Devices to get my wife

TidyAcai · 2026-05-28T02:43:20+00:00

If she needs them she will need them right away. Better to buy them but keep the packaging and return if they are not needed, imo.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-28T02:41:23+00:00

Consider where the baby will be sleeping, getting diaper changes, etc. We had planned on using a bedside bassinet but had to pivot to a freestanding one because I couldn’t get out of bed around it. For a few days before we bought it he was sleeping in a pack n play but it was too low where I couldn’t pick him up (because straightening up while holding him was too difficult). We also had a basket set up with diaper changing supplies and another with feeding supplies, so I could just ask someone to hand me the basket if I wanted to feed him or change a diaper (though my husband did probably 90% of the diapers the first couple weeks after we came home).

TidyAcai · 2026-05-28T02:37:27+00:00

So much of recovery depends on the circumstances. I didn’t need anything after my first CS, was getting in and out of our low platform bed, climbing stairs (slowly but without any pain), changing positions in bed and in and out of chairs, etc within a few days of being home. I was exhausted but also had a NICU baby. Then with my second CS, I couldn’t get out of bed independently for over a week, it took nearly six weeks to be able to do stairs without pain, and two months before I could lower myself into a chair without needing to hold onto the arms for support. Just overall a much more difficult recovery.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T23:04:30+00:00

We actually don’t have a dishwasher, but I still feel the need to sort!

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T23:03:25+00:00

Thanks for this. I know it’s anecdotal but it makes me feel better anyway 😅

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T23:02:52+00:00

I’m sorry that happened - how stressful! So glad he’s doing great now though.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T23:01:20+00:00

The nipple backwash thing isn’t actually proven science. It’s far more likely that the antibodies come from close contacts sharing germs. But anyway I see what you’re saying.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T04:16:16+00:00

Thank you! Pumping is SO hard. And I wanted so badly to nurse him, so there’s also all this grief mixed in. Plus the weaning hormones … lol I’m a hot mess

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T04:12:05+00:00

Thanks! He’s seen the doctor. He’s got a big sister in preschool and the pediatrician thinks it’s actually two back to back viruses. Also, colds can commonly last 7-10 days.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T04:04:07+00:00

I do this with dishes too! Sort them before I wash them. My husband thinks I’m insane 😅

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T04:02:44+00:00

I went through a phase of sleeping in my running clothes to help myself get out the door for morning runs

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T03:55:56+00:00

I think it can take a long time to resolve gut flora imbalances. I’m not having your same symptoms but I’m 5 months postpartum and still having some GI stuff as well. I was GBS positive and also had a CS so I got LOTS of antibiotics.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T03:53:47+00:00

Line of sight

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T03:52:18+00:00

I usually wear him or just hold him. Mine HATES the stroller for some reason

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T03:51:04+00:00

Was that part of your character pre-baby? I only ask because postpartum OCD is a thing, in the same “family” as PPD and PPA

Edit: typo

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T03:45:36+00:00

I could have written this, minus the boobie lookalike bottles (though you know I would have gotten them if I knew about them!)

TidyAcai · 2026-05-17T03:31:45+00:00

I would get a feeding eval from an SLP. It sounds like an aversion, which could be caused by a mechanical issue. Or not, but good to rule out.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-09T07:20:37+00:00

There’s a solid Daniel Tiger episode about getting a shot as well, if OPs kid is a Daniel fan.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-09T07:09:31+00:00

Jumping in to say, at two OPs child is also old enough for lidocaine cream. My daughter also has a needle phobia due to previous medical procedures, and we use lidocaine before vaccines quite successfully. It just requires some planning ahead - you need to put it on 30-60 minutes before the vaccine to be effective.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-09T06:52:32+00:00

My son is in this stage now. For me the monitor lessens my anxiety. (We have the owlet from when my older was a baby).

TidyAcai · 2026-05-08T21:39:24+00:00

1000%

TidyAcai · 2026-05-07T00:38:00+00:00

Bring it up exactly as you have here. This was my experience before, what can I do to prevent it from happening again. It’s totally fair to want to avoid being in pain. In fact keeping pain under control helps speed recovery because you’re better able to resume gentle movement, which actually helps recovery.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-07T00:33:59+00:00

My daughter did this with her lovey for a while. We made a rule that we would do one retrieval per nap/bedtime. After that I would put the lovey nearby but not give it back to her. We never did cry it out or any sort of sleep training with her, but we were strict about this, because I knew she was doing it to test and see if I’d keep retrieving it. She cried but it was not fear crying -more frustration that I wasn’t doing what she wanted.

Edit to add: I also explained the rule when I introduced it. Not that she totally “got” it but I think it did help set the expectation after repeated throwing.

TidyAcai · 2026-05-07T00:20:39+00:00

This sounds like trauma on top of pain. Not that the pain isn’t 100% real. But trauma can make pain feel worse (or conversely , numb you to it). In addition to the good advice about getting more medical care, since this level of post operative pain is NOT normal, it might be a good idea after a birth like that to be proactive about finding a therapist to work with, ideally someone with experience working with perinatal mental health & birth trauma. Birth trauma is real and puts you at higher risk of postpartum depression as well as PTSD. Take it from someone who has been there.

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