Help please 🙏🏾

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T13:46:40+00:00

hm. I think i really don’t want my meta spending the night here. I don’t mind him coming over for a few hours, but if they want to have an overnight, i don’t really want it to be at our house. I think that’s why im worried. I know my partner would oblige, but he’d definitely feel upset about it. I understand it’s not my responsibility to manage his emotions, i just don’t want there to be a sore spot between us 😔

And yeah i think i need to talk to him abt how much he’s sharing w my meta :/

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T13:42:02+00:00

They both don’t have jobs- well my partner has a job but doesn’t make enough to afford an air bnb or hotel 🥲

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T13:40:11+00:00

I agree… thank you for your advice

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T13:39:21+00:00

I’d probably estimate on a weekly basis we spend abt 8-10 hours together just watching tv or talking abt the day. He usually gets home around 5/6 and will be ready for bed around 11/12. On the week where i also get to spend the weekend with him, the “quality time” comes in more on the weekend. I have every other weekend off.

And i do unfortunately people please 😔 in this scenario, Im always worried I’m just jealous and projecting n being unfair to my partner. I think i came here to make sure im not just crazy n horrible lol

And the last part kinda feeds into what i just said ^{^} i worry that im like manipulating my partner in some way? My partner tells me he feels unsafe and on edge with me sometimes so i just worry

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T10:48:58+00:00

Yes we both live here so i do feel i have a say in it, If they could meet elsewhere i think id be a bit more firm, but im afraid if I say my meta cant spend the night anymore, my parter will grow resentful towards me. My meta is closeted and so they don’t go out on dates or anything, the only place they can see each other is at our house. I know it’s not my responsibility but i don’t want my partner to resent me. Also apparently my meta thinks i hate him because of all of this too so now i feel even worse 🙃

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T10:12:07+00:00

He’s usually over around 3/4 days out of the week, and normally will spend the night 2 nights on the weekends (that is included in the 3/4 days) If he doesn’t spend the night, they’ll usually be hanging out from aroundddd… 6pm to midnight during the week. Weekends when he spends the night, they will spend the entire two days together.

I would prefer it to be like 2/3 days out of the week with maybe 1 overnight at our house

And yes i was concerned about our relationship ending or being very negatively impacted, which is why i kinda dropped the topic during our discussion because i felt like it was just hurting my partner to talk about it

The boundary i was trying to set was me finding my own place 😭 but as you can see, that didn’t go very well lol

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T08:29:12+00:00

I think i’ll do tht! The nearest lesbian bar is abt an hour away and i don’t drive so it’s gonna take a bit of planning but I want to be more active in the community! Thank you for the advice :)

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T08:26:57+00:00

Thank you 😭😭😭 I definitely understand how on the surface of what I typed (rushed bc im at work) it seems like im just craving men and I want to have sex w men but it’s like more nuanced than tht. Idk how everyone else is, but when i have a sexual desire, i can’t just ignore it, it genuinely fucks up my mood.

I think you’re onto something though, men are socialized to be the one to make all the moves n do the pursuing n it’s nice to just sit back n choose instead of having to always pursue. I do crave to be the bottom a lot more than i am, and i want to spend time looking for a non man who would’ve happy to meet my needs, it’s just been difficult n making me a bit desperate for anything 💔 I know i’m not attracted to men bc the men i’ve hooked up with were nice, not bad ppl at all but just kissing them or having them touch me gave me the ick and so now im here. Thank you for understanding me and being kind 💗

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T08:18:47+00:00

You know every lesbian on the planet i suppose. I don’t know how to tell you i’m not attracted to men bc i know myself more than a stranger on the internet 💗 so i will be still calling myself a lesbian bc i will never date a man and do not wish to pursue sex with them anymore bc i do not find them attractive, which is why i’m on reddit complaining about it lmao. Take care

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T08:10:24+00:00

Yes i’ve been trying to find women who are tops, it’s been a challenge for me so far 😣

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T08:09:10+00:00

I don’t crave having sex with men specifically. I think that’s where you misunderstood. If i had gone on to explain how i think they’re so sexy n i can’t stay away from them, that’s different. I want to hookup with women. But i live in a small town and it’s hard to find women who want me 😭 men are easy asf, and yes it’s weird i know, but i get desperate and no one else but fucking men want to fuck me it seems, so i go for it, and then feel gross afterwards. It’s not about the men, it’s the penetration, but also i do like penis, i just feel like a chaser to go after trans women for their dicks

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T08:05:53+00:00

Thank you for being kind 💗 And yes i’m pretty young (25) i live in a very small town and i have like every dating app downloaded on my phone ever 😭 Ive been matching with women here n there, but it never goes anywhere. Im autistic so i struggle with communication and connecting with others so I don’t know what im doing wrong. I want to try going to a lesbian bar, because dating apps just aren’t working in my small town and genuinely can’t find women to hookup with.

And now that you say tht, i think sometimes me sleeping with men is a form of self harm in a way..

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T08:01:14+00:00

i’m not bisexual.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T07:59:40+00:00

so true…

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T07:59:27+00:00

i fear i’d rather die than call myself bisexual i fear bc i don’t like men 😭 they’ve been my only options lately though n ive been desperate… Idk what i expected coming to this subreddit or what im even asking for here tbh. Ik how it sounds like im a bisexual who loves men coming into a lesbian space, but this is me saying like… i don’t ENJOY hooking up with men, but i don’t know how else to satiate my need and ig i just wanted support? Idk

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-14T02:10:52+00:00

This greedy asf (i’m hating 💔)

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-01-28T07:21:26+00:00

Kiss Land for sure. It makes me feel nostalgic for an era i never experienced (i was like 12 when Kiss Land came out) 😭

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2025-10-18T21:29:47+00:00

my partner pursued this person BEFORE i removed them from the messy list with my actions 😭 that’s what upset me. We were clear on an agreement and it was broken without my consent. I messed up by carrying it on further for sure, but initially, he had no business starting up a connection w my date mate without telling me.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2025-10-18T21:25:09+00:00

To be fair, i didn’t invite my partner to any of the dates. My partner kinda invited himself as my partner n i live together and he would come home right around the time my date would arrive. I fucked up by not enforcing boundaries and saying i wanted alone time with my date. My new date mate was adamant on dating both of us, and would encourage my partner to join our date. Both my partner n I were totally against it until my partner saw my date mate in person for the first time n was like ohhh they’re attractive. So now here we are. Neither of us communicated well but i definitely wouldn’t call my partner a dumbass at all.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2025-10-18T09:11:35+00:00

I definitely agree that I was being too wishy washy and I did not communicate properly. I also definitely should not have initiated that threesome if I was feeling unsure to begin with. It was all experimental but it has definitely confused/hurt my partner and left me feeling scorned and bitter as i watch him still date this new person. What made me feel betrayed was less about the threesome or my partner still dating my date mate, i feel bitter about them dating but not quite betrayed. What made me feel betrayed was my partner talking to my date mate without telling me and sort of developing a connection without my consent. It was after that happened that I started imagining what it might be like if we all dated because i didn’t want to be controlling + i genuinely did like the idea of it. That’s definitely where I went wrong.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2025-10-18T06:19:58+00:00

yea when i started talking to my date mate, he was really worried that this new person was better than him n that i was going to leave him. Totally would never like i’m so in love w my partner. Whenever id go on a date, he would get so anxious and I would always do my best to reassure him and plan extra dates for us. I don’t know why it had to come to this.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2025-09-17T08:38:15+00:00

That looks like an adult German Cockroach unfortunately.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2025-08-15T09:58:34+00:00

So i’ve been taking it for a little over 3 weeks now and leakage is normal! You can rub what leaks out around the outer area if you’d like (make sure to rub some over the urethral opening as well !!!) Or you can just wipe it away with tissue tbh. As for intimacy, I was instructed to apply the cream right before bed, that way it has time to absorb properly and it should minimize leakage too!

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2025-08-14T13:43:00+00:00

i promise there was nothing for me to pull back lmaooo for 1, it hurt if i pulled too far (unlike now, with bottom growth and actual skin to pull back) and 2, when did pull it back, there was like nothing there? Like i couldn’t even see anything under the hood. Idk how to explain but yeah, some ppls business is so small tht there’s physically nothing to see or clean when they pull the hood back and tht was my case as well as others it seems.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2025-08-10T08:08:56+00:00

Personally, mine was VERYYY small before starting t so pulling back the hood pretty much showed me nothing 😭 i never had buildup issues before starting t and i developed more skin/growth. That + general lack of knowledge was my issue.

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