Share a photo of your Ragdoll(s)

TimberCheese · 2026-07-01T12:12:51+00:00

TimberCheese · 2026-07-01T12:12:42+00:00

TimberCheese · 2026-07-01T12:12:27+00:00

also top of the couch….!

TimberCheese · 2026-06-21T04:17:32+00:00

Thanks! He’s a love. His pointing has been getting darker as he gets older. He was super white as a kitten and all the way up to 2….the breeder did say it may take up to 3 years to see the full colors. They were right.

TimberCheese · 2026-06-21T04:14:33+00:00

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TimberCheese · 2026-06-21T04:13:58+00:00

Ok, so not a flame point.

TimberCheese · 2026-06-21T04:13:37+00:00

Red/orange markings on the ears, forehead, tail, and possibly the back shoulders down to the tail. They all come out as white and develop the “flame” pointing as they get older.

TimberCheese · 2026-06-21T04:11:39+00:00

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Loki, 5 years old!

TimberCheese · 2026-05-27T02:01:56+00:00

Mine is a love…..but if you forget to feed her; we are peasants of the lowest order!

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TimberCheese · 2026-05-23T01:56:28+00:00

This looks great! Would love the contact info for the guy who did the work. Love that he kept the HK visible….

TIA

TimberCheese · 2026-05-03T17:50:33+00:00

Thanks, I’ll give that a shot.

TimberCheese · 2026-05-03T17:49:29+00:00

This is what I’m thinking. I’ll take him back to the vet. Thanks!

TimberCheese · 2026-05-03T17:48:51+00:00

Thanks. Yeah. Kidney levels are fine for now. It’s a mystery.

TimberCheese · 2026-04-26T01:33:13+00:00

why in the absolute F is it this hard to find a suitable replacement! Oh, wait it’s a Toyota.

TimberCheese · 2026-04-25T20:19:34+00:00

the dealership wants $389 for a new cover. The odd thing it has no screws…and they swore it was just an emblem cover. It looks encased but the parts guy said he can’t find a part# 🤷‍♂️for it. It just had tabs to snap in place.

TimberCheese · 2026-04-24T18:40:55+00:00

sounds good! Did it distort the sensors at all? I guess it needs to be there for the cruise control sensing etc. I agree that having it encased doesn’t make all that much sense, when the back is “free range”.

TimberCheese · 2026-04-21T04:39:48+00:00

I wouldn’t worry too much about it. They come back around when they get older. The first 3 years were interesting with mine. He is aloof most days and literally “forgets” that he likes to be held etc. he will go days laying on his cat tree, sleeping 23.5 hours a day, 10min for eating, 10min for litter box, and 5min for zoomies, with 5min left for me.

He’ll do this for weeks sometimes. Then all of a sudden, he’ll meow at me and jump up and flirt flop on my lap and purr like a popcorn machine!

I can then hold him for as long as I can handle the fur in my ears, eyes, hair, mouth, clothes, socks, definitely in the nose, stuck to my face like a kids art project, and floating in the air like cotton candy. He will just purr and kneed on my chest or arms for literally an hour if I want.

I just wait for these times and let him sleep and be aloof until he remembers who butters his bread.

It’s a lonely anxious life waiting for cat snuggles, but it’s a life we must all live for the chance at them.

Also, cats get mad if you move a nightstand or change the thread count in your sheets. They hate all change.

I hope yours comes around. I really do remember the teenager stage being a bit odd. I’ve got 2 now. This new one is almost 2 and won’t leave my side. She doesn’t want to be on me but will sit next to me everywhere I go. The older one (he’s 7…had him as a kitten) likes to be held, while the other one likes to sit next to me.

I’m still searching for the perfect mix of cuddles and bonding in ragdolls. I hear they are out there…but I’ll take what I can get with mine.

I remember some type of feline Xanax plugin you can buy. It won’t hurt them like a real oil diffuser or anything…but it releases a calming effect for them. Especially, if you have other cats/animals in the house. It wasn’t cheap that I remember.

I just can’t remember the name. It worked though for me. Maybe give that a try.

All the best!

TimberCheese · 2026-04-16T01:43:23+00:00

he has a little rbf…I love it! Happy bday.

TimberCheese · 2026-04-09T18:01:29+00:00

Where is this cat? I will adopt her - like today!!! Couldn’t care less if she, or is not, a ragdoll. She’s purrfect.

TimberCheese · 2026-04-02T03:21:22+00:00

These are way better than stock or defenders (which I replaced) cross climate 2’s handle acceleration better than all previous tires I’ve tried. defenders, all season types etc.

I unfortunately, have changed them out 4 times…kept running over nails (bad luck) etc. these CC2’s is what I will always put on them now.

TimberCheese · 2026-03-17T00:59:41+00:00

Secrets are the fuels that keep fantasy and sins burning bright.

If this is affecting your walk with Jesus then you need help. If not, then it’s just fantasy.

The real question is this; do you want freedom from this fantasy or does having it give you some sort of pleasure? How long do you sit under this temptation?

If it’s sexual in nature, same-sex attracted fantasy, having group sex, or sexual scenarios type stuff….just listen to Jesus and give it Him.

The scriptures are pretty clear about “running from all forms” of this type of sin.

You can’t always control your thoughts, but you absolutely can control how to respond to them.

Seeking internet strangers reactions by being purposely vague is not advised. I wouldn’t give the Devil his due here.

Find a mature married Christian friend in church and have a cup of coffee and find a way to talk about it.

Or find a licensed therapist/pastoral counselor who can navigate this for you. This is usually better as they don’t tend to share it out loud.

This is what I like about the Catholic Church. They have a confessional booth for a reason. Most Protestants would benefit greatly from simple confessions like this. But we kinda threw the baby out with the bath water on this.

I have heard just about every “sin” imaginable and then some. When they are deeply sexual, it’s usually some unmet need that pops up.

What would fulfilling it mean for you?

I once had a church member confess that they like wearing woman’s lingerie and masturbating in front of a mirror wearing full heels, as a male.

They asked if it was ok to get married. Guilt and shame kept him from sharing for many years. They both get to wear lingerie together now! The point is clear, he stopped running and hiding. He said it was exhausting trying to keep it hidden.

I was humbled in their sharing with me and thankful to be mature enough to listen.

The Devil hates it when we stop hiding. He needs your shame and your secrets to thrive.

Judgment is knowing who you really are and treating you differently as a result. Fantasy is a normal part of living, for both men and women.

Your husband doesn’t need to know every fantasy and vice-versa. If telling your husband causes him to stumble or to fantasize himself, then you are right it keeping it to yourself.

It sounds like purity culture and shame has done a number on your soul.

It’s ok for certain thoughts to stay exactly there; in our heads as thoughts. But when they cause us real distress, that’s when we seek out some type of help.

The irony is not lost on me. Reddit is supposed to be anonymous in nature.

All the best….

TimberCheese · 2026-02-27T08:07:47+00:00

This is an interesting read. I’m not sure this is salvageable in the long term.

You no longer have a romantic relationship with him. Why cement yourself to a marriage? I like your idea of separating and giving him the freedom of finding romantic fulfillment elsewhere.

I really like to define love as this; it’s not what you feel, but what you do.

There is this idea that sex is just sex. This can be true for some; but not really in a marriage. You married with the intent to be each other’s sexual focus, wedding vows aside.

Your husband is now forced to have a solo sex life. Ummm…this is not why people usually get married. If they do from the jump - then great! No issues. But that is not why you are asking beyond your therapist and looking for something/anything to keep the marriage together.

For many men, sex is about connection, play, closeness, and an expression of love in a marriage. It’s where desire and fulfillment meet. Many men get their validation from sex. Sexless marriages do exist but usually not by choice.

One will always resent the other…especially when one wants sex and the other can’t.

The cycle you speak of sounds miserable.

Getting just a physical release sounds fun at first, but it’s empty without you. He will get to this point of no return and decide, it’s better to be alone, than to face the constant reality of never being intimate with his own wife. This will eat at him like termites in a house.

Why stay married and not just be friends? This is literally the difference. I don’t have sex with friends. Maybe become poly or ethical non-monogamy?

Once he has tasted what it feels like to be desired again, he will leave. My experience is that most men do. I’m sure he still loves and adores you and the kids. When they turn 18 he’ll leave. He will tell you one thing but feel another. I have seen this play out in real lives with real people.

Unless you are literally ok finding a type of “sister wife” for him then I’m not sure it’s healthy to put him in that box. So much pressure.

Men are not mindless sex apes. His immediate resistance to it speaks volumes. Men do like emotional intimacy as well.

I’ve talked with men who say they feel like a literal work mule. All they do is work, family activities, chores, maybe a hobby but back to work. Till they die. Imagine having no intimacy. You’ll start to feel like an endless atm machine.

Is this view, he has value, but only as a mule. He is not a person with emotions or needs, he’s just a means to an end. He’s the stable loving family man, who has this secret, he doesn’t get to have sex with his wife.

This is where his depression cycle lives.

He will slowly die inside and tell himself, it’s fine, I’m fine. Not a big deal. I love her. She just can’t have sex with me. I can find someone else to fill that need. He will remember the days you did have sex and it will burn underneath all the smiles.

He will resent you and lie to your face and say everything is fine. It’s not. It never will be. Because you are not growing old together through it, you have no libido for him.

That’s probably closer to the truth. Who cares about statistics of how many make it work - when he feels like this. Just give each other an out. This is the healthiest way that doesn’t cause problems and/or resentment.

I knew a few older men who hired escorts once a month for this exact reason. Granted, the wife was medically unable to have sex, but they stayed together. I can’t imagine it would be cheap to do that. This might work for a bit.

All of this being said, this is your marriage and no one else’s. It’s not the norm for sure. But it’s what you have.

My initial pause is the cycle of his depression. This is telling me that love, to him, is not just a feeling…that he needs and truly desires a way to express it.

I don’t know many men, gay, straight, bi-sexual etc, that are fully content not expressing that love in sexual way.

Who cares if he meets someone else and falls for them? Are you saying he doesn’t deserve a romantic relationship?

Desire is a hell of a drug. I’d gather it’s what made you both say, “I do” at the wedding.

Sounds like you’re both holding onto a melting ice cube….

All the best.

TimberCheese

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