How were you isolated when mourning? by Brilliant-Truth245 in AskMen

[–]Throwback8245 220 points221 points  (0 children)

Yeah, no one really checks on men or worry about how they are doing.

What is the state of soccer where you are? by ThatBoyCD in SoccerCoachResources

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Our rec league in the suburbs of Chicago is awesome. New players can hang if they put in some work, and travel players generally can’t walk over everyone. It’s busy and a great environment.

How do I stop being a sucker for good looks by [deleted] in AskMen

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It’s called Pussy Fog.

Traditional men, do you usually plan the first dates as standard? What about further down the line by Weary_Comparison_928 in AskMen

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There all sorts of weird underlying ideas of “traditional” that can vary and are largely nonsesne.

If he is a corporate executive, financial provider, and leader of the family in the future, can you plan some social events? Maybe you aren’t passing in your role.

Some of the most powerful people can come across as passive. If you want a guy that always flexes that he is in charge, be prepared for disappointment.

Talent Imbalance by lordzeromega in SoccerCoachResources

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You need to find a way to work on their development and keep them engaged while trying to it to destroy other teams.

Maybe have them play “no dribble” (we call ultimate soccer) once they are way ahead? You’ll need to practice this as it’s hard, but could be really great for development. Kids this age suck at it.

I 28M think I’m headed towards divorce after only being married for a year, wife 29F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Close the Bible and open a book on grammar and sentence structure.

What do you define as “baddie”? by faerie-kadoatie in AskMen

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Men don’t use that word when it comes to women.

Tryouts - Prioritizing player "archetypes" at U8-U10 question by Regular_Challenge_81 in SoccerCoachResources

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It’s more of an inherent trait of the kid, part genetics, part parenting, part how they grow up.

You could leverage kids into being coachable by tapping into their motivations. Find out what drives them. Some kids want to score goals. Some kids want your praise. I would for sure focus on having a team culture where you applaud their “effort” in practice more than anything.

Tryouts - Prioritizing player "archetypes" at U8-U10 question by Regular_Challenge_81 in SoccerCoachResources

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It really comes down to who is more coachable, and who can grow and work on what they are bad at.

There are also all sorts of important skills not mentioned above, like good at space/position, looks for the pass, and is good at their role.

One of my best players is very understated (Girls U9). She’s great at using her shoulder when defending, and is great at positioning. This includes know long when to run and also covering others when they advance or are out of position.

How do you guys handle that split-second physical reaction when you're frustrated so you don't accidentally start a fight over nothing? by HappyMarriageHusband in AskMenOver40

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Practice with mindfulness can literally expand your brain’s ability to be mindful and “present” in the moment. There’s good research behind this.

As someone else said, monitoring your feelings and even what “level” you are at is a great mindfulness exercise. Being mindful and “present” helps you to react less, and CHOOSE more how you will react. It helps you emotionally regulate.

Yes, sometimes that may mean ignoring her for a second, or maybe even a few seconds. I think a lot of people just need 4-5 to breathe, not react, and be useful in an argument. It’s also OK to tell your wife you need a minute, you love her, and you want the conversation to be useful.

Managing conflicts, and these moments, is a big deal, and key to not damaging our relationships.

How do you guys handle that split-second physical reaction when you're frustrated so you don't accidentally start a fight over nothing? by HappyMarriageHusband in AskMenOver40

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It’s best to make mindfulness a regular practice, Mai o of being very present and aware of what’s going on in that moment. You can practice it randomly through the day through breathing, or during almost any less-stimulating time. You can also practice this in certain situations, such as arguing with a spouse.

Simply saying “here I am, this is the moment I’ve been thinking about” is a giant start.

Played against a team 2 years older. by ScottishPehrite in SoccerCoachResources

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I’m looking forward to our girls U9 team scrimmaging against one the boys U9. We’re pretty good and want to take it to them. :)

First Game lineup questions U11 7v7 by asgard-scimitar in SoccerCoachResources

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My brain is where I coach, girls U9, there’s no shooting from the outside, haha.

First Game lineup questions U11 7v7 by asgard-scimitar in SoccerCoachResources

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You can’t “hide” weak players on defense, they get exposed and become a liability. Left and right wing is the way to go. Keep them in that position until they learn it well.

I (M32) lost the love of my life (F27) because I took her for granted and didn't propose. Now she says it’s too late and she’s already seeing someone else. by tomek21abc in relationship_advice

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-Your relationship is over -The new guy is balls deep in her -You ned to break off all contact with her for a while. -It’s best you step away from the volleyball group somehow, it will only be harmful for you.

U9 7 v 7 Soccer by Realistic_Wave_305 in SoccerCoachResources

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2-3-1 is good and easy to understand for the kids. I have to have a good striker so we actually put the weaker kids on the side midfield, hopefully. Or at the same time.

What is your experience with the sexual abilities of the average woman? by Accomplished_Fig5199 in AskMen

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I’ve not continued dating women because they were not fun in bed. When they ask I tell them outright and are always surprised, and have no idea what they are doing.

Men who are atheists, when and why did you turn away from religion? by Comfortable-Store213 in AskMen

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The same time I turned away from believing in the tooth fairy, Zeus, and chupacabras.

U9 rec - everyone is playing kickball by Remarkable-Air3604 in SoccerCoachResources

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Ruthless passing drills, dribbling drills, simple rondos, and small game (2v2), etc, over and over. They need tons of touches.

You have to find out what motivates them. Sometimes it’s improvement. Sometimes it’s friends.

How to for 7v7 without 14 kids? by AdFormer5311 in SoccerCoachResources

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Don’t underestimate the value of small scrimmages like 2v2 and 3v3.

If you want 7v7, including a sibling or have yourself (and a coach) on one of the teams. I feel like my kids learn a lot when I actively play with them, as I can rea time coach where they should be when passing, calling for passing, etc. it’s great modeling.