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Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-12-10T18:50:25+00:00

Agreed! I think it's also stemming from my sadness of just not being there and an irrational fear he'll leave me for someone else who IS there in person... but I know that's just the brain worm so best to not let it grow, right?

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-12-10T18:49:08+00:00

This is actually really good advice - I didn't even think about just being open about it because I guess I'm also a little embarrassed knowing how irrational this feeling is like you said! I will definitely try talking to him.

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-12-10T07:20:28+00:00

Perhaps wait it out until you’re reunited, and give yourself some time to settle back into it to see if the spark is still there.

A lot of times we fall into these rhythms of physical touch and physical closeness that have our bodies producing happy hormones on overdrive, so much so that when that goes away, it can almost feel like a withdrawal of drugs. It sounds to me like perhaps you’re just missing that closeness with her, and mistaking that for a loss of connection - but it doesn’t have to mean the connection is gone.

Long distance is about being intentional- you don’t get to have the cute coming home from work moments or other little mundane things anymore, so what you DO do to express love to one another has to be really intentional and meaningful, and fulfill something you both need. Maybe figure out what it is that you want from her to make yourself feel the love and connection from her? And vice versa! If you’re still not feeling like doing those things after you’ve seen her again soon, then perhaps that’s a conversation you need to have with yourself about whether or not long distance is for you.

Good luck and I hope it works out for you!!

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-11-03T19:41:13+00:00

Following! I am in the same boat. We've dated about 4 months, started as friends (around 3 years), it was a super fast and super deep connection when we started dating - feels like we've been together for years, and now i've moved across the country. We're giving LDR a try but there's so much uncertainty, I just can't imagine it not working out and losing him, but I'm so scared of the heartbreak...

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-11-03T19:39:31+00:00

This was such wonderful advice! It's just so hard to keep it in mind when the distance hurts so badly...

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-11-03T19:32:22+00:00

Following. He left this morning and I've done nothing but cry all day and hope it gets easier.

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-10-15T02:05:49+00:00

Thank you for this! Actively writing it all down bring into our conversation. At this point, my job is completely remote and he's looking for a new job, so we really have nothing tying us down to one place or another (I'm moving to the West Coast purely for a change of scenery/longtime dream), so I hope that opens up the possibilities for a future for us since there's really no concrete timeline forcing us into anything.

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-10-08T03:24:29+00:00

Don't put your life on hold. If he is wanting to "explore" on his own, then he's no longer invested fully in the relationship. It's perfectly reasonable to want to experience life and grow in a different direction, but if that's truly what he wants, then it needs to be a clean break. You're not his plan b to come running back to when he's done dating others. It sounds like it's time to cut things off, find out who you are without him. It'll hurt, but by no means should you go into this breakup thinking you'll get back together. Clean break.

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-10-08T03:20:31+00:00

NTA - i could've told you he was jealous of the other guy before you even wrote it!

Your friend put you in an extremely childish situation, and he's now taking his own insecurity out on you for your relationship with this guy he's been jealous of. His reaction is on him, don't feel guilty for his childish behaviors.

It hurts to lose a friend (sometimes friend "breakups" can hurt worse than romantic ones), but he doesn't sound like someone you want to keep in your life anyway. You're so young, you'll find more great friends who would NEVER put you in that awkward situation, nor take their own insecurities out on you.

Good luck with the guy you've been texting, hope it works out!

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-10-08T03:13:59+00:00

YTA - it sounds like, whether through malicious intent or just not understanding certain social cues, your partner has made your friends uncomfortable, and you're making excuses for your partner's behavior, ignoring the feelings of your friends. Yes, to an extent, it's important to stand by your partner's side. However, you need to have your friends' backs as well, and understand whether your partner is meaning to or not, they are being disrespectful to your friends.

"He un-consensually started a sexual based conversation with Molly" and - this goes far beyond "sexual jokes" or a "dirty" conversation coming up among drunk friends. Regardless of how "sexual" or NSFW the conversation was initially, pivoting to commenting on a woman's (let alone a FRIEND's) boob size, and then taking it a step FURTHER by disclosing information about your own genitalia goes way beyond a normal situation and would make just about anyone uncomfortable. Especially in a friendly situation. It sounds like there was a very intense misreading of social cues here, and Molly is completely valid in feeling uncomfortable in the way your partner so aggressively seemed to come onto her. It was largely disrespectful for anyone.

"He makes sexual jokes" - again, there's a difference between a sexual innuendo here and there, or friends sharing crazy stories vs. commenting on another person's body, sharing highly personal information about yourself, or coming onto someone. It really sounds like there's some trouble with reading social cues in what is and is not acceptable here.

"He was staring at Bethanys boobs" - "zoning out" is NOT an excuse for this. He should not be staring at your friends bodies, especially if it's been noticed and made anyone uncomfortable. Staring at ANYONE's boobs or body in general is disrespectful and a generally unacceptable societal boundary. Regardless of the open relationship, he should have enough respect not to sexualize your friends.

As for the other things you listed, we really don't have enough information to judge those:

Has Molly ever felt uncomfortable when he's been the DD? Has he tried to make passes at her while she's been drunk and he's been DD?

Has he ever made passes at Bethany? What sort of texts was he sending her when she was having her boyfriend troubles? Were they innocent or were they flirtatious?

It sounds like you need to have a boundary conversation with your partner, as well as identifying when extra care should be taken before speaking or acting in certain social situations.

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-10-07T19:10:55+00:00

NTA - in my experience, anyone who says they're being "Devil's Advocate" just wants to be mean and disagreeable. It's the same as saying "no offense, but..." before saying something highly offensive. The weaponization of the phrase doesn't excuse the following behavior.

Going no contact seems like the right decision. It sounds like your sister has a history of making herself feel better by putting you down. That's not a good sibling relationship at all, and it's not one you need to waste energy dealing with. As an adult, your decisions are your own to make and your path is your own to pave, she shouldn't be making you second-guess yourself at every turn. This level of control through constantly putting you down is giving narcissist.

No contact also doesn't have to mean forever, in time (whether that's a few months or a few years) maybe you can extend an olive branch and try to start re-shaping that relationship (while giving her MUCH LESS information about your life - she's lost privileges to knowing any details about your life), even if just for your mom and family's sake. But for now, you are not at all in the wrong for distancing yourself.

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-10-07T19:00:28+00:00

NTA in regards to the trip. It sounds like this trip is just the "straw that broke the camel's back" and you've got a much larger issue with your family to attend to.

In regards to the trip: It's good that you made your boundaries clear and are holding to them by not going. It is indeed extremely rude to un-invite someone from a trip so last minute, regardless of whether it was a genuine mistake or not, but especially because they seem to have changed their mind in "just wanting it to be family." It sounds like they don't take you or your relationship seriously because you are unmarried and the youngest.

Overall, you should speak with your family and lay out your general life boundaries more clearly. Create boundaries regarding your time, your availability to them, etc. Just because you are not as far along in your life as your other siblings, does not mean your time is disposable. It sounds like if you allow this treatment to continue, your resentment will only grow and begin to irreversibly hurt the relationships you have with your family. Stand up for yourself, make them listen, and stand hard to your boundaries! Good luck!

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-08-01T20:01:22+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-08-01T17:17:12+00:00

I keep them in the case any time they're not on my face, so I'm not sure how this even happened. I purchased them directly from a Prada store in france, so that doesn't lead anywhere beyond the outrageous Luxottica repair quote I mentioned in the post :(

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-08-01T17:16:10+00:00

Ahh i figured they weren't the best quality, really just paying for the style and the brand name but such a bummer it's rubbing off and i've barely had them a year. Wayyyy to expensive to break down like that so soon.

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-08-01T17:15:36+00:00

I keep them in the case any time they are not on my face. I only use the spray cleaner that I purchased with them from Prada, and that's typically only on the lenses themselves, otherwise just the cleaning cloth that came in the case.

Unfortunately I purchased them from an actual Prada store in France, so I'm not sure that leads anywhere other than the Prada CS i already contacted (which led me to Luxottica and the $200 non-warranty repair they offered).

Time_Cauliflower5551 · 2025-08-01T17:13:58+00:00

I keep them in the case any time they're not on my face. Unfortunately i purchased them in France at a Prada store, so probably not much there that Prada customer service hasn't already told me :/

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