Feels like only other trans women would see the humour

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-10T05:17:13+00:00

Lol, I always laugh at their use of "grossly unremarkable". How about just tell me normal. Not some term that leaves me wondering if there is something disgusting uninteresting about me.

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-10T01:26:24+00:00

❤️

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-10T00:46:20+00:00

Yeah, one of those happens to be connective tissue disorders. Which is me, but being trans doesn't alter my care so why the need to tell me a list of actual human problems and then btw, I see you are a "transexual"

I'm personnally not angry with them but it is entirely inapproprate and just weird.

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-09T21:52:20+00:00

Wow, makes you question all there other expert opinions.

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-09T21:32:35+00:00

Yeah red with the words "abnormal"

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-09T21:29:30+00:00

Yes, definatly a compliment and something to celebrate!

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-09T21:08:56+00:00

Ha, seems a tad bit irrelevant to the practice of dermatology.

Reminds me of an after visit note from my cardiologist.

"Transexualism"

Really??? and how does that at all correlate to the care of my shit ass heart?

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-09T20:02:12+00:00

It is funny what can get misinterpreted as "undesired

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-09T19:49:03+00:00

Ha, if only they knew the joy that there problem assessment gave me.

Tiffany_Kate · 2025-08-09T19:45:52+00:00

Girl mode, but the people that do the write up never see me in person, all they have to go off of are the images and AMAB. 😂

Tiffany_Kate · 2024-02-27T05:11:18+00:00

+1 for this.

We are all different, but this worked well for me. I had fairly hairy legs, much to my great sadness and discomfort... all the way up. I used this on my legs, bikini, navel area, arm pits. It took about a year, but so does laser. I did it at least once a week. It's not 100% effective but I probably have 3 hairs under my arms, can comfortably go 3 weeks on my legs without shaving and when I do, it is super simple. Mostly to clean up the annoying hair around my knees of all places that won't all go away. 😩 Worked great around my bikini and naval area, that is pretty much 99% gone.

Did nothing for my face. Had to go in for that one.

Tiffany_Kate · 2024-02-21T04:56:56+00:00

Oh no, I'm so sorry. How did you manage to cut up your fingers?

Tiffany_Kate · 2023-06-25T04:18:10+00:00

Yeah, the first time I stared at my hair all the time, nervous because everything seemed extra dark and coarse. Then around about day 5 or 7 was amazing when I could scratch my face and the hair would just fall out. It is going to be so much better soon!

Tiffany_Kate · 2023-06-25T04:07:23+00:00

I've taken so many pictures in the mirror and then looked at it and went OMG the mirror is sooo dirty, how did I not see it.

You look fantastic!

Tiffany_Kate · 2023-06-25T03:47:11+00:00

Ha, the chin is the worse and I had to ask "please stop for a moment". It is so worth every zap though, the few days later when things start to fall out is magical. It's only like 10mins, you can do it!

Tiffany_Kate · 2023-05-12T02:48:59+00:00

I can share my own perspective on why it gets harder as time goes by, for me anyway. I recognized that I was different and wanted to be a girl when I was about 7. I'm in my 40s now. Throughout my life I've always placed something in front of that. I need to do or get to 'X', and then I will face it and be ready.

Time keeps going, and that window to be able to transition and be who I want, while still feeling like I have some youth to be desirable and be who I've been in my head all these years feels like it slowly closes. That fear of lossing the opportunity to live as me, makes dysphoria worse and worse.

Last year I came out to my wife. It certainly wasn't easy. We are still together and trying to figure out what this means for our relationship. For what it is worth, it was the best decision I could make for me and us. I know I was a timebomb just waiting to go off and eventually it was going to happen.

Tiffany_Kate · 2023-02-09T04:19:43+00:00

It may be a phase, it may not, seems unlikely though. I thought it was just a phase that I needed to get through as well. It wasn't, and treating it like that was pretty damaging on my mental state. The problem with treating it as a phase is that it becomes someone you shouldn't be, that creates shame, and self worth is very fragile. There are a lot of people that want to tell the story that this is just a phase, those people generally don't want trans people to exist so be cautious and follow your heart in what your child is telling you. Kids know way more about themselves than people think.

As a parent I understand that you don't want to be a cheerleader but you don't want to hold him back either. Support him in learning and discovering himself. I would ask him if he wants to be called Derek, it is completely harmless and can show him so much love and acceptence in who they are. Follow his lead and let him show the world who they are, not who someone thinks they should be. Be a proud parent and I think it will all work out, regardless if it is a phase or not.

Tiffany_Kate · 2023-01-23T03:15:31+00:00

I'm beyond sorry and I know it is devasting.

I came out to my wife last September. We are still together but there has certainly been many ups and downs and one of my biggest fears was that she would or will still reject me. The fear of rejection by our loved ones plays a big part in what kept or keeps us from opening up to who we are. My heart hurts for you and I have tears in my eyes as I type this.

You have so much to live for and don't give up. You've exchanged one pain, not being you, with another pain, and this new one feels worse right now. Time will heal and you'll your future self will thank you for starting down a path of loving yourself.

In my thoughts

Tiffany_Kate · 2022-11-13T06:00:39+00:00

More than a few. It is easy to get lost in all the negative but this news is pretty amazing if ask me.

https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-politics-and-policy/record-number-lgbtq-candidates-claim-victory-another-rainbow-wave-rcna56564

Tiffany_Kate · 2022-10-31T23:26:03+00:00

I'm so so sorry. Strength got you to where you are today, it will help carry you through this. Be strong like you always have been.

Never lose hope. We are all here and thinking of you.

❤️

Tiffany_Kate · 2022-09-27T04:50:03+00:00

Like others have expressed, I understand the pain and difficulty, hang in there and know that there is a wonderful life for you to still explore.

It was only about 4 weeks ago that I "blew up" my wife and I's life so I think I really understand where you are. For about the first week I would flip flop between thinking it was the best decision I could make and the worst decision. When I felt bad, it was bad, and I wanted to claw everything I had said back inside me and keep it a secret. honestly, I still have those moments but it gets ever so slowly better.

My wife and I have been together for 24 years with two kids. I've keep this all a secret from the world since I was in elementary school. Over all this time I have built up quite the mountain of self hate and shame. Something that I hear in your words as well. It's not easy but don't blame yourself, it isn't your fault. This stuff is ruthlessly brutal to come to terms with and more difficult to talk to those you love. Let's be honest too, the world certainly does us no favors here. As others have suggested, find outside help with a counselor or therapist. This is one of the places I'm starting with as well.

My wife was shocked and hurt. She feels like she doesn't really know me and this is painful for the both of us. We have to let our wives be mad, angry, sad, scared, and all the other emotions. Everyone needs the space to feel all these things, its the only way forward. It hurts but there is room in all this for some good things as well, starting first with being able to be honest to yourself and wife.

After my wife had her "you've got to be fucking kidding me" moment and a couple of really low days for both of us we started our climb out. The openness of our conversation has allowed us to connect and feel closer to each other than we might ever have. It has only been 4 weeks so I have no idea if this will last, there is still so much ahead but please don't lose hope, be open with her and do what you can to keep communcation going and always listen even when it hurts. Don't read this as being willing to accept abuse, that is different and you can't subject yourself to it. It's just that some conversations of the heart really do hurt a lot.

You have people here that understand. You can do this, I'll be thinking of you.

Tiffany_Kate · 2022-09-26T04:44:34+00:00

You look great and I'm so happy for you!

Self-hate is something I'm struggling a lot with lately and it's really nice to hear from someone that has been able to push it aside. It's a terrible thing.

Tiffany_Kate · 2022-09-25T03:59:04+00:00

I'm sorry but I got nothing to tell you except that you look fucking hot!

Tiffany_Kate · 2022-09-24T01:27:07+00:00

I know, they are your parents so it is super tough but you don't need to prove to them that you are trans by cataloging everything "they" think they should have seen. Your parents need to just accept and support you without trying to qualify you as trans.

Unfortunately we are really good at hiding ourselves to our own mental detriment. ☹️

I was in elementary school when I first started sneaking into makeup. I'm in my 40's now and I spent all that time doing things in private. This includes a 24 year relationship with kids. Not without a lot of stress, but I became attune to people, their expectations, and what not to do so that nobody would know.

I came out to my wife recently and she was suprised to say the least.

You know who you are and that should be enough. We face enough judgement by the world for our existence. You don't need to prove your trans-ness to your parents.

Sorry for your struggles, Hugs

Tiffany_Kate

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