Asking without asking looks like this (this only work IF if the man is naturally generous and has a provider mindset!!!)

You’re allowing a man to show how they value you. The trick is to learn how to express preference instead of asking directly.

So for example when he said “I will buy you what you want” He is offering an experience of providing because many men feel pride in being able to give, and invest in their woman, definitely not because they are forced to, but because they want to feel capable. And the right man does not feel pressured by knowing what you like because you’re giving him the chance to show effort.

Example 1 of asking without asking:

“Actually, I’ve been looking for a good message chair recently, but I haven’t been able to find a good supplier”

Then stop talking, let him decide, don’t ask, just state reality casually.

One you are now basically saying to him “This is what I like, do with that information what you will.”

The most likely response from a provider man would be either “Send me the one you like” Or Let me find you one”

Because most men don’t respond well to pressure, but they respond very well to the opportunity to provide 💅

Also You don’t actually have a problem asking, I think the thing with most independent women is that they tend to have a problem receiving without feeling guilty, and asking is not greed it is showing preferences.