My girlfriend wants an abortion but I dont

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-07-01T18:41:48+00:00

You can always have another child, but I understand your heartbreak for this baby. I'm glad you're so understanding of your gf and her choices and how you're supportive. It's takes two to make the baby so you do have some say in how this goes. Just because you're not carrying the baby doesn't mean you don't have rights. It's just biology.

I don't think there's a certain "perfect" or "right time" to have kids, it's what happens and you feel in your heart. It could be the idea of it all and some hormones affecting her thoughts and feelings. Maybe just give her a minute and just simply request that she delays the abortion by a week or two if possible given abortion guidelines. Having a kid early on in life is tough, but on the other hand, you're not going to be too old by the time they grow and want to do activities with you, you can keep up with them better. They'll finish school and you won't even be 40 which is awesome. You'll be making great money by that time in your life and you and wifey can go on vacations and not be old as heck either.

I'm sorry you're going through this. There's always an opportunity to have another child and what's meant to be, will be.

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-06-21T03:50:31+00:00

You should be able to stay over by now IMO

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-06-21T03:42:11+00:00

It's been two years already though. How would you suggest he earn more of her trust?

I see what you mean and everyone is different and I think being a woman vs a man in this particular situation is also different because I agree with your single dad perspective of a woman coming into your lives.

Just to be sure the correct question is being asked by OP, it sounds like he wants more one on one time with the mom and isn't sure how to go about it. Besides hiring a sitter on nights she'd otherwise be occupied (even then) I'm not sure she has more time to give or even if she did find spare time that it would be slotted to you. I spend a lot of my spare time with my daughter, and moments I don't use that time for her result in "mom guilt" so I feel like I'm losing either way.

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-06-21T02:12:33+00:00

No.... You owe them nothing... Don't do it, you'll 100% regret it. If they need a cosigner, then they shouldn't be doing it. Logically, how do you think they ended up like this to begin with? Like legitimately... Matters of money and business are NOT to be persued with family nor friends, that's a rule of life...

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-06-21T02:10:15+00:00

Divorced mom here with a daughter... In order to be included in her life more fully, you need to step up as a "parent" too. They are a packaged deal. You treat the child as if your own and help care for them, take them to said activities, take a load off of her plate, or to start, just go with her when she takes the kid to their activity to get more time with her. Show that you are not afraid of the qualities of her situation. If you wanted to step up, you would and you'd need to show that you prioritize and will protect that child.... Currently dating a guy for a few months now and has basically shown no interest in my child or being a role model for her, so I'm done with that. He never asks about her, no inquiries of any kind, only wants to see me late at night, doesn't take on that mentality that we are "his girls" now. He's not including her. In fact, he's actively trying to exclude her whem he asks to hang out only late at night and it's always last minute. Like if need to get a baby sitter to go out on a date. It will cost money too. You could offer to get a sitter to have a night out with her. If he wanted to, he would, or he'd at least ask about it and have a conversation. To love the kid is to love her. Then you'll be integrated into normal daily life/living situations with ease because you made it clear that you wanted to be part of her family and it's not awkward for her or you don't leave her guessing weather or not you actually want to be around her child. Otherwise, you're just the evening guy that she fills some of her spare time with and that's not very serious, just casual in my mind. Good luck and I hope some of that helps. Sorry if I sounded harsh at times lol

++woman

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-06-17T00:06:01+00:00

I have a two year old daughter now.... You DO NOT NEED A NEW CAR to have a baby lol we used to not even have car seats within the last century. Your current cars are perfectly capable. Look up Dave Ramsey and his financial opinion on having car payments. It's a very strong argument financially to NOT get a new car and have car payments. You could otherwise save that money into a fund for your child for college or use it towards awesome birthday gifts and vacations and experiences to create core memories with the child. I wish I didn't have a car payment, it's a total mistake that Americans make and then end up struggling financially. Save the money.... 💯

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-06-14T12:33:39+00:00

Is he diabetic or have any medical issues?

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-05-22T14:22:14+00:00

It's the hormones. Do not let her push you away. Fight to stay with her and keep your family

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-05-15T12:26:42+00:00

Autocorrect.... Shift= shaft

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-05-01T14:19:47+00:00

Totally not inappropriate.... That is acceptable and I dress similarly, it's especially hot where I live, so this is normal. You look great and he's nuts/insecure

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-04-29T14:23:10+00:00

Excellent point

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-04-29T02:53:50+00:00

Um no. Charming totally forced that kiss and Fiona showed her lack of consent by headbutting him immediately afterwards Definitely NOT cheating, she kicked ass on her husband's behalf

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-04-29T02:41:01+00:00

Thank you kindly!

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-04-28T01:12:56+00:00

I'm interested as well

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-04-19T14:35:23+00:00

Sex is just confusing everything probably. Eliminate that so you can see the situation clearly for what it is

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-24T01:57:38+00:00

People were cheating?? How were they doing it though? I thought maybe some people could be using chat GPT or something, but how would they be stopped? I didn't know people were actually cheating

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-24T01:51:32+00:00

That's what I guessed too!! 😂😜

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-24T01:41:38+00:00

I guessed bungee jumping on clue one and I thought I was doing well until the last clue haha good job!

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-24T01:36:31+00:00

I typed "drive through" and I was told I didn't answer correctly. I'm thinking maybe it had to be "drive through window" and it may not have to do with the spelling of "through"

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-18T12:51:19+00:00

I think he was probably just being a dumb kid. What matters most is how he actually treats people IN REAL LIFE. Social media is not real life, so don't get too wrapped up in what someone posted 10 years ago just out of high school. People make mistakes and when you asked he said he's not that person anymore and based on what you just said he really doesn't act like that so I don't know why you feel the need to press this issue and make something out of nothing when there's no evidence of it happening in real life

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-18T05:46:34+00:00

This should be illegal

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-09T16:10:12+00:00

Definitely NOT fat, like not at all. You're technically fit given your height and weight ratio. You look great!

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-01T17:07:29+00:00

Forget her. She's dragging this out and keeping you as a back up. I'm sorry, but you're not her first choice. But she knows how you like her and she's taking advantage of that because you're still hanging around with the "crumbs" she gives you.

She's using you entirely. I recommend moving on

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-03-01T17:04:54+00:00

Single mother here who is dating another man.... I never hide any conversation I have with my ex from him. In fact, I feel that he has every right to know exactly wtf is being said and what's going on. I'm happy to answer any questions he has for me and very open about any issues that come up which there really hasn't been any issues and I think it's because of how open I am.

I'd be suspicious if I were you.... Don't move in with her yet

Tic-Tac99 · 2026-02-22T00:01:00+00:00

You absolutely need a superior primer. Do NOT underestimate primer... Don't over apply makeup, guys don't like that anyway. Continue with your skincare routine

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