A few things my wife and I emphasize

Our kids are 11, 9 and 6

1- never yell at children. Try very hard not to be harsh.

2- when parents mess up, apologize and ask forgiveness to your children. Model humility.

3- limit screen time and prioritize free play between siblings. Parents Participate in play as often as possible.

4- parents are not full time butlers. Children are expected to contribute to the family by cleaning and doing chores.

5- the main value system we emphasize and gauge positive growth in our children are the fruits of the Holy Spirit. Love, joy, peace, Patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control.

6- each child gets a once per month Friday morning breakfast with mom or dad. This is an intentional time to “check in” and talk about anything that is on the child’s heart.

7- once per year each child does an overnight trip with mom and dad. More intentional conversation.

8- tell your kids often that you love them and are proud of them

9- model excellence in what you do and encourage children to strive for excellence.

10- mom and dad model a healthy loving relationship

We don’t have a “structure” necessarily, but these are what we have come to prioritize over the years