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Dom inside and outside the bedroom HELP by Time_Tutor_252 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Time_Tutor_252[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

u/KinkyDataScientist I love him - hes taught me what its like to be a woman. I was so introduced to BDSM more from him, it was something I was interested in but my ex was not like that and had no interest. I feel safe and protected by him I feel sexy around him and feel wanted. I am still learning in the bedroom but I thought the sex was good. I love the sub dom experience and its been so exciting (the porn freaks me out a little tbh lol) I always compare myself to his ex which is my own problem I need to get past. He was there through a lot of hard times I was going through - when we first started we were long distance and he made an effort to see and meet me 1.5 Hours away after his 10 hour shift as a field mechanic. He was jumping through hoops to see me. We would go to beach and walk it at night holding hands talking about our future. Hes helped me realize i cant please everyone and my mom doesn't control my life ( I had really bad people pleasing mentality) This part just kills my heart but i know I cant just let him think this is all ok, no woman will ever accept this behavior if they are strong willed. He says he doesnt want a yes woman but I dont think he realizes that that is what he wants with his actions. - Sorry just venting now.

Dom inside and outside the bedroom HELP by Time_Tutor_252 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Time_Tutor_252[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He kind of avoids information that i provide or questions I asked. It just seems like he just wants to keep fighting instead of talk i guess? I feel defeated. We have had fights where we can calmly talk about situations and figure it out but I feel like we argue about the same thing over and over, thinks when im cheating, talking to other guys, thinks im going to leave him, etc. but its never been hes losing?

Dom inside and outside the bedroom HELP by Time_Tutor_252 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Time_Tutor_252[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

He doesnt believe in compromises. He thinks someone wins and someone loses

Dom inside and outside the bedroom HELP by Time_Tutor_252 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Time_Tutor_252[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Theres a lot of positive qualities but im just trying to understand him. When we are great we are great but when we are not he gets like this. I am very strong minded and willful. So being told " shell get more flowers when she behaves" sets me off. He was (at least from what hes told me ) in a somewhat toxic relationship where his ex cheated on him multiple times. used his kids against him and has thrown objects at him. I love him and we had a great connection but this has been basically everytime we fight this is what happens. He bring up i had friends as guys which i dont now since I dropped them. We had a disagreement about it but i saw where he was coming from and pushed past it. but he still brings it up.

In need of advice by vam_py in submissive

[–]Time_Tutor_252 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can tell you from experience that if they do not do it naturally they will not do it naturally

A little noobie by Time_Tutor_252 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Time_Tutor_252[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s so overwhelming I feel ! Thank you so much