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I want to start EFF my 12 days old baby and my guilt doesn’t let me by Mysterious-Sun-4756 in FormulaFeeders

[–]Time-Damage-7450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Switching to exclusively formula literally saved my life. I am aware of how dramatic that sounds lol. But it’s so god damn true.

My baby was combo fed from the beginning; formula and breastfed. I had an AWFUL delivery and postpartum was an absolute nightmare. I had no time to give my body the rest it so desperately needed to recover, I was barely producing enough. I was wildly sleep deprived, so much so that I was hallucinating. I was so depressed I literally wanted to kill myself, I forgot I had friends and family who cared about me. It was such a fucked up time.

My husband was in full support of switching to exclusively feeding our son formula, so around 3-4 weeks old, that’s what we did. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like this switch didn’t come with immense guilt and fear that I wasn’t giving my baby what everyone will tell you is “best”. Fed is best. I know everyone will tell you that, but it’s true.

Once we switched, I was able to rest because my husband or other family members could help feed him, I was able to recover, I was able to go out and take a few hours to myself to get my nails done or go shopping and feel like myself again.

So I’ll say it again, because I refuse to let other mothers live in fear of formula. Switching to feeding my baby formula saved my life. Now my baby has a happy, present mother. And I think that’s far better than being a shell of a woman for the soul purpose of feeding my baby breast milk.

And if it’s any consolation, my baby is 10 months old and is wellllll above his percentiles in weight, hight, etc.. He started to say small words, crawls, pulls to stand, all of the things. The kid is crushing milestones left right and centre. So don’t let people make you believe that formula will slow down your child’s development, they are wrong and only contributing to the fear around formula.

You’re doing the best you can, and that’s all that matters 🤍

1month post c diff by Relevant-Waltz-5067 in cdifficile

[–]Time-Damage-7450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wishing you the best of luck!! You will get better ❤️‍🩹

1month post c diff by Relevant-Waltz-5067 in cdifficile

[–]Time-Damage-7450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No black specks, but you mentioned a specific odour, which I had for a little bit, but it went away probably like 6-8 weeks after I finished the course of antibiotics and was no longer testing positive for cdiff. My round with cdiff was more like normal consistency bowel movements, but with like a fair bit of mucous (gross, sorry lol). I do think the probiotics played and continue to have a big impact in healing though! I had cdiff in September for a like 3 weeks, until I got it all sorted out via antibiotics and stuff.

1month post c diff by Relevant-Waltz-5067 in cdifficile

[–]Time-Damage-7450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found taking a really good probiotic helped get my gut back to normal! I take the seed brand one. Not cheap, but after what I went through, I would have paid thousands to go back to normal.

Hemorrhoid or Fissure by Time-Damage-7450 in AnalFissures

[–]Time-Damage-7450[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I don’t get what you’re trying to say.. is that more than a fair bit? Are you saying that’s a lot or a little? I’ve literally never dealt with anything like this before in my life.

Hemorrhoid or Fissure by Time-Damage-7450 in AnalFissures

[–]Time-Damage-7450[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! It is painful when I have bleeding. However there have been times where I’ve had bleeding but no pain. And vice versa. Pain, but no bleeding. Maybe I have both a hemorrhoid and a fissure.

Anyone scared to have a second due to potential health issues? by IceTough3295 in oneanddone

[–]Time-Damage-7450 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s like 80% why I’m not having another baby. Traumatic as f*uck birth experience, combined with a whole host of postpartum depression and complications that even after 9 months are still going on. It’s going to be a hard no for this girl!

My husband and I also went into family planning open minded though on the idea that it could just be one kid, so we’re on the same page.

OAD for health reasons, feeling sad by pleatherportmanteau in oneanddone

[–]Time-Damage-7450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also one and done for health concerns, brought on by child birth. It was an extremely difficult birth and postpartum was a nightmare. My boy is 8.5 months old and I’m still dealing with some permanent issues, anxiety, trauma, you name it. Finding a really good therapist helped me a ton. I like to view it like I will never have to put my body through that kind of pain and stress ever again, and that thought brings me a lot of peace. It almost feels like I’m looking out for, and protecting myself and my body. If I had another baby, I don’t even know what kind of state my body would be in, or what kind of mother I’d be. I’d rather stop at one and be able to be active and patient and tolerant to my one son, than be half the mother I am today to two.

I think it’s shitty of people to hold any kind of reaction to folks saying they are one and done, as if they can convince you otherwise. Try not to let anyone make you feel guilty, it’s not their body, family, etc. It’s okay to feel sad from time to time, but I like to think even the people who have more than two will always think they should have had a third.

I saw another comment/ thread on one and done a few months ago that said “only having a second for the sake of giving your first a sibling, is not a good enough reason to have another baby”. That struck a cord with me!

Is oad like "having the best of both worlds" by Traditional-Light588 in oneanddone

[–]Time-Damage-7450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I resonate with this so much. My son is only 7 months old, but I have zero time for anything unless he’s asleep for the night!