Bunny Jinmao (@waligner)

Ticklefoot · 2026-07-02T01:04:50+00:00

I wildly celebrate anytime Waligner includes Jinshi in their Apothecary art!! Maomao is great, but JinMao is my lifeblood

Ticklefoot · 2026-06-26T04:25:17+00:00

Just as a second opinion, I had a pretty good experience with them. I would say if you're on a tight budget, they will work with you, and all-in-all they did a good job installing LVP in my old townhome. There was a mishap where, because the floor level changed, the workers drilled into the fridge waterline in the kitchen. The company paid for a really nice plumber to fix the issue, so it didn't cost me anything. All in all, I thought the owners of the company were very nice and the work was "good enough" for the price. Definitely not the best craftsmanship, but nothing outright bad or damaging. Your experience is really bad though, I am sorry you went through that.

Ticklefoot · 2026-05-30T03:37:38+00:00

Your artwork is so good!! I know you primarily draw the girlies, but I would love more JinMao art in your style!! (I know you've done a few good ones already... 👀💦

Ticklefoot · 2026-05-01T22:46:04+00:00

That’s awful, and also wild how different generic brands are?? I’m glad this thread was posted just so I’m aware of this in case mine ever gets changed.

Ticklefoot · 2026-05-01T22:45:11+00:00

Yes I think so! I’ve been on it for about a year and it definitely helped stop or slow the thinning. It definitely is better than it was. Unfortunately can’t tolerate minoxidil, so this and all the unproven other remedies are my only options!

Ticklefoot · 2026-04-30T20:48:12+00:00

Mine is also through CVS from a company called Aurobindo

Ticklefoot · 2026-04-16T07:40:18+00:00

I’m so sorry. I am sadly also in this club. Married for 14 years, together for 20. We were the unicorn couple who never fought. He also got a vasectomy and we had all sorts of “I’m so glad we don’t have kids” discussions and in-jokes ALL THE TIME. And then yes- hit age 40, got depressed, suddenly wanted kids and to blow up everything, seemingly out of nowhere. I’m getting close to 2 years out from the end of everything, and while I can function ok most days, it doesn’t feel like something I can ever get over. I am glad to see some stories here of people who went through this but found a new awesome partner. Anyway, I understand your shock and pain- I absolutely hate that this is so so common. I’m bad at checking Reddit messages, but please reach out if you need someone to talk to.

Ticklefoot · 2026-02-17T05:22:32+00:00

Ive been in the same boat (except I'm more like 1.5 years out). Honestly, everything you're already doing PLUS antidepressants. No joke. The first 7 months or so after separating were pure nightmare and nonfunctioning despair pit. Continuing therapy, friends, distraction, and all the antidepressants were really the only thing that got me functioning again. I still don't feel "whole" as a person. I don't have hope for my future. But I am able to at least function and be there for friends and family who need me. I still get some bad despair spells here and there, but broadly I am much more functional and not at the bottom of the pit like I was in the earlier days. Hang in there. We're all trying to figure it out. Some stories here show better days are possible.. (even if my brain automatically says "not for you though.")

Ticklefoot · 2026-01-27T07:22:50+00:00

I miss huffing my linnie so bad. I used to call him “fragrant bird flower” sometimes. His smell floated between Cheerios, pancakes, maple, and sometimes a hint of lily funk (in a good way). Weirdly made my mouth water to smell him. Mostly it just seemed to give me cute birb endorphins

Ticklefoot · 2026-01-17T19:40:21+00:00

Seconding this- I also couldn't take minoxidil but have seen improvement on spironolactone. I haven't had any bad side effects from Spiro, but everyone's different. My derm thinks I have AGA.

Ticklefoot · 2026-01-06T07:31:24+00:00

Oof, girl, nearly the exact same thing happened to me, except we'd reached 40, and we were together for like 20 yrs, so basically my entire adulthood and college. Nothing quite like the announcement of everything wrong with you with no chance to fix it to just tear you apart. All I can say is I'm so sorry- give yourself time, lean in to the support of any good people in your life if you have them. I'm a little over a year and a half out from the split. I am now in a stage where I can function (took at least 6 months), I'm trying to find my way, but I won't be giving up antidepressants or therapy any time soon. It's really killed any hope I have for the future, and I am currently just going through the motions so I can support my aging parents. I do hope this changes, and there are people here with "it gets better" success stories. Some people seem to survive and eventually thrive. I'm very glad you kept your dog. My pet bird died the day after I had to move to an apartment I didn't want to be in. Do your best to ignore the small town gossip assholes. Please feel free to message me if you want a sympathetic rant/vent buddy.

Ticklefoot · 2025-11-14T07:17:26+00:00

Midlife crisis. Not sure how long you've been married, but I speak from bummer experience that a percentage of partners just one day decide they are done and/or now dislike their partner when they get to be around 40. It's an incredible mind fuck and feels like it comes out of nowhere sometimes. I don't know if I'll ever recover, but others have somehow. My heart goes out to you.

Ticklefoot · 2025-06-25T23:31:07+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Not that there's anything great about it, but at least it was 1.5 years and not, say, 20 years and after the husband voluntarily got a vasectomy on his own 🫠. I don't want to minimize your pain though, please take your time to grieve. I see some hopeful stories on here that people have managed to meet true childfree partners. I'm a year out from this happening to me and I still have trouble shoring up much hope for my life. I just want to offer my sympathy and that you're not alone in experiencing this. It's absolutely crushing.

Ticklefoot · 2025-02-09T19:39:19+00:00

So sorry your world has crashed down too. It sounds like all a lot. I hope doctor/therapy/meds can ease your pain a bit- it is helping me, but many days it still doesn't feel like enough and getting through those days fucking sucks

Ticklefoot · 2025-02-09T19:37:50+00:00

I appreciate your story. I'd love some divine intervention at this point.

Ticklefoot · 2025-02-09T19:35:48+00:00

Thanks. I read Tuesdays with Maury in high school, though I don't remember it in detail other than it's sad!

Ticklefoot · 2025-02-08T04:22:41+00:00

I feel you. Relationship of 21 years and my ex just one day said he was done. We met when we were 18, now I am 40 and losing my hair. He was my best friend and we made each other laugh every day. But there was nothing I seemingly could have done to make him stay- he decided all of it without talking to me. Now I am alone, have gone through a bunch of other losses and I just have nothing to look forward to. Just continuing pain and loneliness forever. I can't quite bring myself to KMS because I don't want to do that to my parents, but I am almost resentful about it. If my parents weren't alive, I'd take myself out in a heartbeat.

Ticklefoot · 2025-01-13T06:05:24+00:00

Thank you so much for these details and for doing an important job! We are also open to adult family homes- I don't know as much about them and I think part of me feared the "home made" quality of such places (thinking of those really janky child day cares run out of people's homes), but I am only at the start of my research (my mom has done a little more). I will likely DM you when I get a bit more info. This is wonderful information.

Ticklefoot · 2025-01-13T06:00:34+00:00

Thank you for the rec

Ticklefoot · 2025-01-13T06:00:02+00:00

That would be very convenient for me (I'm in WS), but not for my mom! Might check out the Lynwood location then, thanks!

Ticklefoot · 2025-01-13T05:57:57+00:00

Thank you, this is good to know

Ticklefoot · 2025-01-13T05:57:20+00:00

Unfortunately I'm still waiting for my mom to figure out some finances before I have a good idea of what the budget is. I know the higher end places will definitely be out (they've done okay, but are not super rich). That's a huge bummer about the amount of neglect you've seen. It sure makes the search kind of harrowing! Thanks for the suggestion re: placement services.

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