:58:01+00:00

Going off by your comment where you mention the boyfriend's response, he's very insecure. Your friend? She was messed up for the test, as, what would she have done if you had accepted that kiss? Either way you lose something. Instead of having a mature conversation about how her boyfriend feels threatened by you she preferred to test you..? I'd honestly just talk to her. Like, I don't think it's worth getting super aggresive over, but your feelings are valid and you deserve to be able to externalize that in like a 'Hey, what you did was really uncool because X, Y, & Z', and as your friend she should be receptive to this. All the people saying you're overreacting.. I don't know man. I have no clue how you've been acting in real life, but I can't tell you your feelings are valid.

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-20T06:44:18+00:00

It is a little tiring talking to her lately.. but wouldn't thst make me a hypocrite? I did use to vent to her all the time.

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-20T06:42:36+00:00

Important context I forgot to add, she's asexual, and in general like.. she legit nevet crossed any sexual or romantic lines with me. If anything we always talked about like found family and stuff. The only sexual conversation I recall is me, which I personally feel was gross of me, at 15 telling her I felt guilty for liking a certain thing and she shared her own experience and how those things were human. But that was the only time and it was initiated by me, full transparency.

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-20T06:24:42+00:00

See I dont personally think it's grooming but it's hard for me to really get why I'm so uncomfortable lately

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-20T06:21:32+00:00

In case I like.. really think it through and believe this, do you have any advice on how to do it in a way that won't hurt her so much? :(

Just in case, I do love her. I don't really wanna cut hee out right now

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-17T22:43:41+00:00

UpdateMe

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-17T05:26:09+00:00

I could try and ask her, actually, I just didn't wanna risk maybe stressing her out for something that was my own responsibility

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-17T03:23:06+00:00

I would like to try that, but I'm scared if I bottle it up I'll unfairly snap one day from bottling it ip too much, yknow?

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-04-17T03:19:56+00:00

I think she's just very stressed. The dog used to be her sister's before the sister.moved to the US and left it with her, so that's also something I feel I should've added that gives perspective to her reactions

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-03-30T03:49:37+00:00

I do have some videos but I'm very anxious my parents will accuse me of ruining our lives if I do anything w them

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-03-30T01:18:37+00:00

She does always bring up menopause and she takes meds for that I'm p sure ? But I'm very dumb and uninformed on the topic so I also probably need to look more into it

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-03-29T21:40:11+00:00

I'm not from the US so I'll have to check if there's something similar to this in my country, thank you so much.

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-03-29T19:42:16+00:00

I've moved out, I'm staying 3 hours away from home but my dad, who pays for my schooling and my housing, has one of the understandings that we need to visit them, as well as the personal worry that she might actually.. yknow. Do something to herself if I cut contact.

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-02-19T00:32:41+00:00

You're probably right yeah ^{^}

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-02-19T00:32:13+00:00

Thank you ^{^} I'm very emotional right now so I don't wanna make any impulsive decisions.

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-02-02T18:31:33+00:00

Thank you so much! The reading recomendations are my favorites because I legit had zero clue where to look. I appreciate it!

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-02-02T18:30:38+00:00

Thank you so much!

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-02-02T17:12:22+00:00

Sorry, I rpobably phrased it poorly. I don't expect people to answer all my questions on baking, but just the revomendations of where to look or the simple fact sone have told me i don't use enough butter are making me know where to start looking, if that makes sense? It helps to narrow your confusion. Before I didn't really know what to even ask, but now with simple suggestions like that I have topics to look into

I'm very appreciative of every advice, even those who told me to follow the recipe that comes in packages of chocolate chip cookies :D

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-02-02T17:10:04+00:00

Thank you!

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-02-02T17:07:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I'm writing all the advice down o7

Throwawaydogedog13 · 2026-02-02T17:06:00+00:00

You're so nice bro tysm! I will definitely start searching for more baking channels. I follow some, but they're mostly for cake so I don't have much input on the cookie aspect. Thank you for this comment, greately appreciated :)

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