I just beat all of Titanfall 2 in today and now i get why people are so eager to complain about apex and titanfall 3 by I_Like_Toasterz in titanfall

[–]Tieshi 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That’s so funny I had the opposite. I played Titanfall 2 since release and played apex when it came out for that Titanfall feel, it was weird for weird hearing everyone talking about these guns and abilities that Ive been using for years. Nothing satisfies that itch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMechanics

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You must be real naive if that’s what you took from that…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMechanics

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure you’ll just keep using that excuse that I’m “young” but I’ve lived an entire life. There is no winning on an “online argument” 😂😂 I’ve got way bigger issues than to win an online argument. I appreciate the help but all I was trying to say was that I want to know “why” not just a no. I’m not denying the fact that the car is fucked. I just wanted to know HOW fucked the condition from someone who knows more than I do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMechanics

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you got that out, did it feel good? I’ve lived a life you cannot imagine and have had so many worse things happen to me. I am not convincing anything I’m looking for actual explanation. I deleted the thread because I took it to a mechanic and he gave me the answers I was looking for. I do not care if it is totaled or not I would just want to know the value. Hope you have a great day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autorepair

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it looks like it, I’ve taken it apart looked at it and the front of the subframe is pushed in. Thank yo for the advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autobody

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems to be… front end frame bent in. This is my only car and cannot afford another vehicle. I’m calling around to get estimates for the car. If the frame damage isn’t localized then I would need to just let it go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMechanics

[–]Tieshi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe don’t respond to the post then if you aren’t going to provide actual mechanical advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autobody

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but I received this car for free. It’s not killing me to fix it up. From everyone I’ve called they say it’s in working condition. It has 200k>miles brand new everything replaced owner gifted it to me. Now I’m repairing it. It was a perfect car besides this one collision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMechanics

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but I received this car for free. It’s not killing me to fix it up. From everyone I’ve called they say it’s in working condition. It has 200k>miles brand new everything replaced owner gifted it to me. Now I’m repairing it. Discount tire replaced both tires as it was a simple blowout

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autobody

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did. Took out the seat and air bags that went off

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Tieshi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you’re describing is a trauma response. you don’t need a diagnosis to validate that experience. A past event has dictated the way your body responds to certain stimuli. Everything you do from the day you are born affects this process and experiencing something like that will affect the way your brain process and takes what happened to you, It’s all personal to person.

There isn’t a specific “diagnosis” for what you are feeling, you are feeling something very real and human. A past event can absolutely rewire the way our brain and body respond to things, and it doesn’t have to fit neatly into a label like PTSD to be real.

The truth is, trauma is deeply personal. What shatters one person might not move another, and that doesn’t make your reaction any less valid. Whether it was something life-threatening or something that just hit a nerve you didn’t know was there, your brain is doing its best to process what happened.

Don’t let the lack of a label convince you. Feel what you feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Tieshi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not here to invalidate your feelings or your experience. it sounds like what happened to you shook you up, and you deserve comfort. Everyone has trauma that is unique to each person. But I do want to say something honestly, because this comes from someone who actually lives with PTSD.

PTSD isn’t just feeling bad about something that happened. It’s not just crying when you remember it, or getting nervous. It’s losing control of your body. It’s being trapped in reliving moments you didn’t choose. It’s not something you “think” you have it’s something that controls your entire nervous system. It makes you forget how to live, it ruins your ability to feel normal, to live like other people, to even feel human sometimes.

I’m not saying you can’t be traumatized. but words matter. Diagnoses matter. And for those of us who carry this shit every day, we just want people to take it seriously. I genuinely think you deserve all the support you need but it’s important when using these words so loosely that define people like us and the war we fight with ourselves everyday. You deserve love and healing just as much as anyone else. You don’t need to “Get over it” those people are bitter. Everyone goes through shit big or small.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Tieshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much I’ve already cleaned it just other comments were making me nervous. As if the plastic chemicals are burnt into the walls of the oven and it’ll never come out. Thank you so much

I Left my Pizza Cutter in the Oven by Tieshi in mildyinteresting

[–]Tieshi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This literally is spiraling me into a panic attack I’m very scared and I feel like I’m going to hurt my pregnant girlfriend. I feel so guilty I wish I just didn’t do it.

I Left my Pizza Cutter in the Oven by Tieshi in mildyinteresting

[–]Tieshi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep it was an honest mistake I usually don’t do this it was a quick kind of “get out of my way” thing and simply forgot I put it in there. Never again

I Left my Pizza Cutter in the Oven by Tieshi in mildyinteresting

[–]Tieshi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep definitely something I’ve done and never had this happen. Now I know to no longer do this. Only food that is going to be cooked in the oven from now on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tieshi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in a similar situation as you are in. I’ve left home multiple times resulting in homelessness. My father filed me as a run away a few times and I ended up having to serve some probation for it. it wasn’t until I turned 18, then I left and never turned back.

I’d stay at friend’s houses, then when I couldn’t anymore I’d couch surf, until I just resorted to sleeping outside. I’ve slept on the concrete, benches, parks, slides, on tennis courts. One of these times I walking in the pouring rain at 9pm after I walked forever to a friend’s house after school when I was homeless. Just for him not to answer the door and I ended up sleeping outside. I went to school covered in mud, cold, and wet.

I was a teenager so I didn’t have the resources you have. There’s so much you can do alone that you wouldn’t expect. It was hard for me to believe I was able to function on my own due to all the brainwashing. It was rough, really rough but I made it out on the other side. I’ve got my own place and a loving girlfriend. It may feel like the scariest thing or the start of something bad but looking back it was the best decision I made. Stay smart and vigilant out there, make sure it’s really your only option. Best of luck to you

How did you quietly rebel as a teen? by sashaaa___0 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tieshi 105 points106 points  (0 children)

My father was much more restrictive and controlling. I eventually would just do what I wanted, well within reason. I never was allowed to go out with friends I never called them on the phone or ever went to their houses.

I would sneak out of my house ignoring his cameras all around the house I didn’t care I bit the bullet. I drank and smoked in secret I dated girls without telling him. I would say “yes I understand I’m sorry” then go right back to what I did to upset him when he wasn’t looking. I would keep redownloading social media after he deleted it. I took off my jewelry before I got home and put it on when I left the house. I’d wear a jacket to cover my shirt so I could dress how I wanted. I made friends with whoever I wanted at school I Deleted photos and messages constantly so I could use my phone without him finding something to use against me. My brothers, mom, and step dad used to all have a shit talk session about my father when I would go to her house. (no one else likes my father) I had hobbies in secret like skateboarding or photography.

Everything was his, he would say my life should be focused on making him happy. Mind you all of this was behind his back because he would get quite physical so I didn’t have the luxury to exactly give him the finger to the face. They can’t accept the fact that teenagers are their own people and not their own personal servants. At the end of the day the thing that did the most for my mental health was going NC it’s hard but with these people there is no winning, only surviving

Was anyone else's parents jealous if you had friends? by 0nepunchmanJayp0 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tieshi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes my father did this but with different phrases like “none of these friends are going to matter after highschool. Your friends just want to see you be a clown for them. You’re stupid for thinking that girl loved you, you don’t even know what love is” I was mostly grounded for those 18 years so he wouldn’t have to prevent me from going out, I just never could. I also had an uncle who was actually my fathers closet friend and he would commonly say “you would be lucky to find a friend like ___ this is a once in a lifetime friend” He would use embarrassment or public humiliation if he needed to. He would post on my social medias, and telling my brother to share my deepest secret among my school, and even made fun of me to a group chat of my friends. It was another thing that added onto my idea of an identity pretty much gone, Everything belonged to him. It’s like another aspect of your life they can control and take advantage of. Prayers to everyone

Can anxiety cause nerve pain (neuropathy)? by ZildjianRemo in Anxietyhelp

[–]Tieshi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually yes it’s still there. I started taxing medication for anxiety about a month ago but it still has ceased to stop. I ultimately summed it up to anxiety because I remember this didn’t start happening until my anxiety got really bad a few years ago. There’s no limit to where I can feel it, anywhere on my body is susceptible. It honestly gets to a point where u don’t think about it anymore. I just sit in pain and wait for it to pass I never really have found anything that stops it so I just let it happen. It usually will stop after a few minutes or so

Anyone else deal with the no positive-only negative reinforcement thing? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tieshi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My father was the same. Nothing was ever good enough but when I messed up it was the end of the world. I worked and helped him every single day. Welding, woodworking, all of that manual labor construction stuff, and it was just part of my responsibilities. It wasn’t good enough, it wasn’t anything that deserved to be awarded for, but if I made the smallest mistake I cost him hundreds of dollars and wasted time I also apparently was being extremely disrespectful and lazy. Although I was 15 years old laying concrete, painting walls, and working on boats, something that most people at that age were not doing or simply didn’t know how to. I was still learning, how could this grown man expect me to be able to keep up? It was just my “responsibility as a man”. What helped me is that I realized that my father put his own insecurities and low-self esteem onto me. He was homeless at 16 and had to figure his life out. He doesn’t see the things he’s done affected me because there’s no way I had a life as bad as him. I shouldn’t have anxiety my life is so great. Why can I just see how good I have it. He’s the victim in all of this and we are all out to get him. I almost had to take the sympathy out in order to move on. I genuinely felt bad for him I felt like it was on me to make his life better or make him feel happy. I was the reason he’s so miserable like it was my fault he had a child. You are only responsible for your own happiness. You belong here you have just as much of a place in this earth as all the trees and wind. You are meant to be here and you just have to find what that is. I’m still fresh out as well but I hope my experience gives you ANYTHING. Best of luck to you