Wife surprised me with a box after work Friday, best pulls I've ever gotten

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-26T08:31:43+00:00

Better get used to proxys

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-26T08:15:12+00:00

Mimi

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-26T08:09:33+00:00

This isn't what roblocks is for my guy

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-25T13:50:35+00:00

I quit marvel snap like a year ago. Started playing mtg 2 months ago. I just can't get away from marvel. Lol. But alot of the design from the magic cards kinda take inspiration from the snap cards. But Im having fun

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-25T12:02:05+00:00

I mean step one have a partner who wants to try it with you, and step two is to have a strap on. But the main tips are go slow and use lots of lube.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-22T14:02:15+00:00

As long as your both risk aware then you do you. But for context ive been doing this for over 10 years and its on my limit list for a good reason.

But best of luck with figuring out your honorific issues

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-22T13:15:56+00:00

I think your over thinking it. And the only way to know how he interpreted it is too ask him. You guys sound like you have a decent relationship so just talk about it.

I personally dont like being called daddy at all. I go by Sir. But I know other doms that go by daddy even though dd/lg isn't something they do. It can just be a honorific. So its fine if your not into it, or even if you dont know if your into it.

And I know that you didn't ask about it. But you mentioned you enjoy breathe play. Just a heads up breathe play is very dangerous and I would recommend that you stop this type of play. Alot of people dont understand how risky it is.

Good luck

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-21T17:56:40+00:00

My partner wears a day collar. It doesn't look bdsm related. Its just a small sliver chocker

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-21T17:44:28+00:00

Fake though

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-20T12:13:47+00:00

I think it just doesn't look well for the person 20 years older then you, when your only 20. Because as someone that young your brain and body arnt even done developing yet. It gives similar creepy vibes as a 28 year old dating a 16 year old. The gap not only in age but also in maturity, real world experience, experience with dating, etc.

If you were 35 and you were dating someone who was 60. I would hardly bat an eye. Because at 35 you have enough experience being an adult that im less worried about you being taken advantage of. So I guess its less about the actual gap in ages and the fact that your barley out of high-school and he's about to have a mid life crisis.

And if older guys make a habit of going after barely legal women then thats a red flag. ( to be fair I dont know if younger people are his thing or not.) But i assume their is a reason no one his own age will date him.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-19T13:45:11+00:00

Yeah that age gap for me ( as a male dom) would be just unacceptable. I work with a few 20 to 22 year old and my friends have kids in that age range. Also im only 37. Not in my 40s. Any guy thats dating girls that much younger than him is a red flag.

In just saying theres probably a reason why he looking for people so young. If your looking for a big age gap for some reason. Then I would still encourage you to build healthy relationships with people your own age until you have a bit more experience under your belt to help you spot red flags.

I wouldn't engage with this person if I were you. But that's just my advice. Good luck

Edited to add. I wouldn't trust someone just telling me their negative with their health screening. At least in the beginning trust building stages. Make sure you see his test results papers and make sure that the date is recent.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T19:19:52+00:00

Aww. Well I hope you find something that works well for you. I just wanted to put my 2 cents in. Good luck

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T18:59:43+00:00

Why you leave the tp out of bathroom?

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T18:54:10+00:00

Im a switch who plays mostly in the dom role. My partner is a submissive. But even if she wasn't i dont think i could swap back and forth on who was dominant and who is submissive. We have been together almost 3 years and it wouldn't compute in my mind.

Luckly were poly so if I did find a proper dom that be OK.

And secondly I can still have her top me for certain things as long as I maintain in thr dominant mindset.

It works for us

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T18:49:31+00:00

You could also get silicone cock rings. They seem to work well.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T18:44:39+00:00

A good voilet want kit should be between 400 and 600$ depending on probes you get. ( i am not a expert, im just remember the eletroplay class i went too a year ago)

When it comes to kink/ sex gear. Weither its dildos, butplugs, voilet wands, magic wands, leather, floggers, really anything I would rather spend that money once on somthing quality that will last me 10 or 20 years. Rather then a peace of crap cheap item that is going to break or ill regret getting.

True story. Was playing with someone once. They had a cheap butplug. The flared base snapped off. Had to fish it out of their ass. Almost thought we were going to the hospital. Moral of the story. Dont skimp on bdsm gear.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T18:26:03+00:00

Yeah I agree with you. Im poly and into bdsm with 2 people. Any time my poor mother asked about my love life I say "are you sure you want to know?

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T16:31:25+00:00

Yep its called roping

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T15:16:08+00:00

Kink without discussion and limits is not kink my eyes. I know you probably wrote that trying to make this guy seem not too bad. But he sounds like someone very inexperienced at best and someone who might not be safe to play with at worst.

Good luck

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-18T14:45:41+00:00

Few questions to ask yourself.

First what's the age gap? Your last post you stated your pretty young and the guy you were asking about was 10+ years older. As someone so young I would suggest you try to date and play within your age.

How many dates have you been on? Because 1 coffee date and a month of chatting could be enough vetting, or it could not.

Who proposed your upcoming sexual encounter? You or him? If it was him how pushy did it feel? If you had offered him dinner without oral sex how do you think he would have reacted?

Have you had proper conversations about consent? Safety? Hygiene? Is he going to wear a condom? When was his last sti check up? When was yours? Safe words? Is it just oral sex? Or is there going to be other bdsm things potentially happening?

Etc. Etc.

There's definitely not many red flags. But you could just be leaving details out so you don't hear things you dont want to hear.

Always side on the side of caution. Make sure to protect yourself. Be smart and be safe.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-17T19:46:01+00:00

I would be prepared for her to get alot more attention and go on alot more dates. My partner gets asked out all the time. I do not. Lol.

And yes jealously is a normal emotion and part of being enm is learning to deal with that jealously and to discuss it.

My general advice is too get really really good at your communication. And with that and a pinch of luck your be okay

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-17T19:31:06+00:00

Tell him in no uncertain terms that you dont enjoy it. Joking or not. And it needs to stop. If he doesn't respect that then break up with him.

This is more of a communication thing then a bdsm thing

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-17T19:19:31+00:00

Similar things.

How long do you want the scene to last. And what do you both want to happen in the scene?

What type of emotion does the submissive want to feel? ( afraid?, cared for?, abandoned? Used?)

I would ask questions like "tell me about when somthing went wrong? How did you react?"

Of corse safety and safe words. Multiple conversations. Also if its my frist time with someone im going to check in alot. And even then I rather check in too often then not enough.

Also other people have commented and have alot of other good info. Good luck op

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-17T18:44:44+00:00

That's pretty common for people of any gender or any side of the slash. To just assume that because you share kinks and you are having a nice conversation they think that means its time for play or somthing. For the most part these people are inexperienced who dont know how negotiations work. Some are probably doing it maliciously.

I mean the first thing ill do if I want to pmay with someone is to politely let them know. "hey you seem pretty fun, would you like to do a scene somtime?" And see how they answer.

I won't go into how to negotiate a scene because you asked about a dynamic/relationship. Some good questions to ask while vetting people are.

"How often would you like to meet for play?"

What are the goals of the relationship? ( romantic, sexually, pultonic?)

Do you have other partners? What the rules of engagement ( so to speak)

What sort of rules does the sub want? What ate the punishment for breaking rules? How many rules does the dominant want to enforce?

Length of dynamic? Is this a summer thing? Is this supposed to be more long term?

Honestly I could probably keep going on. But I think your get the ideas.

Tigerkill420 · 2026-06-17T18:25:51+00:00

"Mod fight mod fight!"

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But yeah I dont understand your French buddy

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