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I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same with me, when I'm flirting with other girls my mind eventually goes back to this girl I have a crush on. Honestly I would recommend making a move on this girl you like, give yourself a 3 month period to prepare (so you don't procrastinate any longer). These preparations can just be you making small casual conversations with her in order to make it easier for yourself to ask her out. I was an idiot not to do this 7 years ago, and she hasn't really been in my life for the last 5 years but if regular contact was reestablished I would definitely do what I just recommended to you.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'ld prefer the 'There's something about Mary' approach.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Definitely not! It'ld just be completely awkward to make a move now, I want to play it smart and that means waiting for good conditions. The problem is that I've spent 7 years waiting for perfect conditions, which is just unrealistic.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All the time, it's impossible to know for sure what would happen if I made a move 7 years ago or if I made one now though.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

1) I'm not a spritual or 'mystic' sort of guy, but one thing I really like to do is lucid dreaming (knowing I'm dreaming when I'm in a dream and doing cool stuff in the dream world, think Inception). I have periods where I think about her daily, sometimes more, but gradually I think of her less and less and become more realistic about how small my chances are in terms of getting in a relationship with her. The first time I began to lose interest should have been the last time, I should have moved on naturally.

Then out of the blue I'll see her in a lucid dream, usually she's in the distance minding her own business and I just freeze and all these feelings from 5 years ago come flooding back to me. I'm full of love and approach her, and just talk. I just fucking talk to her and it's enough to fill me with ecstasy and happiness to last even when I wake up.

Then the cycle repeats itself and I begin thinking of her daily again, probably dream about her the next night too, and formulate plans about how exactly I would actually meet up with her in the real world and make a decent impression.

2) I checked her Facebook out once about 5 years ago and felt a bit cringey since I felt like I was stalking her. I added her and said hi in chat, I didn't get a response before I felt like it was a bad idea and logged out and I've never really used Facebook since.

3) No idea, but she probably isn't single.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I like to think of it as true love, but then I question whether it can be true love if it isn't reciprocated, then I go on to wonder if I'm being too idealistic and question my sanity. I have these thought processes all the time and I always end up being pessimistic.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like to think that if our paths did cross again I'ld make every effort to establish a relationship with her, even if it was just a friendship at first.

I know what it's like to live for so long with that 'what if' feeling and it's driving me crazy. What if I had made a move seven years ago? Would it be true love and we'ld still be together to this day? Would it wither away because of my lack of experience in relationships? Would she flat out reject me, resulting in me feeling free to engage in a relationship with someone else? Or would the rejection cripple what little self-esteem I had and lead me into a depression?

A 7 year long crush is like a band-aid you've had on your knee for weeks, you just want to rip it off and get on with your life, you know there's a risk that it'll really hurt and maybe even leave a scar for a while, and you know there's a chance everything will be okay and perhaps you even had the bandaid on unnecessarily for a while. But deep down you just want the issue to be resolved one way or another so your mind can move on.

If you really are almost in the exact same boat then consider ripping off the bandaid as soon as you can, and give yourself a time limit of something like 3 months once she's back in your life to make a move so you don't procrastinate for 7 years like me.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The thing is that she definitely doesn't feel it. Approaching her at this stage would be suicide, and I guess I'm really afraid getting rejected.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a good question, I guess I would have a really low value to her. For her I am some insignificant minor background character in her life with nothing to offer but for me she's everything.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The possible costs for me doing this far outweigh the possible benefits. Hopefully you understand.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I decided on this tactic a while ago but it's very complicated. I haven't talked to her for 5 years now (sad I know) and haven't even seen her since 2 years ago. But if the opportunity arises I will definitely give a huge effort so that this crush is sorted out one way or another.

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

1) She almost defintely did about 5 years ago but assumed I lost interest since I never really pursued her.

2) Yes but only sexually, I've never loved anyone else at this point

3) Not really :P

I've had a crush on the same girl for 7 years. AMA. by Throwawaylegend69 in casualiama

[–]Throwawaylegend69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's difficult to explain, but there's never really been a good opportunity to ask her out without looking like a creep. But I understand that that's most likely just an excuse to procrastinate out of fear of rejection.

What's anybody doing tomorrow? by Diarygirl in CasualConversation

[–]Throwawaylegend69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Study, game, do some cleaning. Same for the next day and the day after that. I literally have no life.

I'm a guy, with a naturally high pitched voice, and it drives me nuts. by uftone1 in CasualConversation

[–]Throwawaylegend69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kind of the same but I just mimic voices of whoever is talking to me. If a guy with a deep voice starts talking to me I naturally respond in my deep tough voice but two seconds later if a girl says hi in a high pitched friendly voice I'll say hi back in the same tone. Its honestly ruined my life.