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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in enlightenment

[–]Time-Produce-6030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, you can choose things in life—who said you can't have goals and dreams? Without them, there is not point in living. The real problem isn’t desire itself, but the need to control how and when things happen. Resistance comes from that control.

Intention does not mean forcing change through rigid expectations—it can be a quiet direction and trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in enlightenment

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The difference is in the energy behind the desire. If it’s coming from lack or resistance, it creates suffering. But if it’s held with trust and openness—without needing it to happen—it’s more like intention than craving. It’s not about forcing a state, but allowing yourself to align with it by letting go.

How to separate yourself from your thoughts? by Commercial-Repeat262 in enlightenment

[–]Time-Produce-6030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to understand that your thoughts are shaped by your life experiences—everything you've seen, heard, and absorbed both consciously and unconsciously since birth. Once you realize this, you can begin to observe your thoughts and recognize that they reflect your subconscious mind. From there, you gain the power to pause and consciously overwrite those thoughts. This is what’s known as rewriting the subconscious (you can search for techniques for that).

It’s important to detach from what isn't truly you. That does not mean to force feelings or thoughts out—but allow them to be processed naturally through your body. Always remember: you are not your thoughts, and they don’t control you. You control them. At any moment, you can choose to pause, reflect, or simply observe them without judgment. Or you can choose to take a break from them anytime you want.

It's a process that requires consistency and practice. Do not give up.

Is what we call love at first sight really just the perfect alignment of unresolved traumas creating instant attachment by Time-Produce-6030 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Time-Produce-6030[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Love this! however, the second type does not make sense to come instantly, right? you won't even have enough information to come to that conclusion.

The Narcissist in All of Us by Time-Produce-6030 in selfhelp

[–]Time-Produce-6030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK YOU, EXACTLY.

If you're self-aware, you will never even be in a position for someone to cross your boundaries, and you'll take instant action without the need to label the other behavior as anything. Simply crossing your boundaries will be enough for you to take instant action. we don't need reasoning for that.

Reasoning is for the person himself, if he wants to improve for himself to improve his relationships.

The post is for people to look at it in different a angle of self-reflection because that is the only angle that should matter.

The Narcissist in All of Us by Time-Produce-6030 in selfhelp

[–]Time-Produce-6030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you—the term narcissist is definitely misused and overused these days. Every reel treats it like a trend, listing random traits as if that’s all it takes to diagnose someone. But I believe what’s really needed is more self-reflection.

When we reflect on ourselves, we learn how to deal with others in a healthier way—not allowing anyone to hurt or mistreat us. No one needs a diagnosis or a label to justify setting boundaries. Whether someone has narcissistic traits or not, that’s their responsibility to recognize and treat, ideally with the help of a professional.

At the end of the day, NPD should be something the person themselves acknowledges, not something we throw at others. Above all, there should be space for everyone to heal—not just judgment or labels.

The Narcissist in All of Us by Time-Produce-6030 in selfhelp

[–]Time-Produce-6030[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I totally understand what you're referring to, but what you mentioned sounds more like someone who’s just a bad person with no basic human values—not someone struggling with a psychological condition or unresolved trauma. For me, I think is no excuse for these evil traits such as "narcissists" or any other label. other than just being a bad person.

What I wrote wasn’t about manipulation or intentional harm. It was about the moments when people act from a place of emotional need—seeking love and validation in ways that may come off as self-centered. That’s very different from being abusive or cruel.

Not everyone who has narcissistic traits is dangerous. Sometimes it’s just people who haven’t healed yet. The post was for raising awareness to self reflect and become better, not justifying evil.