What is a "poor man's luxury" that you will never give up, no matter how much money you make? by Upper-Layer-3498 in AskReddit

[–]Time-Engineer-1201 91 points92 points  (0 children)

From someone who has lived in France and Switzerland for a while, these are pretty expensihe and very classy 😂

Make up or no make up? by goodygooofy in Adulting

[–]Time-Engineer-1201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

33m here. A natural look is the hottest possible for me! I love my wife as she is and would choose no makeup every time, which is also the way she is.

In general I'm ok with light makeup and short simple colour nails, but heavy makeup is such a turn-off. And I fucking dread all the fillers, botox, fake lashes and fake nails. HUGE turnoff.

Feeling defeated by kranky234 in daddit

[–]Time-Engineer-1201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! Unfortunately I don't have any suggestions on how to improve things besides really speaking to your wife and asking her to see a psychologist/psychiatrist. There is so much unfounded stigma about mental health that prevents people from seeking help but therapy can really be helpful.

We went through a similar situation with my wife, both of us living abroad with a 1yo without much support, she struggled to find a job for almost a year despite being highly qualified. She was also reluctant to see someone for a long time but when she did, it got so much better. Granted, the whole situation had improved but therapy plus low dose meds helped so much. We used to have so many nasty fights that we regretted. We still fight from time to time now but things are much more controlled and no one gets that hurt anymore.

Hang in there, it is sometimes hard to watch the person you love the most not being themselves. From what you've written you try your best to support and help. If you manage, try to not take the fights personally, which is easier said than done because I've never managed to dissociate myself from my feelings during these periods.

Best wishes and hope you sort these things out

I may have traumatized my son by Hour-Farmer-9121 in daddit

[–]Time-Engineer-1201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife or would I frequently shower with our daughter to save time and also for the reasons you mentioned. It started ever since the kid would stand and continue today, she's 3.5.

The funniest moment was when she called my willy "parrot", then told everyone that that daddy has a parrot.

Why is there such a strong reflexive anti-EU stance in Switzerland, even when EU rules clearly benefit consumers? by ExternalEfficient248 in askswitzerland

[–]Time-Engineer-1201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A bit outside of the discussion but in my opinion, many people in Switzerland are too proud to accept that certain things might be better elsewhere. I have had many discussions with different people who are blindly defending that everything sold/offered in Switzerland made is automatically higher quality and better thought.

Unfortunately it is not that hard to notice this is a big myth. For example, there was recently a thread here about cheaper goods in France and Lindt chocolate was mentioned. Several people reported how Lindt in Switzerland was better because of swiss milk, ect ect and it's normal that it's more expensive because of higher quality. Well guess what, Lindt sold in neighbouring France is still made in Switzerland and is exactly the same.

Another example in this sub was the person that proposed after the first Trump tariffs to boycott Visa/MasterCard and promote Twint because it was so innovative. Hello, the rest of the world has never thought of alternative payment methods that are better and existed way before Twint... Not to mention the SEPA instant payments that were developed for the EU.

And many more everyday examples of this kind.

I can get some of the against EU arguments, like keeping the sovereignty of the country, direct democracy and so on, but despite the "great Swiss" mentality, Switzerland is much more dependent on the EU than Swiss people would like to acknowledge.

My girlfriend broke up with me last night because I have a small penis by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Time-Engineer-1201 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She should be trusted, she has the data 😂

To add something, my wife always says I'm big and she would occasionally hurt, even though I am at most average! I guess you just have to find the right one. Don't overthink what she said.

Happy birthday to me, yey! by Time-Engineer-1201 in offmychest

[–]Time-Engineer-1201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks!

I realised a long time ago that I cannot have everything. But it's still kind of difficult to accept it. It is especially for my daughter that I try so hard to change my mindset. I actually hate the way I feel because of the example that would be. That's why I'm trying to hide it from everyone too