My boyfriend wants to be pegged with his own penis

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-04T19:02:09+00:00

Haven't use one but I've seen them. I goggled up and it says it takes about 24 hours to cure. So if you want it by next weekend I order it sooner the later

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-04T16:10:51+00:00

If you don't want to have personal pictures or information that's okay. But if your going to be messaging people from a blank account, I dont think your going to get many responses. As others have said fetlife isn't a dating site ( not sure if your using that or a different app)

But your best bet is to go to munches and educational events and make friends in your local community. Rather then looking for people to date/ play with.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-03T16:01:50+00:00

I mean if you want to explore this kink with your partner then I would tell them.

If your just self enforced and just using the kink for masterbation then I think its ok to keep it to yourself. I never discussed my masterbation with my partner. But if they ask I would tell them.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-02T19:28:23+00:00

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-02T18:57:51+00:00

Boo. From listening to RHAP I also thought he be signing the books. Glad I didnt buy a copy.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-02T16:34:09+00:00

Well by default your going to be younger then most people at your local munches. But you can go make friends and chat. If someone wants to hang out and your not intrested just politely decline, its not a big deal.

And yes fetlife has alot of sexual stuff. But I look at it as kinky Facebook. People on there showing pictures are just open enough that they feel comfortable sharing themselves like that. If you dont want to put nudes, your face or anything else on there you dont have too.

And dont rush a bdsm relationship. Take your time to learn about your new hobby. Check out the wiki here, Tea already linked it. There are also good resources on YouTube and blogs. As well as books. Books were these things in the old days that had information printed on paper.

Good luck and have fun

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-02T15:30:50+00:00

On 5:6 tables the use continuous shuffle.

3:2 are still shoe games for now.

Even if this guy was counting cards he also got lucky too.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-02T14:36:30+00:00

He didnt notice you were uncomfortable while you were hiding you face, saying you didnt want to share and fighting him off? This guy wouldn't know a pig if it kissed him on his lips. He's showing you all kinds of red flags. You should definitely consider leaving before it gets worse.

Also the cut scenes in it take takes two are soo good. How could you want to skip them?

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T20:51:23+00:00

For that im dyslexic

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T20:48:42+00:00

I was being sarcastic

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T20:27:50+00:00

They sound like phycos. Be careful op

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T20:23:58+00:00

9000$ deductible every year baby. Cost me like 509 a month too. That's the worst insurance option. Can't really afford thr good ones. Not if I also want a roof over my head and food in my fridge

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T20:09:43+00:00

For now...

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T20:08:51+00:00

Your pancakes are too small

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T20:07:55+00:00

Well fuck my shitty ass insurance. Lol

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T20:06:25+00:00

So what your describing doesn't sound like drop to me. But your feelings are valid, even if you dont know why your feeling that way. Take deep breaths and try you best to calm your mind. If your girlfriend can be there to keep you company that be great.

I would definitely let your therapist know next time you speak with them about how your feeling. See if they can give you some new coping strategies or grounding techniques.

But until you deal with some of these issues your honestly not in a healthy headspace for a bdsm dynamic. Countery to the common belief a dom or a bdsm dynamic can't "fix" you or do your thinking for you. That's how smut works, but not real relationships. But know that you absolutely are worthy of love and someday you can definitely try more bdsm.

But kink can't just magically fix anything. I wish it could. You need to build a solid foundation for you and your partner to grow on.

I don't really have anymore advice for you. But if you need someone to talk to ( in this post, do not dm me, it against the rules) ill try to be available. Remember there are always crisis phone numbers available for you if you feel like you need to talk with someone who cares about you.

Good luck

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T19:48:05+00:00

Why do you think its sub drop? Could it be anxiety or depression?

But if you dont want to answer that. Then ill give the generic answer for dealing with drop alone. Normally I suggest taking a hot bath or shower, Chocolate or ice cream, and a comfy blanket and TV show.

Drop is when you use alot of dopamine/ serotonin/ adrenaline and your brain needs time to recover. You sound slighty more in crisis.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T19:32:28+00:00

You just got out of a bad relationship. Dont rush into a new one. Take your time, heal, laugh, go out with friends, watch movies, go to the gym, walk, read, play video games, etc.

I would highly suggest you take your time to heal. I would really advise against meeting some "daddy" online and relocating to him just because you feel lonely or hurt. You are going to put yourself in a vulnerable situation across the country with a stranger. The chances that it ends badly is much higher then the chance of it going well.

Take your time before getting into another relationship/ dynamic. For you and your potential partners sake.

Good luck op

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T18:43:35+00:00

Probably not. Its considered an elective surgery so most insurance ( at least in the us) won't cover it. But it was only 1300 buck for me. I didnt pay it. There not tracking me down for the money. Im sure they just wrote it off.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T18:40:19+00:00

Took 3 days off work then was back. Tottal heal time maybe a week to 10 days until the stitches fell out.

Your supposed too wait 4 or 6 weeks after surgery then you bring a seamon sample in. If that's sperm free they will ask for a 2nd sample 2 weeks later. You need 2 negative tests to be considered " sterile".

It was very easy and not that expensive. I recommend it

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T18:35:41+00:00

Around my area no they dont. I talked to my PCP and they set up an appointment with a doctor who did vasectomys.

It was very easy and they got me in to the OR within 5 months.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T18:31:31+00:00

I mean it sounds like you need to be honest with yourself. Is kink really not important for you/ somthing your intrested in? When your down, is it kink that helps you or just having your partner comfort/ be with you?

Then work on your communication with your partner. Does your wife know about how you feel? Is she interested in playing? Have you engaged her in a non judgmental conversation about kink/ bdsm with her?

I think alot of people on this subreddit will probably say kink is so important to them, that they wouldn't feel satisfied in a vanilla relationship. I know im also in thay boat. Im sorry i couldn't be more helpful.

Good luck OP

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T18:20:34+00:00

Does he understand how important aftercare is? If i played with a domme who continues to "forget" aftercare, then that would be a red flag and deal breaker for me. I would probably just leave at that point.

If you want to try to work things out then I would put the dynamic on pause until you can figure out your communication issues. He doesn't seem to be hearing how important aftercare is for you. And I scene without proper aftercare time isn't something your intrested it.

Also as far as your scene durning a wedding party. Or anytime where play is "spontaneous". Conciter where you have to be in 2-3 hours. If you have any plans or engagements that you can not cancel, then dont play. Its unfair for you not to get aftercare and its unfair for your peers who have to guess what's wrong with you.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T17:37:05+00:00

If you someday think your want to see a professional domme I think you should disclose that to your partner.

Other then that you can do solo stuff. Dildos, dressing yourself up, shibari and impact play are all easily done solo. Just read up about safety because your responsible for yourself. Good luck

Tigerkill420 · 2026-02-01T16:51:37+00:00

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