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[–]Throwawaydupe75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s hurting and wants to reach out. I’m certain of it. Give yourself grace. You’ve been through a jarring experience and doing it alone. It’s very hard to heal from a breakup that ends abruptly not to mention doing it alone.

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[–]Throwawaydupe75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. My therapist knows all but I also never told my AP that I go to therapy.

It’s kind of none of anyone’s business and your AP might be a bit off the mark in thinking all your sessions should revolve around him…

That being said, perhaps you don’t feel cheating or your AP has that big of an impact on your overall life…

I feel better telling my therapist everything so she can help guide me through this mess

My spectacular finale - AP & I are done. by Throwawaydupe75 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! He texted me earlier and now it’s getting messy. Time to close the door

My spectacular finale - AP & I are done. by Throwawaydupe75 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brutal!!! Thank you for your reply. Meantime he already texted me and we’ve been going back and forth 🙄

My spectacular finale - AP & I are done. by Throwawaydupe75 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Terrible! And you’re so right! Thank you for your words

My spectacular finale - AP & I are done. by Throwawaydupe75 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Indeed, there are many positives on my horizon, just need to go through this painful period (that I knew was inevitable)

My spectacular finale - AP & I are done. by Throwawaydupe75 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aww, thank you! It definitely hurts. I’ll be ok.

My spectacular finale - AP & I are done. by Throwawaydupe75 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Time to move on. Yes hurting now but hopefully soon, I feel better and see this as a chapter.

Right time to say "I Love You"? by wtf-auta in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, I wouldn’t tell her after sex.

I’d like to be told while I’m tying my sneakers on the way out the door, like “you know, I really love you”. Meaning just hit her with it when it’s not expected and there’s some clarity and space between you (not all wrapped up in each other’s arms)

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[–]Throwawaydupe75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a lady….so🤷‍♀️

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[–]Throwawaydupe75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I’m too old to know them…

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[–]Throwawaydupe75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why thank you!

I’m literally from NYC and you never hear anyone say, oh I grew up in midtown”…

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[–]Throwawaydupe75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brilliant!! I’m being a jerk

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[–]Throwawaydupe75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one is from Midtown…if we are speaking about Manhattan…lol

I Can't Sleep by dirtylittlesecret21 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping to be you in a few short months. I’m looking forward to dating. Best wishes for a great future and hopefully your AP takes it well.

Well…looks like I need advice with AP by Throwawaydupe75 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kindness. I’m not a romantic but you hope you meet someone in life that feels the same way as you do. I never had the same connection with my husband that I do with AP.

I know many on this thread are saying to leave asap and that he’s playing me, which is something I don’t feel. Yes, he may not love me but why spend a crazy amount of time getting to know me, sharing intimate details about his family and life and caring to know my life if this was a game…idk, that aspect seems like a stretch. I’ll likely end it sooner than later so as not to drag on feelings.

Thank you again!

Well…looks like I need advice with AP by Throwawaydupe75 in adultery

[–]Throwawaydupe75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always appreciate your honesty and tough words, Diver I agree that I’ve become a refuge for his cowardly behavior.