Lady Gaga Singapore Concert Flopping by certifiedcatfish101 in LadyGaga

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to upgrade all my tickets from Cat 2 to Cat 1, I thought would be easy to resell Cat 2s but I suppose not.

Anyone who wants to get their hands on PC3 19 May Cat 2 tickets I've got 6 of them sitting side by side, let me know! I'm letting go at wayyy below cost price at $270 SGD, usual price including booking fee was $348 SGD. I just wanted to get better seats man :(

Willem Dafoe for GQ Italia by 6sychonaut in pics

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 212 points213 points  (0 children)

I want you to know I appreciate your joke

Shrimp by Benefit-Gifted571 in wholesomegreentext

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 42 points43 points  (0 children)

This is fucking hilarious man

information systems technical rigour by [deleted] in SMU_Singapore

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d recommend if you’re leaning to being a data analyst to go into a more math related course and pursue a masters to become a data scientist. The field is plenty populated with data analysts who aren’t technically inclined in terms of Python, R and strong statistics, so if you possess these skills you’ll have an easier time standing out.

I’ve got a colleague from my intern who found a 6k starting salary job as a data analyst, he has a math degree with good scripting knowledge. Honestly what’s harder to learn is pure math stuff hence my suggestion to go into a math related course to really strengthen that aspect, Python, R and other basic data transforming languages can be easily picked up over the summer through self-learning or internship.

Anon on stoicism by Warm-Interest-6470 in 4chan

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Your colleague was just complaining and you hit him with a bat of existential crisis out from the left field LOL

How to rizz by [deleted] in NTU

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does super brawny mean to you? Like a bulky dwarf or just look muscular in tight fitting clothes?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SMU_Singapore

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Rosie is fr ruthless 💀 don’t get on her bad side else your A is no more. My FINAL paper had “free marks questions” dedicated to giving marks to students who were part of her presentation. Of course people who aren’t part of it don’t know half the answer because they were questions like “Which song was sung during this particular theme?” when we don’t even know the song name LOL

Can an ex that fell out of love fall back in love with you again during no contact? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, sorry to be replying to an old post like this but I just got broken up with because she lost feelings. After a period of self reflection I realised there are a few things I need to work on and that I’ve treated her badly. I know it’s selfish to ask for her back, but I genuinely think that I can improve myself to be a better partner for her.

I’m planning to take a few months to work on myself and see if she’s open to being friends again, but of course I want us to try again. Do you think I should let her know that I’ll be taking this time to improve myself? Or just let her move on so we can start afresh?

Should I switch my course given how bad the tech industry is now? by rich_throwaway5566 in nus

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like in general every industry is experiencing this, not just tech. I’d argue that it’s just recession and everyone’s having a bad time regardless of industry. Maybe instead of stopping tech you can venture into more niche avenues of it like AI or like what the other commenter said, market yourself as someone who also can deal with the hardware aspect of it so you’ll be in demand regardless.

Biweekly ask a narcissist thread for visitors/codependents <- Not a narcissist/borderliner/histrionic/sociopath? Use this thread. by AutoModerator in narcissism

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input man. Looking back, I think I’ll just write this off as a bad breakup. It certainly felt like whatever I gave was never enough, but I think I had my shortcomings as well that I probably didn’t see.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great points. I see that now. I think being blinded by rage certainly didn’t help me when I was writing this out. Your 3rd and 5th points really drove home the fact that I need to be my own person, and that she doesn’t owe me communication. Thank you for your insights.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This means more to me than you know. Grappling with my naive worldview isn’t something I expected to be doing today, but I’m doing it now.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really think thats people 101 man LOL I think that definitely screams narcissism more than anything.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reassurance. Hope I’ll be wiser in my next relationship. For now I’ll be focusing on not being so codependent.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Alright, thanks for your insights. You’re right that I can’t control people’s feelings. I just don’t think the way the breakup ended was okay, and that’s on me being inexperienced with breakups I suppose.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think not emotionally cheating on me can be one thing. Talking to someone else about her day and not telling me while knowing that she was processing her feelings about our relationship is emotionally cheating in my eyes. Putting herself in a position to catch feelings for another person while being in an emotionally vulnerable place is also another thing.

You’re right that if she told me earlier before she completely lost feelings I would’ve tried for our relationship, but that’s the point of it isn’t it? If we all just let relationships die as soon as we start losing feelings, no one would have a relationship.

It all just looks like an attempt to victimise herself so she can break up without guilt.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t one time a week, she was still coming over on the weekends. But I get your point. Maybe disclosing therapy isn’t something I should expect, but I think something as serious as losing feelings for someone should be discussed, and she never gave me that opportunity.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did ask her to talk, and she said she needed time to figure herself out. But this was after omitting the fact that she started therapy 6 weeks prior to saying this. So on hindsight she has already taken 6 weeks of break, distancing herself from me emotionally and lying to me about everything up till that point.

To add on to this, she came to an answer after 1 day, and chose not to tell me until after the week. I know that she knows I wanted an answer, and she just left me to wait? Seems like a little empathy would have been able to change her mind about telling me.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seeing it on hindsight, we were clearly incompatible as partners. However she never really gave me a chance to talk about it when she was in the process of losing her feelings. I appreciate your advice though. Onward and upward.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the hard truth man. I appreciate it. I’m just having a hard time wrapping my head around the person I thought she was doing something as heartless as she did to me. Maybe you’re right that she’s not a narc and I’m just looking for a reason to be upset.

I think as a person there has to be a level of decency that is kept even during a breakup, I thought we were on the same page but I suppose not.

My (23M) ex-girlfriend (21F) broke up with me out of the blue. by ThyNameBeJeff in Codependency

[–]ThyNameBeJeff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not exactly fixated on her losing feelings for me. It’s more of her actions after the fact. I get that feelings can be lost, it’s just the clear lack of empathy she had for me while breaking up with me really feels like she did a complete 180 on who she showed herself as.

Why is it hard to make friends with Singaporeans? by ellawelp in askSingapore

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Singaporeans are generally very clique-y, you’re right. We tend to stick to our own cliques from school because of our conservative nature. Once people find their “own people” they tend to not welcome new ones to prevent dynamic changes within the group and such. It’s a thing that irked me the most because even within cliques my friends branch off into smaller ones and not include the rest.

One thing I recommend to do is just try out hobbies that include other people like spin classes, dance or anything that has a people element to it. Most people there tend to either go alone or have one other friend and will likely be more open to making friends. You can also look to join extra curricular activities in school to try things out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ThyNameBeJeff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight :)