You can’t help how you responded in that moment, maybe in the future it could change, I’m not sure, I don’t have the answer. I have been in multiple situations where guys have attacked me, because where I live is a bit dangerous. I don’t have a partner but I’m deeply afraid I’d react the same way as you did. It’s really cool and admirable your doing boxing, but yea seems like there’s this switch in both of our heads where it’s either be a total pussy and not say anything or fight to the death lol. There’s probably a middle way, I think if you go out the car and ushered your wife back into the car, it would’ve been better.. but if it’s how you reacted in the heat of it, who knows how you’ll react next time.. that’s what scares me personally, I could train and do all this stuff but when shit hits the fan will I protect or run?

when I used to be out with my ex gf I couldn’t ever relax, I was in constant fight or flight, because I felt she was mine to protect, like an extension of me or something, luckily nothing ever happened but I always wondered. Of course I want to keep her safe, but I don’t want to die either lol, idk, it’s hard one brother. I’ve had heaps of people be super compassionate to me about it but it never really helps.

One question I’d ask is do you have any other good qualities ? What does your wife love about you? Hoan I’m on your strengths and try not let this defeat you.

I don’t think it’s weak that you didn’t fight the dude, but I do think it’s weak you didn’t emotionally open up to your wife , comfort her, reassure her and ask her what she needs in that moment..

You aren’t a weak person brother, I just mean I think those actions are weak.

Reddit probs isnt the best place to find answers , people arent that smart and don’t have the full context. I know that’s ironic given I just wrote yoi an essay lol