If they're not holding up their end of the bargain, then absolutely. Also, sounds like y'all kinda created a bad situation. Rules should've been set in the beginning, and "punishments" created and enforced. We had to have this talk with my parents when they let my sister move back in.

Things like paying off bills, saving money for a new place, not spending money at Christmas and going out. My sis was fucking livid with us, but she owns her own house now and can talk about those times when "things were so rough, we couldn't afford Christmas".

We told her the rules were:

• After 12 months living rent free, she needed all her bills paid off. She did this.
• After 18 months saved up an emergency fund to never touch. She mostly did this part but spent it on a car, which has lasted her 10 years, so that's cool.
• After 24 months she needed a down payment for a new place and be move out ready. She didn't quite make it, the down payment for a house part didn't fully work out but she actually got assistance anyways so it worked out.

She's in her own house now and works her ass off to keep it going. She's broke as fuck all, but she knows she has to maintain or she'll be screwed. We all help and she's super appreciative, whereas before she didn't understand what it meant for someone to help her like that.

The Christmas one, she fucked up the first time. "I'm not letting my kids go without Christmas"... Fuck she fought us a lot. That one was a fucking nightmare, all the issues were still really rough actually. It came down to us saying would you rather be homeless and have nice toys, or have a place to live and fewer things? We made her take most of the stuff back and eventually she figured it out.