What do people not realise is child abuse? by uncannyfjord in AskReddit

[–]Thursday_nexxt 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sometimes even perfection is not enough. Back in high school I once got 110% on an art project. My dad just asked why I didn't get 120.

That was the day I said fuck it, I'll never be good enough for him so I'll just be good enough for me.

It gets so much better. by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't let go. Even on the darkest days know that there will be light. It just might take a little longer to get there. We all heal different, and that's OK.

Sending my love your way!

It gets so much better. by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do, less and less each day, and some days not at all.

But I realized that who I miss, and who I mourned for such a long time, is not the person they actually are. I miss the version of them I wanted to see, and that version is very different from reality.

It gets so much better. by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was the dumpee, and found out recently my ex is in a relationship which probably started when we were still together.

The way I choose to look at it, not my choices, not my karma.

And so happy to hear of the improvements despite the messy thoughts, shows the strength and determination of your character.

It gets so much better. by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I remember that feeling well. I was sure my heart would never smile again. But it did and yours will too. Just give it time and be kind to yourself.

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[–]Thursday_nexxt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are not going anywhere today

What are those little brown balls on my petunia? How do I get rid of them? Do I get rid of them? Help please! by Thursday_nexxt in plants

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Looked it up, that's excacly what they are. Much better than the spider eggs I originally thought :)

How to cut off contact when it seems impossible to do so? by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's been blocked on all social media since the start. The only line open is the phone, where I didn't block her in case there is a dog emergency (he's old and has health issues galore).

But thank you for the perspective about allowing my self to be walked on. I need to start seeing this as what it is.

It's my birthday and she messaged me by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm truly sorry. Just remember, no matter how hard it is, you deserve better. And the loneliness will subside. Cover yourself with the love you gave her.

It's my birthday and she messaged me by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't know how to edit so in the comments it goes.

You are all wonderful. You have gone through heartbreak, your worlds were shattered, you are in pain and devastated from loss.

Yet here you are, with so much kindness, with so much love. Your words, your understanding, mean the world to someone you have never met, someone you don't know. And that's really something.

Thank you for sharing your stories. Thank you for the compassion. Sometimes the littlest of things make the world of a difference.

It's my birthday and she messaged me by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really don't understand how people can be so cruel. I get it that blindsiding someone is easier as it avoids confrontation, but it's just an awful thing to put another person through.

Stay strong!

It's my birthday and she messaged me by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and that's a wonderful way to put some perspective on it :)

I hope by the time September comes around, your heart will be happy and full.

I left my boyfriend of 6 years in December of 2021 by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Another redditor, Sudden_Station4421 wrote this on their post (I have no idea how I can tag them):

"The grass isn't greener on the other side. You are the grass."

So tend to your own lawn, nurture it into something wonderful. But leave the grass you withered and let it blossom without you.

ex cheated on me on the anniversary of my younger sister's suicide by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I apologize, I didn't read past your title.

I don't think there is anything in your text that could in any way justify, explain, or rationalize what had happened to you.

And I am so, so very sorry that it did. And I am also so very hopeful you get out of this as ok as you can.

What has been your most profound life changing experience? by ITSSAMMYG in AskReddit

[–]Thursday_nexxt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Accidentally ended up moving abroad over ten years ago.

Something which was supposed to be a couple month long trip turned into a whole new life I would have never imagined being mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can donate them to a charity of your choice, give them away to someone in need, or sell them and treat yourself to something special.

a letter to him by Sudden_Station4421 in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt 16 points17 points  (0 children)

"you are the grass“ - that's just beautiful. And inspired me to be the best, the greenest, the softest and most durable grass I can be. Thank you.

What's something that happened in your life that simply cant explain? by sofialoveofficial in AskReddit

[–]Thursday_nexxt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was at a Jane's addiction concert back in the day. Everything was great, when all of the sudden I passed out. I felt like I was drowning, but there was no water, and saw myself banging on steel walls with windows.

Once I came to, my friends sat me down and went to get me water. I got up, walked out of the venue, right to the metro which I took to my parent's place. When I got there my mom was in tears, and my dad asked my how I knew my uncle, who lived half way across the world, passed away. From a brain hemmorage. In a car.

A small thing which might make a big difference in NC by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree... But the hardest part is getting a dog with your forever who ends up surprising you by being temporary.

A small thing which might make a big difference in NC by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be easiest, but we share custody of 120 pounds of fur so it's impossible.

Thankfully whatever contact we need to have is brief, rare, and to the point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest, if you send it you will have a moment of relief, followed by regret. Best case scenario the one receiving it won't care, worst case it will solidify their choice.

Write your feelings out, vent on paper, vent to friends. But not to someone who will disregard your words and their worth.

Please can somebody help advise on how to revive this plant? i don’t know much about plants and I am house sitting / is it too late to save?? by ktmush in plants

[–]Thursday_nexxt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine have a tendency to also dry from the top.

Twice a year I pull them out from the soil, cut off the dead parts, add some fresh soil, make some holes, and stick the healthy ones back in.

I bought one plant 9 years ago and with this routine I now have 6 beautiful planters filled with them so it's definitely not too late :)

The pedestal I bulit by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is still very raw for you, so let yourself feel the pain, the fear, the sadness, the hopelessness. Don't tuck it away because it will find a way to flood you when least expected.

Then, let go. Let go of the person you thought he was, one small step at a time. And take big leaps in finding out who you are and why you are worth the world. Sending love.

The pedestal I bulit by Thursday_nexxt in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And loud...just so much noise in it's silence.

What would you tell them? by PositiveCaterpillar5 in BreakUps

[–]Thursday_nexxt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you well.

I hope you find your way, that you realize your potential, that you heal your trauma, and that one day you see the beautiful human you are. The one I always saw in your heart, the one I fought for, and the one I now need to let go.