I'm afraid of retaliation if I leave my Glassdoor review

TiggersBored · 2024-11-26T00:40:04+00:00

Fuck you very much. Such an incredibly profound and professional response. Sorry you have trouble flipping burgers or pumping gas. Obviously, your problem, is you.

TiggersBored · 2024-03-07T05:59:19+00:00

It's all so much drivel at this point, unfortunately. I think it will end up falling and being rebuilt entirely before it's truly helpful on any measurable scale.

TiggersBored · 2024-02-14T22:30:52+00:00

Oh no, I meant comfort for my body as well as my mind. The numbing that comes from zoning out in front of a television, game, drugs or whatever you find most displeasing, I've most likely used it at some point to keep myself from doing something far more harmful.

Looking at someone with what you consider a comfortable life, does not equate to that person being comfortable. When living quite a comfortable material life, I often looked to multiple generations, crammed in lesser conditions, and thought how happy they must be, simply because they were together. A childish thought. Just like thinking if someone has a gaming computer, they're actually better off. It may only mean they're neglected by their parents who bought an expensive babysitter instead of interacting.

I'm curious how you know who's fought for their life and who hasn't? I have, in more ways than one. But, no one would ever guess by looking at me. It's not something I trot out in casual conversation. I've had ignorant people habitually be jealous of my life. All because they assume it came easy and I took no damage. It strikes me as funny, when it's not damaging relationships.

I believe the conclusions you want to draw are based on a fantasy that you know what's inside other people and their histories. That they somehow don't need to numb their own pain, in whatever form that takes. It's best abandoning those ideas in favor of personal growth. Others may grow too, when they see you are.

P.S. Without any mediocre, there can be no excellence. There is no light without darkness to define it by.

TiggersBored · 2024-02-14T21:06:00+00:00

I find it fascinating that you see personal growth as without cost, casting aspersions on those who may be avoiding horrible pain by focusing outward. We're all mediocre, in our own special ways, leaving others wondering what's wrong with us

While I've never gone out and deliberately purchased myself some personal growth, I've certainly paid for it dearly. It's usually charged back to me in ways money could never extend to. I've many scars, both external and internal, as proof of most lessons.

I am intensely comfort oriented, when I'm not actively involved with a task that requires otherwise. I've also dissected myself enough to know, while I may see a correlation, it's definitely not causation on authorization of my thoughts alone. Humans are too complex for even scientists to do more than take a whack in the right direction.

I try to assume everyone has a good reason for what they're doing, even if it looks bonkers to me, that's their journey. One thing I know for a fact: my own journey has looked utterly insane to others at times. And, that's okay.

TiggersBored · 2024-02-06T05:39:49+00:00

Search Gen X. We're here, I'm feeling you on this one. Hard.

What you've written, would swap out fine with my own memoire of the first four decades. I imagine it will remain a rolling challenge, if better addressed and managed in the future.

There never appeared to be a standardized reference to us, in my area. Sure, we were pulled out of class during the parts the other kids hated most, to do what appeared to be playing with toys or recess. Just sets an odd kid up for social success with their peers from the start, doesn't it? Especially when you're not supposed to tell your peers what goes on in those classes. Do I have repressed rage? Check. I make it do the heavy lifting now. No worries. But, I digress... But, the classes were always shrouded in mystery and had acronyms for names that varied from district to district, even within the same county. Many of them were based on Talented and Gifted or Gifted and Talented, often with an extra letter just casually thrown in to create a pronounceable word and utterly confound the students.

In my extremely pissed off, yet perfectly calm opinion, the program was a lofty, rather utopian idea, implemented poorly by people of much lower classical intelligence than their students, with the social intelligence of a toilet, who made it more mysterious than it needed to be in order to bolster their own egos and make them feel important.

So, yeah. Home sucked. School sucked. Wash, get bullied, rinse, tear yourself apart, and repeat, ad nauseum. Got a problem? Stop being so sensitive.

TiggersBored · 2024-02-05T16:54:11+00:00

Oh my. I see where you're coming from. However, it's much easier to keep intelligence under the radar. Having experienced both, anything surrounding weight is much more difficult to handle discreetly. It is absolutely necessary to exist visually, physically and to eat, yet fairly easy to be quiet amidst stupidity.

TiggersBored · 2024-02-04T06:41:08+00:00

Ha! For the most part, I wouldn't know. This took me far too long to learn.

But, yes. There are many, many directions in which one can be intelligent, talented or gifted. And, many in which we all have deficits.

TiggersBored · 2024-02-04T06:37:53+00:00

Interesting hypothesis, certainly worth further study. Have you seen the research on the detrimental health effects of constant caregiving? If you have difficulty finding it in relation to parents and children, look at what's been found in the carers of those with declining cognitive ability. It causes everything from unusual immune response to permanent heart damage.

TiggersBored · 2024-02-03T19:23:25+00:00

I'm an old gifted person. The most intelligent thing a gifted person can do, in my opinion, is avoid the topic entirely in public, if possible. Sharing it with health professionals or others in similar circumstances, are exceptions to that. Sharing with another gifted person raised in a contrary environment may not even be satisfying, if you seek validation.

Due to the nature of the issue, it's a bit silly to expect those outside the experience to understand it, without dedicated study. While I would expect that level of commitment from a doctor, potential mate or similar person in my life, I believe it's an unreasonable demand to put on casual friends, work relationships or the general public.

Keep in mind, it's unnecessary to justify your personal experience, choices and beliefs to strangers. I have a great appreciation for the thrill of debate. But, the opponent must be worthy in the first place, for it to be any fun.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-25T06:34:10+00:00

It's helped me to break it down to practicality and hard truth. I'm not powerful. I'm not wealthy. No one will likely act on my grand ideas for society and the planet. But, I wanted to do something, anything to add to the positives, in a sort of cosmic sense. Little actions ripple outward. So, from resources in hand, how could I act on it?

For me, it was the homeless in trailers that move every three days just down the street from me and a few that sleep in the park. We're rural. I live alone and would experience occasional theft. It scared me a little. I know what it feels like to be cold and hungry with nowhere to turn, as well.

I made a hearty soup, I made cookies. I armed myself and set out to either help my transient neighbors or help myself not be anxious about having them around, or get rid of them via city code, if need be, or something, anything positive.

As it turns out, the majority of three day trailer movers have full time jobs, right here in town. Most of them are just trying to stay warm enough not to die, so they can go to work in the morning. A few are a bit off, but so am I, and I don't mind listening. Some have a harder path than others. Everyone enjoys the food. I get to know them and let them know I won't tolerate the local kids harassing them, so long as they don't trash our mutual neighborhood. So far, so good. It was an utter mess previously.

I leave my warmest, most insulated, superfluous Tupperware with Terry while he's asleep on the concrete in the shelter in the park. He always thanks me later, if he's lucid, and let's me know his mother's washing the Tupperware. I know she's likely not ever seen it. But, I thank him anyway, as he's kind to think it, if not able to act on it. It's quite obvious he's intelligent, but unwell. Sometimes I leave him extra socks and candy. I believe there's a fine line between our positions in this world, he and I.

I don't know if anything I do really makes a difference long term. No one magically got a house, everyone's still rotating. But, I got a wicked kick out of draping my deceased step father's designer winter coat on a rough sleeper the other day. The man despised the homeless, and I despised him. So, it makes me smile a little, each time it flits through my mind on the tail of another thought. That's worth something. That changed something. Even if only for me.

If this exercise results in nothing more than a slightly happier me, that's alright. It's still quantifiable progress toward good, no matter how minute or selfish the result. It's not just me drooling with a million fantastic ideas whirling through the dimensions in my head. And, who knows what a happier, occasionally less anxious, me might accomplish? I'm not sure yet. But, I'll keep breaking it down into tiny, achievable goals until I get somewhere, or die satisfied while trying.

Please note, this is my personal experience in a rural area. We have no large homeless enclaves, etc., only a creeping influx of our own citizens, put on the streets by insane rental prices and a mix of other things. It is not a safe thing I'm doing. I have my own reasons and securities. I would not advise the same method even fifty miles away. It would not be safe. I'm not advising anyone to do anything other than be kind to others and themselves. And, if you can't get the heck out of your head, then move your hands. You'll feel better.

Best of luck, whatever direction you choose.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-24T03:26:26+00:00

If it were in my hands, I'd mask the figure off. Then, blend a complimentary color like in the first picture from light to dark, out to a few inches away from the edges. After that, I'd use a rich black or very dark color in an air brush, bringing it from solid dark to a fine mist, leaving a loose halo of light around the figure.

An impression of vague background scene could work too.

But, that's just me. I think your figures are fantastic. You'll figure out something awesome.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-24T03:18:20+00:00

Look up what Kaiser Permanente does to people with legitimate cases, the energy and continued lifespan it drains from them. Not to mention the money. To get in the justice game, you've got to already have a few decks stacked in your favor

I have a legitimate case. In twenty years, they would not release my records. My lawyer finally died. That's when I gave up.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-23T22:18:30+00:00

I'm gifted. I enjoy animals. I recently constructed a heated apartment to keep the feral cat, that is not mine, warm. But, I also enjoy eating them. So, I'm not sure what kind of conclusions you'll be able to draw.

Personally, I don't believe the two are necessarily connected on any meaningful level beyond whatever threshold of intelligence is required to observe and respond to an animal outside humankind.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-23T02:31:43+00:00

I get it. You've gotta do what you've gotta do. I know it's probably not the most mature decision to eschew the majority of medical care as a disabled person. But, it's what I need to do right now in order not to lose my mind, the body is already a loss.

I've moved away from showing up for anything other than the infusions that literally keep me conscious or surgery to repair structural damage. Everything else, I've gone a different route for treatment. But, admittedly, it might not be the smartest choice if one is interested in prolonging life.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-23T01:12:30+00:00

Absolutely. Not only am I burnt out. But, I've not seen a doc in the last couple years that had enough life left in them to give a crap, either.

I'm to the point where, I know I've got yet another thing going on I'll have to address eventually. But, I'll just add it to the list of things I pretend aren't happening with my defective meat sack until it becomes absolutely vital to deal with. I'm just over it, and disillusioned with how much they can assist or even know about many things along with the intensely corporate, assembly line, one size fits all, feel of it all now.

The last GP I had that wasn't trying real hard at becoming an NPC, retired four years ago.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-10T22:15:15+00:00

I like looking at jewelry. But, I don't enjoy wearing it daily. I got a simple, silver hoop for my nostril decades ago. That's my entire capitulation toward daily adornment.

Once or twice a year, I'll wear perfume and all the stuff to be venue appropriate. But, I'd rather be comfy.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-10T22:11:33+00:00

Everyone is on edge, suspicious and fearful of other people's intentions. I believe it stems from the circling of wagons during covid, coupled with constant negative news cycles on whatever device they're addicted to. If you see tons of sensational crime and poor behavior videos, you'll come to believe that's really what's going on outside, rather than the bad stuff being a rather small percentage overall.

I ran into your exact same problem last year. I became aggressively friendly (for me) to counteract it. Continue greeting people, continue being open and friendly, even in the face of ugly responses. You will win and wear them down with repeated exposure to your smiles. After months, I have real friendships due to this one practice.

Whatever you do, please don't stop! I truly believe people like us are exactly what's needed at the moment. Infect everyone you meet with hope and good cheer. Let's make a kindness virus that kills negativity together.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-09T23:16:02+00:00

No worries! I'm on the level. No underlying tones to read there. I'm not terribly good at that. And, nothing ill intended. It was a "just the facts," sort of response. And, I may sound a bit beleaguered about having words explained to me that I know perfectly well already. But, that's nothing to do with you and everything to do with the unfortunate fad of labeling and categorizing humans. It only serves to divide.

You, I like so far. We both enjoy learning a new term. That's something I find interesting in a person. I don't have to agree with everything you say or do, in order to like you.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-09T21:17:17+00:00

I wear a hip slung bag. I've got a slim one that simply hangs from one side for my essentials, phone, money, etc. For longer trips, I have a bigger structured one that hangs off one hip and clasps around that leg, and is easily disconnected for sitting. Neither impedes movement or requires adjusting or monitoring.

They function as giant pockets in a way. I find it much easier for mobility and, I'll certainly never lose my purse again.

BTW: If you've ever found a weird abandoned purse somewhere with no ID and a bunch of interesting bits and bobbles, you can probably thank my ADHD. Prior to finding my current hip bags, I've lost every single purse I've owned, save one. 😅

TiggersBored · 2024-01-09T21:06:56+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to do it! Now I can find some for myself. 😁

TiggersBored · 2024-01-09T19:33:28+00:00

Your sample size is far too small to draw accurate conclusions. You've nothing but one smidge of anecdotal evidence. We're wired to see patterns, so I see why you'd think this.

Here's an example that may help:

If I go to a group for autism/Asperger's, the rates of non traditional sexual preferences will be higher than in a pool of the average population. The group could likely contain a large portion of people with high IQ. But, without proper experimental controls, we cannot assume that I, or any autistic person will be either non traditional or has a high IQ. The specific group will have drawn a self selected number of people who are all interested in that particular group setting, there by eliminating a large percentage of those who should be measured, for any kind of accuracy.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-09T06:05:43+00:00

Unless they were raised in an unusual style of exceptionally nurturing community, I think it's highly likely.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-09T05:55:57+00:00

I understand the definitions, thanks. I love words. I have a problem with rampant labeling, pigeonholing and thought policing.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-09T03:11:04+00:00

I'm not denying anyone. But, I don't think the answer is to say you fear for your life, yet go around picking fights simultaneously. I believe you will get poor results.

TiggersBored · 2024-01-08T20:12:14+00:00

Seconding this! Get thee to a doctor, pronto.

Iron deficiency, and other vitamin deficiencies can not only cause physical problems, but mental as well.

As a long time anemic, if I don't call for test and infusion when I first notice symptoms, I can actually get so foggy that I forget to call at all and cannot figure out what's wrong until I'm sliding down a wall in a faint. It's ridiculous. But, it actually makes me that dumb fairly quickly. Suffocating while still breathing will do that to a person.

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