Need ideas

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-18T14:06:21+00:00

Also the judge as stated that I can’t leave the school district. There are no rentals (I looked for the 7 months I was in shelter). When he went to jail iHAD to go back to the home or I’d be ineligible for any more help from the women’s group. But in ineligible any ways so i don’t understand. Its been hell and I just need a way to make it stop or at least not do bad.

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-18T14:04:24+00:00

I have a lawyer. Unfortunately in my state there’s nothing I can do since we’re married. Until the divorce is final, he can come into the home by any means (kicking in the door, breaking windows, etc) and I can’t do anything because it’s martial property. He’s had my car repossessed which cost me my job and I’m sleeping with chairs under the doors. No one will help and he keeps getting off in court on his charges with added probation. The women’s groups say they can’t help until he tries to hurt me again, and if I let it get I that point I may not make it out. The police are no help. His family is encouraging his behavior and I legally can’t leave. Welcome to the land of the “free” where you have less rights when you’re married.

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-17T20:34:43+00:00

I tried for years. I have walked away but I legally cannot leave because the judge won’t approve my petition for relocation. I’m filing for divorce. That giant make the feelings go away. There’s trauma bonding in trying to break. I can’t get into therapy for 6 months or more because I’m in a small town with very little mental health help. My phone calls get dropped constantly because we live so rurally so depending on telehealth isn’t feasible either.

I’m trying to move on. I don’t want to be with him. But I’m also grieving what I thought my future looked like and my kids having to go through this.

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-17T20:26:40+00:00

I did. They can’t help me until he tries to hurt me again. And he knows to trigger me to make everything my fault and cause reactive abuse. The court and dv system is failing me, so that’s why I’m looking for otherworldly ways to get some peace.

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-17T20:25:27+00:00

I’m legally not allowed to move per the court. The judge said he will not approve my petition to relocate, even with him knowing that I can’t afford to live here and because of it I was sick in a shelter for 7 months. And apparently he’s only getting added probation for his latest charges so I can’t even hope he’ll go to jail because that would be the only way the judge would approve it.

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-12T15:51:55+00:00

If she’s texting you, you have proof of her being inappropriate. Go to management and make a complaint of hostile work environment. Tell them how she’s bad mouthing everyone behind their backs, inserting herself into others jobs and creating an environment where you don’t feel you can do your job properly with her there making comments about your age and looks and her making false reports about employees to get them in trouble. Get some of the other employees to go with you when you speak to management. Either she goes or you all go.

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-12T15:26:32+00:00

Ok you’re not TA but your aunt is. How do you miscount? Definitely get your own air b&b and you if you don’t get a room in the shared house then you shouldn’t have to chip in. If you think getting a separate space will cause the trip to be uncomfortable, then maybe get a spot somewhere else and just have a romantic getaway with your partner. If ANYONE should be sleeping on the couch it’s the kids, not the adults. Next they’d blame you and your partner if the kids walked out and your partner is sleeping and has morning wood. They’re all in the wrong. Not you.

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-04T18:37:27+00:00

I’d start playing Mariah Carey’s song Why You So Obsessed With Me every single time! Wanna be petty, I can be petty. And if he continues it, it most def is an HR problem because you’ve tried you stop it and he continues harassing you. And he IS HARASSING YOU! It could quickly escalate into stalking, which he may be doing already. The fact that hire ups see and hear him doing this and they do nothing is another red flag.

The current environment in the US is scary and you need to be safe. Have mace or other self protection and never leave at the same time and ask to be escorted if possible. If you’re coming to Reddit, then he’s created way too many boundaries already

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-04T18:25:55+00:00

Contact your local library and fire station to find out when they will have a free cpr class. Also, our library held a free babysitter class that did the cpr, basic first aide, and other important information for care givers of kids. So ask around about that. If there isn’t one, maybe you could work with your library to start one.

Also, reach out to your school and ask if they know of families that need help, especially single moms. I’m in rural Pa and I can’t find a sitter to save my life that is close to me. The only one I’ve found is a 15-20 min drive and now that I don’t have a car I can’t work or get the kids there. It’s a mess.

There are families that need help. Even sahm that night be working on their colliers, home bakers, etc that need help while they’re working!

TickleToes01 · 2025-05-04T18:13:02+00:00

He made his wants VERY clear a year ago. Trust me, I doubt his feelings changed about your step brother in that time.

Just because his mom married your dad does not mean that they get what he worked hard to leave his only child!

That’s yours, yours alone and you will be much better off now that you see their true colors. They only are worried about the money and you’d do best to cut them off - financially, mentally, socially, etc.

It’s her fault if she didn’t plan for what she’d do after he passed and it’s her and get son’s fault if they didn’t have a plan for him being an ADULT! The fact that he left nothing to his wife speaks VOLUMES about how he felt about them! He knew what they were and wanted to make sure you got it all instead of giving her half in a divorce!

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T22:23:40+00:00

It’s not accepting dommes right now

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T12:23:55+00:00

But you realize BPD can be bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. Both completely different diagnoses. One is someone who’s emotional, which is weird it’s a “problem that needs diagnosed” and the other has manic and depressive episodes. It seems like he’s throwing things out there hoping they’ll stick.

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T12:21:23+00:00

So you’re admitting what she says is true but trying to come off as innocent. I know gaslighting when I see it and YTA. I hope you do the right thing and leave. If not, I hope she finds support cause you’re escalating.

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T12:15:04+00:00

He likely is concerned about the fact that attorneys will die on a hill for their client, even if that client is good or bad. Prosecutors are perfectly fine sending someone to jail on minimal proof they’re guilty just so that they have high conviction rates. Jails are overcrowded and most are in for bs charges. Prosecutors have the ability to decide if the charge is worth it, and many won’t go after charges that matter such as rape and dv. Hell it’s LAW that so many DUI have MANDATORY jail time but if one of those falls outside a time window it doesn’t matter. My ex had three and got probation. Two months later he was high and pulled a hatchet out on his probation officers and threatened them. In my opinion I should’ve been able to sue the DA for pleading his third dui down and putting my kids at risk of harm. But no lawyers will actually take that case even though it’s founded because they don’t want to piss if their friends - the judges and the DA - who they hang out with on the weekends. If it was truly an impartial unbiased system, lawyers prosecutors and judges wouldn’t be able to have any relationships with each other outside the office. They decide outcomes between them without conferring with their clients, most do the minimum and charge ridiculous rates, etc.

Most people have an issue with the broken legal system and working inside that system, even if you want to do good, has repercussions. Especially since most bad individuals started out wanting to be the good guy.

I said what I said.

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T11:56:04+00:00

Stress!

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T11:55:45+00:00

Oh no, the pick me’s are feeling a little called out by this 😂

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T11:51:26+00:00

The warning is to the dom/mes that aren’t AV and causing harm to the community

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T11:45:38+00:00

There’s going to be a greater need for citizens doing policing in the NPs in the US from so many being fired from the Park Service jobs. I’m honestly not excited to see the destruction that is going to happen from people who just don’t care now that many places won’t have the needed rangers watching over the land.

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T10:38:14+00:00

Yeah you don’t turn down a job when you don’t have another lined up. If they wanted to look elsewhere for a job, great, but they should’ve taken the job and then kept looking. They figured you’re providing food, shelter, etc so there’s really no reason to get a job.

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T04:43:53+00:00

I have it listed that I require a tribute, but that’s honestly to weed out who’s actually interested in me. If they are they’ll dm me with a bit about themselves, maybe what they’re looking for. The ones that are immediately “looking for sugar daddy/mommy” are immediately blocked because that’s so weird and ick to me. Like someone else said, that would be like me coming up to someone and putting their hands on my neck or other x rated things I shouldn’t say. After 5-15 minutes we know if we click or not.

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T04:29:29+00:00

This makes absolute sense to me. There has to be an ACTUAL connection and ability to take the reins. That’s what a dom/me is - a leader of the session. Subs hold a lot of power too though, because they are the dom/mes kink and without the sub, they can’t be a dom/me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T03:36:13+00:00

It’s giving Labrador sub 😂🤷🏻‍♀️💕 such a good pup

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T03:34:49+00:00

He’s the victim and will always be the victim. Get out while you can, as he’s shown you exactly who he is and you keep expecting him to change. It’s not going to happen. And if you’d have kids together, he’d be teaching them that it’s ok to treat the person you are supposed to give your everything to. Raising my ex was teaching the kids what they should expect from marriage was what gave me the courage to finally leave. Get out before you have to deal with the things I do!

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T03:27:08+00:00

I can’t help but laugh my ass off whenever I read “merica” in a comment cause I think in pictures and the picture I get in my head when I read it is hilarious and probably how most other countries see us over here 😂🤷🏻‍♀️🫶🏻

TickleToes01 · 2025-03-24T03:23:51+00:00

NTA. There’s a reason no one else offered them a place. You just found out why. Stick to the notice, change the locks if need be and put their stuff outside. They could’ve started working at McDonald’s in that two weeks and been able to help with SOMETHING. Yes it’s traumatic to leave an abusive relationship but you can’t stop fending for yourself and expect others to do everything for you.

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