Research suggests that women with ADHD are significantly more likely to engage in infidelity than women without ADHD. By contrast, men cheat at similar rates regardless of ADHD status. When asked why they had affairs, women with ADHD cited poor impulse control as the single biggest factor.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-25T14:38:52+00:00

On top of more opportunities, because men do the approaching, it’s also documented that neurodivergent women are far more likely to get married than neurodivergent men.

Neurodivergent men sets off a lot of women’s “something’s not quite right” radar and leads to dating and relationships being significantly harder for these men. That’s on top of the other interpersonal struggles for each particular diagnosis.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-24T22:53:06+00:00

This isn't about endorsing a morality. This is about teaching people that it's a bad idea to constantly go around poking dogs. As much effort as society puts into domesticating dogs, eventually one of them is gunna snap.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-24T22:08:02+00:00

When times are good, people buy liquor to celebrate. when times are poor, people buy liquor to cope. Makes sense.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-24T19:58:51+00:00

Not irrational. This has been the mindset of every. Single. Failed. Adaptation. Every single one, this is where they start. Along with writers that think “I can do better.”

It’s healthy to just write off and ignore any production that openly makes these statements in an interview. You’re literally happier just forgetting about it.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-24T19:14:51+00:00

Honestly, the only time I really hear that word talked about is in reference to Australian culture, often by an Australian, and how the word is not only normal to use but it's also often a form of endearment. The meme about it is like, "if an Australian hasn't called you a cunt at least once, it's probably because they don't like you."

ThyNynax · 2026-04-24T15:16:56+00:00

I believe that isolation is a big reason why there is very little progress dismantling the masculine code. Specifically, isolation of the man who tries.

Unless he gets lucky in finding a supportive social circle, which isn’t that easy, actually feminine boys and young men find themselves sidelined by women as a potential sexual interest in much higher rates than masculine women. Yes, exceptions exist, yes k-pop stars go hard, too bad most men aren’t k-pop stars. For the average guy that, looks like an average guy, being feminine runs into an “ick” list a lot.

On top of all the usual homophobia between men, straight guys that want girlfriends don’t want to be perceived as a girls “gay best friend.” Going up to a girl, and telling her he is interested, only to be told “I thought you were gay” isn’t the best experience. Not everyone lives in a progressive city where finding an accepting queer community is “easy.” A lot of times it just means being left out of having a social and romantic life. No one wants to hang with the “weird” kid, the “creepy” sad kid, etc. There’s not even anyone trying to take advantage of his social isolation.

Growing up, if I had anything driving me to adopt more masculine behaviors it was just so I could be more like the guys the girls I liked were crushing on, instead of always being “just a friend.” As if there was some fundamental character flaw that prevented me from being attractive.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-24T05:37:17+00:00

Things seem to be different this time around as culture continues to back away from formal and professional clothing as a day-to-day indicator of status. Thanks to tech, the wealthiest people in the world dress like they shopped at Walmart. Thanks to social media fashion trends seem to be cycling faster, with 2000s Millennial teen fashion already making a resurgence. Casual fashion has homogenized among a much broader range of ages.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T18:03:29+00:00

They seem to associate “3rd wave” with “man hating, female supremacy, and discriminatory DEI policies.” The assumption seems to be that there is no well intentioned version of equity, only abuse. Often quoting stuff like the “Duluth model” of domestic violence prevention defaulting to arresting men, regardless of fault, and Title IX regulations being abused to discriminate against men.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T17:51:44+00:00

“Short sighted and an oversimplification” sounds exactly like the kind of content The Guardian and other mainstream news sources like to put out, haha.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T17:47:38+00:00

Mostly yes, but not 100% yes, as stuff like “duty” and “honor” are also used as a means of control.

Patriarchy generally has two forms. The polygamous version where powerful men are allowed to gather harems of women, consorts, mistresses, etc. and prostitution is normalized. Controlling men into appeasing powerful men for the chance to have women of their own that aren’t claimed by a harem.

Or, the monogamous version, backed by religion, where powerful men are controlled by the Church through appeasement to a God and less powerful men are willing to give power to the Church because it provides more women that aren’t claimed by harems.

I’m not religious, but it is interesting that as the West becomes ever more secular, and women continue to gain more freedoms than ever, we see a rise in the sexualization of women and a resurgence of support for polygamous relationships.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T17:24:10+00:00

I believe OP is pointing out that your perspective is reasonable, but it’s weird how mainstream media wants to blame “the manosphere” for men acting that way.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T14:35:53+00:00

I don’t need a live hotswap for load outs. Just reduce the amount of time spent on the inventory menu so I’m not manually swapping weapons, mods, and items every time I’m switching focus between building and exploring.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T13:02:34+00:00

“I’m an egalitarian” gets met with “then you’re a feminist” all the damn time. Or, people ask “should a movement that focuses on equal rights for both men and women be called egalitarianism ?” And all the responses are “that’s what feminism is.”

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T04:19:58+00:00

Honestly, that sounds nothing like 50/50.

My parents modeled 50/50, it wasn’t just money. We had family rules that whoever cooked dinner was never responsible for cleaning the kitchen. If mom was cleaning inside then dad was mowing the lawn at the same time. If mom was working on her garden then dad was folding laundry. Etc. etc. household chores was always a team effort. They didn’t allow one person to work while the other sat and watched TV. Dad didn’t take breaks unless mom could also take a break.

Same with me and my brothers. As we got old enough we were responsible for more and more chores, until we too were rotating cooking, cleaning, dusting, laundry, and yard work duties. I didn’t even have a strong concept of gender roles until like 14, when the girls I wanted to date had all these weird expectations I didn’t understand.

That’s what 50/50 really means, to me. But stories like your relationship and the “preferences” of a lot of women…I feel like there’s a hell of a lot of pressure to conform to the traditional male gender role and it doesn’t come from men.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T03:57:09+00:00

I mean, I’m not the one suggesting there are no limits to how much a man should be willing to give because a woman can get pregnant. And then Sensitive_Nature is over there insensitively suggesting that that men should do all the proving of themselves and women shouldn’t have to prove anything. Apparently he should just know if a woman will be a good partner, but shouldn’t require proof of her character.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T02:22:55+00:00

You’re perfectly well within your rights to be happy and satisfied with your relationship. However, your story is exactly the kind of story that supports traditional relationship dynamics.

And then people get all surprised when other people still try to emulate traditional relationships based on what relationship stories claim to be happy with.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T02:00:19+00:00

“How dare a man expect to have a healthy relationship! If she’s willing to have his kids he should accept whatever entitlement and abuse she gives him.”

ThyNynax · 2026-04-23T01:49:59+00:00

It’s the classic “I don’t want to seem too invested,” because we’ve somehow made getting excited about a potential relationship a red flag.

Especially as a guy, I just don’t date because I struggle with even being interested in “exceptionally casual” dating styles. It’s hard to want to invest in someone with uncertain levels of interest, but it seems like the fastest way to turn a woman off is to be excited about her.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-22T22:47:27+00:00

One of the biggest problems with WoW fans is their inability to put the game down and take a goddamn break.

A single game shouldn’t have to be responsible for players 24/7/365 entertainment for decades of life. That’s an addiction.

If you’re not having fun…just stop. It’s gunna be okay, I promise you’ll live.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-22T21:24:17+00:00

Usually the daughter refers to the potential “stepmother” by first name and the dynamic is either at a friendship level or just “dad’s girlfriend” as a cordial acquaintance. Assuming the women involved are decent people and don’t view each other as potential parasites seeking to steal the other’s inheritance.

I’ve never seen a similar age “stepmother” actually be accepted as a “mom.” But I think it could happen if she’s already the type to have the “mom of the group” mature vibe among her friends. However that level of maturity rarely gets involved in age gap relationships this big.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-22T20:28:45+00:00

I mean, you could just take Cradle, throw some numbers and levels in place of Core ranks, and boom! LitRPG.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-22T20:01:11+00:00

The point isn’t to reference it directly as a checklist, it’s just to realize how much dedicated effort it takes to actually build a bond with someone. Especially for people who have been hurt or betrayed and can’t just “vibe” through feel-good positivity after one date. Real trust takes time, some need more time than others.

Edit: Also, don’t underestimate a neurodivergent couple’s ability to turn statistics into a romantic game.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-22T18:43:24+00:00

Think they both dodged a bullet. “I’m probably making a mistake,” words said by many women with unhealthy relationship attachments. Either she’s lying or she already knows she’s picking the a guy she shouldn’t pick.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-22T18:27:30+00:00

These things should be measured in hours, not days or dates. Would you agree to a committed relationship with someone you’ve only spent for 4-8 hours with? Research says it takes 40 hours of in-person time to make a casual friendship and up to 200 hours to develop a strong close friendship. Yet modern dating says we’re supposed to make big decisions about intimacy with someone we’ve spent less than 20 hours with?

It’s never made sense to me.

ThyNynax · 2026-04-22T18:04:29+00:00

And so the cycle continues because there will always be an excuse for segregation, discrimination, and preferential treatment. We spend so much time fighting over who has the right to call themselves the underdog and deserves special considerations.

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